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Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:30 am to GEAUXmedic
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if I was younger I might be vindictive and immature enough to make a rash decision, but I have to stay mature and focused.
If you’re not talking to a lawyer then you are being immature and rash. Even if you want to stay with this woman, talk to a lawyer.
Talk to a lawyer.
Talk to a lawyer.
TALK
TO
A
LAWYER!
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:30 am to GEAUXmedic
quote:Dude you need to leave. Do what you can for the little girl but you have to get out.
Our daughter comes first. I get everything y'all are saying, if I was younger I might be vindictive and immature enough to make a rash decision, but I have to stay mature and focused.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:30 am to GEAUXmedic
Forgiving her doesn't mean you have to stay with her. This is a tough situation man and I really feel for you.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:30 am to loweralabamatrojan
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do not become petty or jealous or angry. The best revenge is a life well lived. Keep your head high and don't let her upset you. She'll get off on it. Be cordial and polite. Treat her like a nice stranger. Don't ever shite talk her to your daughter. Nothing will ruin your ex's life more than you staying respectful, being the bigger man, and completely moving on with your life. She'll get no vindication or justification
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Well said, sir.
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yes that was, I followed the same advice.
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do not become petty or jealous or angry. The best revenge is a life well lived. Keep your head high and don't let her upset you. She'll get off on it. Be cordial and polite. Treat her like a nice stranger. Don't ever shite talk her to your daughter. Nothing will ruin your ex's life more than you staying respectful, being the bigger man, and completely moving on with your life. She'll get no vindication or justification
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Well said, sir.
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yes that was, I followed the same advice.
This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 6:32 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:31 am to GEAUXmedic
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fiancee cheated on me
Drop her like a hot potato. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:32 am to GEAUXmedic
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went through hell and back and won custody of my son.
Your biological son? Dude just be a father to him.
This sucks, and it's hard to hear, but give the girl back to the mom and cut them both out of your life forever. The vindictive mother is going to play the "he's not your real dad card" alot in that girl's life. It's what's best for both of you.
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This situation is looking more amicable on that front,
Stop falling for that frickin trap
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:32 am to SlapahoTribe
Why does he need a lawyer?
They arent married
They have no children together
They arent married
They have no children together
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:32 am to GEAUXmedic
I just want to say that you are viewing the situation with a lot more maturity than most of the posters in this thread.
She made a terrible decision and mistake but it doesn't make you want to destroy her. That makes you a shitty person too, if you do that.
She made a terrible decision and mistake but it doesn't make you want to destroy her. That makes you a shitty person too, if you do that.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:33 am to lsunurse
quote:And then the Mom cheats on the next victim and it’s a revolving door of “dads” for the kid and we fast forward 20 years and the kid can’t trust men.
The kid is only a toddler. I’m sure the mom will have no problem lining up another guy to play father to her. She’s already suckered the OP into that role.
Society, you a muthafricka!
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:33 am to GEAUXmedic
she is your daughter because the father said he didn't want anything to do with baby mama and baby; and you were there the moment she was born and fell in love with her and have cared for her as your daughter...
sadly, does not make her your daughter...her daddy could at anytime reclaim rights even though your name is on the birth cert. not likely but it could happen. you need to rectify the matter by legal adoption ASAP. Marry the cheater, adopt the baby and then divorce her and get shared custody. there may be no other way. but don't for one minute think all is well and your fiance' won't cheat on you again and ya'll live like june and ward cleaver. ain't gonna happen.
sadly, does not make her your daughter...her daddy could at anytime reclaim rights even though your name is on the birth cert. not likely but it could happen. you need to rectify the matter by legal adoption ASAP. Marry the cheater, adopt the baby and then divorce her and get shared custody. there may be no other way. but don't for one minute think all is well and your fiance' won't cheat on you again and ya'll live like june and ward cleaver. ain't gonna happen.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:33 am to GEAUXmedic
She will never change and there will always be "someone else".
It's what whores do
And once a whore always a whore so move on
It's what whores do
And once a whore always a whore so move on
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:33 am to GEAUXmedic
Like an early poster said, be thankful you found out early. Not the place to go into details, but I didn’t and it was an awful experience. I know exactly what you’re feeling man. You have to keep moving forward. Focus on your daughter. My son was 5 when I found out. I refocused all my efforts on being the best dad I could be. That both helped my relationship with my son and helped me move on.
