re: Negotiating w/SO to move

Posted by CelticDog

Member since Apr 2015

42867 posts

Posted on 12/19/16 at 9:21 pm to PairofDucks

go to internet. read CNVC.com

that's about negotiations.

SO does not move across great distances. WIVES move. SO shed tears. wave bye.

and where the heck in Ky?
Its nearly 600 miles from Pikeville to the Mississippi.

western KY has decent weather. You can go a 100 miles east and 50 miles north and find serious winters.

Posted by Aspercel

Member since Jan 2009

117554 posts

Posted on 12/19/16 at 9:22 pm to PairofDucks

Well...

I'm probably from one of those not equal parts of the state

Posted by AUbagman

Member since Jun 2014

11181 posts

Posted on 12/19/16 at 9:23 pm to hottub

Tell her you're moving. If she wants to join you, cool. If not, no big deal either. The attitude of indifference gets them every time. Definitely don't ask for permission to better yourself.

Posted by PairofDucks

Member since Jul 2016

4992 posts

Posted on 12/19/16 at 9:24 pm to Aspercel

You're awesome people, though.

Posted by crispyUGA

Upstate SC

Member since Feb 2011

16272 posts

Posted on 12/19/16 at 9:25 pm to hottub

A pretty woman makes a man look small, and very often causes his downfall. As soon as he marries her then she will start, to do the things that break his heart. But if you make an ugly woman your wife, you'll be happy for the rest of your life. An ugly cooks her meals on time, she'll always give you peace of mind. If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife. So from my personal point of view, get an ugly girl to marry you.

Posted by Peregrine Laziosi

Laplace

Member since Nov 2016

627 posts

Posted on 12/19/16 at 9:32 pm to CoachChappy

quote:
Get a new SO; go live a happy life

This!

If she ain't the one, then make yourself happy!

Posted by cfa626

Member since Apr 2016

561 posts

Posted on 12/19/16 at 9:35 pm to hottub

Don't let her hold you back. Find someone who is ambitious and supports you. Better to be single than divorced. You work hard, then you're going to have great opportunities. Get what you want out of life.

Posted by baseballmind1212

Missouri City

Member since Feb 2011

3414 posts

Posted on 12/19/16 at 10:19 pm to hottub

I recently had to do this with my SO.
The conversation went like this...

Me: Hey, I got a job in Houston.

SO: wow I don't know if I want to pick up and move.

Me: If you come with me, you only have to work part time. If you don't come with me we are breaking up.

SO: When do we leave?

Posted by lsuwontonwrap

Member since Aug 2012

34147 posts

Posted on 12/19/16 at 10:29 pm to hottub

You expect her to pack up and move and you aren't married/engaged? Good luck with that. And who the hell would want to live in Kentucky or Florida?

Posted by Florida225

Baton Rouge

Member since Oct 2008

2877 posts

Posted on 12/19/16 at 10:37 pm to hottub

I was in the same situation in early 2014.

I was going to make 4x more money in Iowa rather the crap job I had in port Allen.

She left me, worked for 27 months. literally the best thing that's ever happened to me.

Posted by Spankum

The Sip

Member since Jan 2007

63270 posts

Posted on 12/19/16 at 10:40 pm to hottub

tread lightly here, man...if you move a woman to an area that she doesn't like, she can make your life pretty damn miserable...

Posted by glassman

Next to the beer taps at Finn's

Member since Oct 2008

118599 posts

Posted on 12/19/16 at 10:47 pm to hottub

quote:
SO is no onboard with a move, friends, family, etc.

She isn't the one, move on. She should be willing to move to Siberia if she was the one.

Posted by lsunurse

Member since Dec 2005

129146 posts

Posted on 12/19/16 at 11:05 pm to hottub

quote:
convince her that move is the best for us

Sounds like the move is best for YOU but not for her

Posted by StringedInstruments

Member since Oct 2013

21068 posts

Posted on 12/20/16 at 8:42 am to lsunurse

quote:

Sounds like the move is best for YOU but not for her

And if they're married, he has to consider her life dreams as well.

To the OP:

Outside of your career bump, you have to be able to sell the move to her. She probably only barely cares about you being happy in your job. Work to live not live to work kinda thing.

You mentioned South Florida. Does she like the beach? Being close to Disney World and Busch Gardens? Driving distance to Miami? Vacation area that your extended families will want to come to?

Sell her on it for her sake and not your own.

This post was edited on 12/20/16 at 8:43 am

Posted by Tigeralum2008

Yankees Fan

Member since Apr 2012

17753 posts

Posted on 12/20/16 at 8:50 am to StringedInstruments

Bring her to both locations for a weekend. Show her the world outside of LA and hopefully she'll realize the benefits.

Friends can be made anywhere, family is the thing that may hold her back. Show her flights and make legitimate commitments to visit for holidays

Posted by mikelbr

Baton Rouge

Member since Apr 2008

49099 posts

Posted on 12/20/16 at 8:51 am to Tigeralum2008

OP, Two things:

1. frick Bitches
2. Get Money

Posted by Boudreaux35

Member since Sep 2007

22281 posts

Posted on 12/20/16 at 8:52 am to 4LSU2

quote:
Are you married to her? It doesn't sound like it. She most likely is not moving without being married.

THIS! Sounds like she's pulling out the trump card. Looks like you buy the ring or move without her.

Posted by Tortious

ATX

Member since Nov 2010

5768 posts

Posted on 12/20/16 at 8:57 am to 4LSU2

quote:
She most likely is not moving without being married.

Would've saved me a lot of heartache if that were true. Told the ex she could move if she found a job because we weren't there as a couple so I moved without her. Bitch came to visit and found a job the first day.