re: Millennial baws, how you hanging on?

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The saddest part is that my lifestyle when I’m not at work isn’t all that different from how I would live if I won the lottery and never had to work anymore. I guess I just can’t see another way to live, and my current life doesn’t satisfy me, while it barely manages to keep me alive.

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That’s brutal and I use to think just like that. I don’t know, I hate to tell people to get on pills but talking to someone and getting on antidepressants may benefit you. I assume you are fairly young but you sound like a man in midlife crisis almost.

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and what I am passionate about and actually good at (music) never seems to make any money

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Sounds bad but I wouldn't focus attention on that if it takes away from your career.

My brother is a very good musician. Has had record deals, a few albums, toured all of Europe doing shows and festivals, has made plenty of music for video game companies, and still has to have a regular job to live. Music is a pipe dream or lottery so to speak as a flourishing career. Guy he partnered with is in the same boat. Has to have a steady job. Hell, the other friend joined Nine Inch Nails on their tour for awhile and still has to work regular jobs. It's a taxing industry

I tried pills back in 2021. Whatever cocktail they put me on didn’t really work. They tried to get rid of my anxiety and it just made me give no f$&ks about anything. Like imagine a depressed version of the post-hypnosis Office Space guy. Just literally couldn’t be bothered to do the barest of minimal things I didn’t want to do because f$&k it. When I got off the meds, I started noticing how many physical side effects were from the pills.

I went back to trying to use behavioral therapy to fix problems which helped to a point, but ain’t nothing anywhere near fixed. I’m a great deal better off at managing my mental health than I was 4 years ago, but it’s still a problem. No amount of meds can give you a purpose. They can just make you feel a little less miserable about your current situation so you can have enough will power to start making changes. I’ve been making changes on my own for a long time now. Maybe I am primed to bounce back, and everything that I am struggling with is just temporary, but it sure doesn’t feel that way in the moment.

I’ve basically been in a mid life crisis for the last 5 years since I found out I couldn’t have kids and my wife left me to marry someone else. I just wish I had the income to work through it with red convertibles and bottle blondes instead of top ramen and loneliness. I stick with music because it’s the only hobby keeping me social and it’s the only goodish part of my life I got to keep in the divorce. And other than trauma dumping anonymously in a b!tch thread like this, it’s my only real positive outlet for my negative emotions. Everywhere else, as a man, opening up or even complaining a little diminishes your status, causes people to lose respect for you, and your vulnerabilities are weaponized against you. But do it on stage, and they cheer and sing along.

This baw baws!

Comgrats, my dude! I’m glad to hear someone is making it!

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Not saying you’re a liar, but if you joined the military at 18 right out of high school you’re saying that you served at what was for sure a low paying wage, got out, got a job, paid off two cars, and put 20% down on your dream house all with 10 years of working assuming no further education occupying your time.

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It’s not far fetched. In the military you’re housed and fed and clothed. Even at around base soldier pay you could save up 100k in 4 years.

Late 30's own a home in LA, but live out of state. Have increased my income substantially over the last 6-7 years when i decided what I was doing at the time wasnt enough..

But it took hard work. I put myself in uncomfortable situations not shying away from opportunities to upgrade my career, and busted my arse going to grad school while working full time.

It's paid off but it wasn't fun.

Dang you had a wife already

No fair stop dabbing on us true millenials who are struggling

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I’m 32 and we own our house outright. No mortgage. 5 br 3 bath. Bass boat, ski boat, 2021 Grand Cherokee Summit Reserve, 2019 GMC Sierra x31. All paid off except the ski boat.

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Nice! I love my Sierra. Curious as to what kind of ski boat you have? We have a wake boat

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A guy I work with delivered GD pizzas to get out of credit card debt after his divorce.

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Mikel?

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A guy I work with delivered GD pizzas to get out of credit card debt after his divorce.

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I’ve thought about doing so in addition to my other side hustles. The main reason I haven’t done so is I’m afraid to put more unnecessary mileage on my car which is already up there. Making an extra couple hundred bucks a week wouldn’t help much if my car breaks down sooner and has to be replaced.