If you’re thinking of staying with her, you need to know some things. I tried to do the same. Unless you’re one of those truly rare people, it’s impossible to forget and not be affected. Every time she takes a phone call outside, every time she reads a text message, hell, every time she leaves the house without you there’s going to be a small twinge in your gut wondering. Is that him? Someone else? Who is that? And that’s a miserable life man.
The best piece of advice I ever got is as follows. Forgiveness is for you. It’s to say she wronged you and did terrible things but you’re not going to let the anger and sadness affect you anymore. And to forgive is not to accept. Just because you forgive someone does not mean you have to stay in a toxic situation.
ETA: just read the part about the daughter. I’m not sure how the courts would work in this case, but definitely get an attorney involved. Even non married couples can enact a shared or joint custody plan field with the courts. I have a friend who did the same thing. Now, she’s not your biological child, but the courts are expanding their scope more from traditional family issues. It’s all about what is in the best interests of the child. And a good attorney will know how to spin that.
If you’re thinking of staying with her, you need to know some things. I tried to do the same. Unless you’re one of those truly rare people, it’s impossible to forget and not be affected. Every time she takes a phone call outside, every time she reads a text message, hell, every time she leaves the house without you there’s going to be a small twinge in your gut wondering. Is that him? Someone else? Who is that? And that’s a miserable life man.
The best piece of advice I ever got is as follows. Forgiveness is for you. It’s to say she wronged you and did terrible things but you’re not going to let the anger and sadness affect you anymore. And to forgive is not to accept. Just because you forgive someone does not mean you have to stay in a toxic situation.
ETA: just read the part about the daughter. I’m not sure how the courts would work in this case, but definitely get an attorney involved. Even non married couples can enact a shared or joint custody plan field with the courts. I have a friend who did the same thing. Now, she’s not your biological child, but the courts are expanding their scope more from traditional family issues. It’s all about what is in the best interests of the child. And a good attorney will know how to spin that.
This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 6:39 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:34 am to GEAUXmedic
From what you’ve told us it sounds like she isn’t very responsible and makes poor decisions. Probably immature also. Some will say “the heart wants what it wants...love just happens...love isn’t a choice...” That’s all complete bullshite. Love is absolutely a choice. This bitch has made one bad decision after another, and unless she’s very young, will continue to do so. After a certain age, people don’t change. It’s not your fault.
I’m going to disagree with the other posters...if you’ve been “Dad” to this baby girl and you truly love her, fight to stay in her life. It’s not the baby’s fault that the mom can’t get her shite together. Is ole girl a good mother?
I’m going to disagree with the other posters...if you’ve been “Dad” to this baby girl and you truly love her, fight to stay in her life. It’s not the baby’s fault that the mom can’t get her shite together. Is ole girl a good mother?
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:34 am to Croacka
We aren’t saying to destroy her.
But he needs to do what is best for him and his biological son at this point.
Which is move out and move on.
But he needs to do what is best for him and his biological son at this point.
Which is move out and move on.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:34 am to Croacka
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She made a terrible decision and mistake but it doesn't make you want to destroy her.
He doesnt need to destroy her
Just leave her and her kid
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:34 am to GEAUXmedic
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especially when there is a child involved.
It's not your kid and she's not your wife.
This is hard to hear: but you're just some dude living in their life for a couple year.
Leave.
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but no one deserves to have everything taken from them, no matter how much she has taken from me/our family. I forgave her for me, and I'll be fair to her, I'll be fair and amicable, and hope she decides to do the same as she has indicated.
Please for the love of all things holy do not agree to an child support arrangement of any kind with this psycho, gp request a paternity test and have your name removed from the birth certificate and move on with your life.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:35 am to kywildcatfanone
quote:Parents need to tell their children about this before leaving the nest. Should be mandatory for Parenting 101.
There are many selfish people out there.
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Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:35 am to Tyga Woods
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Is ole girl a good mother?
If she’s leaving the baby to go frick other guys, no.
I’m sorry, medic. This sucks.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:36 am to Cosmo
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Why does he need a lawyer?
They arent married
They have no children together
Because when this inevitably goes to shite, and there’s a million ways it can, he’s wanting to try to stay in the daughter’s life.
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