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re: My fiancee cheated on me.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:36 am to GEAUXmedic
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:36 am to GEAUXmedic
I know that pain, and I feel for you. When you try to be a good spouse/SO and honor your commitment, then the other person feels it okay to be a scuzzball, it is devastating. Just know that you are not a failure. The other person is. Take care of you and your daughter. 
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Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:36 am to Cosmo
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Just leave her and her kid
Well that will only punish the kid, who thinks it's her dad and he just disappears out of the blue
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:37 am to lsunurse
A person cheating on a partner is one thing
A person cheating when a family unit is involved is a whole other thing
A person cheating when a family unit is involved is a whole other thing
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:38 am to GEAUXmedic
Once a cheater always a cheater. End it now and do what you need to to get custody of your daughter. Once y'all are living in separate homes, she will be putting your daughter in bad situations. Its all about your daughter now and you have to do what needs to be done to protect her.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:38 am to 9Fiddy
When my ex cheated on me, it beat be down for a while. But it occurred to me that you can't be on "defense" forever, it just wears you down. So I went on "offense" and found that she was indeed cheating again. And with good evidence. If you're having trouble finding good justification for leaving, go on offense and you'll come away satisfied. There's a few things you can do, and you'll get the "real" answers.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:39 am to GEAUXmedic
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Our daughter comes first. I
Stop lieing to yourself. It's not yalls daughter. It's not your daughter. You've only been in these other people's family's lives for a couple years. Get out now. And move on.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:40 am to GEAUXmedic
The best thing now is to make good decisions for your daughter. The answers won't always be apparent or easy but you'll get through this. I've got a beer waiting for you if you are ever my way. You know where I'm at.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:40 am to fr33manator
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fr33manator
Keep speaking the truth. I hope he listens.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:41 am to Breesus
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Stop lieing to yourself. It's not yalls daughter. It's not your daughter. You've only been in these other people's family's lives for a couple years. Get out now. And move on.
Is it not his biological daughter?
Edit: just read, dude leave. Take care of you and your son.
This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 6:43 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:41 am to Breesus
quote:GET OOOUUUT
Get out now. And move on.
RUN TO THE CHOPPA!!!!
I don't do a good Arnold. : /
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:42 am to TH03
Nope.
He dated a chick that was already pregnant by another guy that wanted nothing to do with rage baby.
OP barely knows the chick and moves her in AND puts his name on the birth certificate as the father. But never officially adopts the child.
Child is now a toddler and the chick a cheating whore
He dated a chick that was already pregnant by another guy that wanted nothing to do with rage baby.
OP barely knows the chick and moves her in AND puts his name on the birth certificate as the father. But never officially adopts the child.
Child is now a toddler and the chick a cheating whore
This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 6:44 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:43 am to TH03
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Is it not his biological daughter?
Chick was pregnant when they met.
I don’t agree with those saying to cut out the daughter. This is not her fault. Medic chose to take the father role, and loves her like his own.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:43 am to Breesus
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It's not yalls daughter
If he’s been there since day one...she kinda is his daughter. Legally, he could probably walk away without having to fork over money. But if this little girl believes he’s her daddy and loves him, and he loves her, he should try to stay in her life. frick the cheating bitch, but don’t punish the little girl.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:43 am to Cosmo
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couldnt in a million years imagine dating a pregnant chick
And then writing your name on her bastards birth certificate after only knowing her a couple months and then proposing to her after a couple years and then fighting to keep them both when you already have your own biological son from another woman
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:44 am to lsunurse
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He dated a chick that was already pregnant by another guy that wanted nothing to do with rage baby.
OP barely knows the chick and moves her in AND puts his name on the birth certificate as the father. But never officially adopts the child.
So why does the OP think that we can stop the cycle of bad decisions now?
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:45 am to TH03
No she’s not. But I’m still leaning on the side of what happens to the daughter if he just bails. I’ve seen what happened to my son and that was just a divorce. If he disappeared it would be really rough.
And yes I know kids are resilient. But having actually lived the situation, and in a court battle now for full parental control of my son, I have a different perspective on what this can do to a child.
ETA: If the child is still a toddler, he may have an out here. I know he probably loves her more than anything but toddler’s long term memory systems haven’t developed so the damage is mitigated if at all.
And yes I know kids are resilient. But having actually lived the situation, and in a court battle now for full parental control of my son, I have a different perspective on what this can do to a child.
ETA: If the child is still a toddler, he may have an out here. I know he probably loves her more than anything but toddler’s long term memory systems haven’t developed so the damage is mitigated if at all.
This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 6:47 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:45 am to lsunurse
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OP barely knows the chick and moves her in AND puts his name on the birth certificate as the father. But never officially adopts the child
What the frick?
Is he on the hook for child support now?
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:45 am to Breesus
Wonder how old the son is?
Hope the relationship is good there. I would hate it if the son feels less attention from the OP and feels more resentment when he gets older and realizes that’s not even his half sister his dad was adamantly fighting for.
Hope the relationship is good there. I would hate it if the son feels less attention from the OP and feels more resentment when he gets older and realizes that’s not even his half sister his dad was adamantly fighting for.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:45 am to lsunurse
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puts his name on the birth certificate as the father.
once you do that, there is no need to do this
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never officially adopts the child
Posted on 11/17/17 at 6:46 am to Evil Little Thing
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Medic chose to take the father role, and loves her like his own.
Yeah but what was his thank you? He took a chance and tried to man up for a woman he trusted and a kid who needed a father and got the shaft.
As much as it hurts, he has only 2 responsibilities that he needs to devote his energy to: himself and his true flesh and blood son.
That woman is going to use his love for the daughter to completely ring him dry. It's harsh to say, but he's gotta start the process of moving on from that.
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