Loved one with diagnosed mental issues

It depends greatly on the issue. Borderline personality disorder? You’re in for a world of pain. Anxiety? There’s hope.

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mental issues

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All women are crazy

All millennials are lazy and crazy

That's it

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baby boomers suck.

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No we don't......we just fricked up a lot of stuff in the name of inclusiveness and diversity while being neither

Get them help no matter what. Even that doesn't help all the time. Mental illness is a bitch and each person that has it, I pray for them.

My son fought it from the age of around 13, Bipolar. We did whatever it took to help him and get him treated. He took his life this pass Aug. In his note, he wrote that it was nobodies fault. Said he could not put up with the pain anymore. OP, you don't know how hard it was for me to write this

Oh, my son was 37.

I’m sorry to hear that. BPD is hard to diagnose, especially if the person isn’t being honest with the doctor regarding their behavior. It’s the most frustrating mental issue I’ve ever dealt with in a loved one. And has a pretty bleak treatment/recovery outlook.

If you plan to stay with this person, get some counseling for yourself to learn how to set and enforce boundaries. You’ll lose your mind quickly if you don’t.

While nothing will “fix” the person, this book helped me understand better & gave some helpful advice on boundaries & deescalation of high emotion situations.

LINK

ETA I'm referring to borderline personality, not bipolar.

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fishfighter

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My heart goes out to you. My greatest fear is losing one of my kids. Godspeed.

BPD (whether diagnosed or not I don’t know but the signs were all there). Didn’t work out well; the lying and manipulation were extreme. Eventually got cheated on.

Other signs include eating disorders and body image issues, and suicidal thoughts or attempts as well so be cognizant of that.

Also—I experienced a lot of gaslighting and projection (accusing me of cheating and spying on me) when it was her that was not being faithful.

First thing I do is check the medicine cabinet. If any prescriptions exist, I bounce.

If they develop mental issues after you're together, still bounce. Life is too short to deal with all that.

It’s really simple:

How would you want someone to treat you?

Its very hard to watch someone you love very much struggle with a "mental disorder"* especially when they are, in all other aspects, intelligent. Very Hard. Seek help for all.

* can be said the same for substance abuse which is very often the symptom of the mental disorder