re: People 35+ and never married

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If all you think women bring to the table is youth and beauty, you're meeting the wrong women.

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rocket is the least secure person on the internet

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ya, all my married friends honestly just appear to be dead inside.

the stress of raising kids has also aged them terribly.

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I'm more of a "to each his own" type of guy. I'm happily married for nearly a decade with one kid and another on the way, and while I'm very happy, I applaud people for not getting married and having kids if they don't want to.

Marriage and kids are like college - it's not for everyone, and not partaking doesn't make one a failure by any stretch.

I feel like there's this pressure associated with marriage being a societal norm, and it tends to weigh heavily on people when they reach a certain age. My wife and I have mentioned to one another that from what we see with people our age, there seems to be a prevailing feeling nowadays of "well, I'm at this stage of my life and I'm dating this person, I guess this is who I have to marry." We've seen several people we know have that mentality, and a few inevitable divorces happen because of it.

I'm also of the opinion that there's too much emphasis placed on the "dream wedding" now, which sort of gives a false perception of fairytaleism. Marriage isn't about having a party and having a great time all the time with a large group of people where you're in the spotlight, it's about enjoying each other's company when you're alone and no one is around (along the lines of the "do the right thing when no one is looking" mantra). It's not about having fun on vacation in some faraway tropical destination, it's about having fun on a Tuesday night when it's raining and there's nothing to do.

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I'm anti-bagagge

Don't need a baby daddy or ex husband

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all you think women bring to the table is youth and beauty, you're meeting the wrong women. 

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No. It's not ALL they offer..I love women for all they bring to the table, even the crazy.

But the overriding trait is thier youth/beauty.

This is also why they spend thousands every year on makeup to appear younger - they are well aware of the dynamics.

This is also why sugar daddy sites are immensely popular... thousands if rich, married dudes cheating on thier wives with 18-22 year old college girls..

That'd be me, so if anything, my preferred lifestyle is at least going to be an honest one..

If you ever get hitched, can i tag along with the bachelor party and possibly get an invite to the wedding ceremony?

I'm 28 married(3 years) and have my first child on the way. Sure I miss being able to just go fishing whenever I want but I wouldn't trade my wife and this soon to be born baby for anything. Hell yea its stressful at times but I'm blessed to have a wife that is less crazy than most and understands that I'm going fishing/hunting and I'm gonna watch football all day on Saturdays. The key to a good marriage IMO is still having your own hobbies and friends.

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It's just funny people think not married = lonely and sexless

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Well it goes wothout saying that the joys of married love don't stop at sex and freedom from loneliness.

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Coming home to the same person, day after day, for years on end, absolutely sounds like a living hell to me

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"and the lady beside me is the one I have chosen to walk through my life like a coat from the cold"

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People 35+ and never married

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I'm 28 married(3 years) and have my first child on the way.

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then this thread is not for you

Or when the turkey neck is a completely different shade than the face... yack