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re: My kids fight all the time. Am I overreacting?
Posted on 2/8/23 at 7:24 pm to Eli Goldfinger
Posted on 2/8/23 at 7:24 pm to Eli Goldfinger
Normal behavior for siblings. Play it cool and downplay it and they will learn from your reactions
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Posted on 2/8/23 at 7:30 pm to Eli Goldfinger
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My son gets bored and starts purposely trying to aggravate anyone who will take the bait. It’s almost always his sister who breaks first and they explode in a fit of arguing where neither of them is willing to back off…they both have to have the last word.
It sounds like you’re raising a couple of assholes. You need to get that shite under control before they hit their teenage years or you’re gonna have a bad time.
For the boy teach him that if he runs around instigating and antagonizing and generally being a dick someone with LESS self control is going to hand him his arse. He doesn’t need to be a pussy but he doesn’t need to run around being an obnoxious shite head.
As far as the girl goes you I would suggest you teach her that she doesn’t need to show up to every single little conflict. She’s going to want to be right all the time no matter what even if it makes no logical sense. It’s nature. They’re trying to exercise control in an environment in which they have little. Redirect their energy into something constructive or put the fear of god into them, and you need to do it before the hormones start flying. Conflict resolution is a learned skill and is also a sign of intelligence. I wouldn’t get to caught up in their academic achievements if they are unable to work on a team and they can’t cope with anything that doesn’t go their way. If you don’t teach them how to manage their feelings you’re setting them up for failure.
Posted on 2/8/23 at 7:40 pm to WoWyHi
quote:Kids respond to stimuli differently, so find out what works for them. If your son is the instigator, I would find a way to push his button until he gets a clue.
Grow some balls and beat your son's arse. If they're fighting for hours and he instigates it like you said, deal with him.
I would:
- Declare mandatory silence in the car on the ride home unless they are answering questions by you.
- Make a house rule that they can't be in the same room unless summoned; any disputes on room privileges are to be settled by their liege, you.
- Any infractions will be punished by making them polish their liege's throne (clean the toilet).
If they're going to act stupid, then we'll have some silly rules to deal with it. Kids suck.
This post was edited on 2/8/23 at 7:41 pm
Posted on 2/8/23 at 7:45 pm to Eli Goldfinger
Sounds like lack of discipline. Start cracking some skulls.
Posted on 2/8/23 at 7:47 pm to Eli Goldfinger
quote:
Son 7 Daughter 10
same here and they absolutely hate each other
you’re not alone in this battle, my friend
Posted on 2/8/23 at 7:48 pm to Eli Goldfinger
My little brother and I didnt Get along at all until he was like 13. And now we have a great relationship.
I started My toast at his wedding with “Like most of you, when I first Met [redacted] I didn't Like him”
This is normal.
I started My toast at his wedding with “Like most of you, when I first Met [redacted] I didn't Like him”
This is normal.
Posted on 2/8/23 at 7:52 pm to Eli Goldfinger
When my daughter was six and my son was four I picked up from daycare. Close to my house they started hitting each other and crying. I made a left turn and pulled over by a cop. He said sir did you know you just ran a red light. Then he looked in my back seat to see all the commotion going on. Then he looked at me and said sir, have a good day and left.
Now that they are grown ups, they still aggravate each other, but will also do anything to help each other.
Don't get me started about being woke up early in the morning by the neighbor. They snuck outside and thought it would be fun to play with his sprinkler. Or paint my nails pink while I would take a nape.
They turned me gray early but kept me on my toes. Love them to death.
Now that they are grown ups, they still aggravate each other, but will also do anything to help each other.
Don't get me started about being woke up early in the morning by the neighbor. They snuck outside and thought it would be fun to play with his sprinkler. Or paint my nails pink while I would take a nape.
They turned me gray early but kept me on my toes. Love them to death.
Posted on 2/8/23 at 8:00 pm to thumperpait
I don’t mean this in an ugly way, but can’t you just shut this shite down by being a father? I fought like a savage with my siblings, but never around my father because he wouldn’t tolerate it. Be the patriarch and discipline your kids.
