re: Let's talk about losing friends

“Everyone I know
Goes away
In the end” — NIN

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Let's say you've had a pretty heated argument with a friend that you won't see eye to eye on. How do you handle it from there? When both parties have said shite they normally would not have said.

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How do you handle it?

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Absent of following God’s word, usually pretty poorly, or at least not without some self righteous indignation mixed in, which is usually found in almost all disagreements that go unresolved and cause friendships to dissolve.


Pride is one ugly son of a gun, and it’s normally what keeps people from forgiving and letting go, and I think we all have to ask ourselves, especially as we age and come to the realization of how short life truly is, is this really worth losing friendship over?

In any case, even if you don’t become friends again, or hang out of whatever, I’d say the most important thing is to forgive and ask forgiveness while we have the opportunity to do so because you seriously DO NOT want to carry around that baggage, and you never know if you’re going to be given another chance to make it right in life.


Even when we think it’s in the past, it remains unresolved in our life and whether we’re cognizant of it or not, it is something that’s been left unresolved, and it’s just not worth it for either of you.

Where did you lose them? Send a search party for heavens sake.

I have a lot of acquaintances that I am friendly with but only 1 person I consider a good friend.
Problem is his wife asked me if I took the Covid shot and I told her no.She then proceeds to try and talk me into it.Then starts justifying to me why she took it.I just explained to her she should take it if she desires,I never tried o talk her out of it but I wasn’t taking it.She got really pissed off.
After,a,few weeks she seemed to get over her mad but then she got Covid twice and she has really acted like a horses arse since.Consequently,I rarely go to his house anymore,just if she’s not home.That’s been over 2 years.

I purged several Trump bashers from my life,blocked their phone numbers and haven’t spoken to hem in several years.

The best advice…

I just want to give you a hug, Falco

I got that movie reference.

Holy shite. Now I'm gripping the fingers on my left hand like I love them.

A prerequisite to a good friend is having a major dramatic disagreement at some point in your relationship, in my experience. I am lucky to have about 5 people I'd call close friends, going back decades, and we have all had significant grievances with each other at some point, but all still remain. I have yet to cut any of them off, and they have yet to cut me off.

I'm gonna need more details before I give advice

Make new ones. You lose friends for various reasons. Their fault/your fault. Doesnt really matter. Sometimes ylu grow apart. New people come into your life everyday. Some can be pretty cool. People clutch onto live long friends because they can be comfortable and safe with old friends.