Posted on 2/8/23 at 8:12 pm to Eli Goldfinger
... my kids did this to me and it was endless ...
but know this --- they save these arguments up for your reaction ...
that's right --- you are their captive audience
It's all drama
What you need to do is to figure it out and make it to your advantage and make each incident a "learning moment"
If not, they will always be at each others throats ...
Towards the older high school years my kids figured to get around this by splitting legal hairs ...
It didn't work
I always won
I am damn proud of my kids
Posted on 2/8/23 at 8:37 pm to tigerinthebueche
quote:
don’t mean this in an ugly way, but can’t you just shut this shite down by being a father? I fought like a savage with my siblings, but never around my father because he wouldn’t tolerate it. Be the patriarch and discipline your kids.
All kids aren't the same. You can't judge people about raising the kids. But to answer your question here we go. Daughter only needed one lite swap on the rear, and would cry bloody murder and straighten out. You couldn't spank my son. Didn't work, just pissed him off more. Had to do time outs till he calmed down.
My dad was old school. The old leather strap it was. And the school principal used a big arse paddle. Only problem was after ten it didn't bother me at all. But I turned out fine. My kids turned out fine. Never been in jail. They work their butts off. And know how to say yes sir, yes ma'am. They aren't covered with tattoos or
piercings. They both moved from Florida to Louisiana to take care of me when I was paralyzed for six months untill I could take care of myself. So I think I am good on how I raised my kids. Have a good night ole baw.
Posted on 2/8/23 at 8:52 pm to Eli Goldfinger
I also have a 7 year old girl and 10 year old boy (also a 5 year old boy).
Yeah they fight all the fricking time.
Thing is one on one they’re all amazing. I wish I could have 3 only child’s
Yeah they fight all the fricking time.
Thing is one on one they’re all amazing. I wish I could have 3 only child’s
Posted on 2/8/23 at 8:54 pm to Eli Goldfinger
I make my girls sit on the couch and hold hands when they go ape shite on each other. They hate it. 
Posted on 2/8/23 at 8:58 pm to thumperpait
Posted on 2/8/23 at 9:01 pm to tigerinthebueche
Cheers my man.
Posted on 2/8/23 at 9:06 pm to St Augustine
quote:
also have a 7 year old girl and 10 year old boy (also a 5 year old boy).
Yeah they fight all the fricking time.
Thing is one on one they’re all amazing. I wish I could have 3 only child’s
My son is a year and a half younger. Even though they fought all the time, they stood up for each other at school. If someone picked on my daughter, my son would give them hell no matter how many or how old the other kid was. Boy don't have any backup in him.
Posted on 2/8/23 at 9:23 pm to greenbean
quote:He is soft. He punished them and it didn't work.
You're too soft.
I've got three kids separated by 3 and 5 years. They don't fight. Why? Because I don't tolerate it for a second.
This is not difficult. Those kids are 7 and 10 years old. You don't even have to beat their asses, you just have to be consistent and strict.
Posted on 2/8/23 at 9:25 pm to thumperpait
Lots of kids need whipping, but parents just can’t do it. I’m thinking of starting a side hustle of a Craigslist business. For $100, I will come to your house and tear their arse up with a leather belt. Masked and anonymous to avoid legal issues, and cash in advance required.
Posted on 2/8/23 at 9:29 pm to Eli Goldfinger
My son and daughter (7 and 5) fight like mortal enemies but refuse to separate. My reactionary self wants to lock them in separate rooms until they move out. My forward thinking self realizes they will probably be thick as thieves when they grow up.
I feel your pain, but I think you're ok unless we're talking violence (and even then, maybe still ok)
I feel your pain, but I think you're ok unless we're talking violence (and even then, maybe still ok
)Posted on 2/8/23 at 9:31 pm to Eli Goldfinger
My kids are also three years apart and alternate between fighting and ignoring each other.
Posted on 2/8/23 at 9:40 pm to Twenty 49
quote:
I’m thinking of starting a side hustle of a Craigslist business. For $100, I will come to your house and tear their arse up with a leather belt. Masked and anonymous to avoid legal issues, and cash in advance required.
If you move to college station and take adult clientele you'll be a millionaire in a year.
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