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re: Leaving your house for holiday family gathering vs host the family gathering at your house
Posted on 3/29/21 at 2:34 pm to squid_hunt
Posted on 3/29/21 at 2:34 pm to squid_hunt
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If it's at their house, but you buy and do all the cooking, who gets the thanks and praise from all the guests?
Whoever stands around the person boiling the crawfish voicing their opinion on how it should be done...usually the same 4 or 5 guys everytime
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Posted on 3/29/21 at 2:37 pm to tgrbaitn08
For Family, we host almost every time, other wise it would not happen. Therefore, it goes like this...
"Hey, yall want to chip in on crawfish at our house? We will take care of everything else."
For friends, just ask them over and if they ask what to bring, either tell them nothing, or something small as some people get offended if you don't let them do something.
But, this after the fact crap is wrong.
"Hey, yall want to chip in on crawfish at our house? We will take care of everything else."
For friends, just ask them over and if they ask what to bring, either tell them nothing, or something small as some people get offended if you don't let them do something.
But, this after the fact crap is wrong.
Posted on 3/29/21 at 2:37 pm to Bayou_Tiger_225
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I'm genuinely surprised by the amount of people in this thread that wouldn't offer to pitch in for a family crawfish boil, or would be upset that a family member asked you to help pay for your share
If it’s clearly communicated up front when I’m invited, 100% no problem I will chip in.
If you invite me to a crawfish boil then hit me up for $50 when I get there (which has happened to me with my wife’s extended family), yeah I’m gonna be a little miffed.
Posted on 3/29/21 at 2:37 pm to Tigeralum2008
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We host and buy the ingredients. But that's for like burgers, turkey, or ham
I'd absolutely ask for guests to chip in some $ for crawfish
This. Doing this exact thing for Easter. It's understood, that if everyone wants crawfish for Easter, then we're all gonna chip in and split the cost. If people don't want to do that, then i'll buy a couple pork butts and smoke them. But, everyone has agreed to split the crawfish. Later in the year, when crawfish is $1.25/lb, i'm more willing to pay for the crawfish, but at $2.75-$3/lb, we're splitting.
Posted on 3/29/21 at 2:37 pm to HDAU
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I prefer to host, and if I host I am prepared to cover the cost. It is a bonus if someone offers to pitch in. On the flip side, every time I accept an invitation to go to someone else's house, the first thing I ask is what we can bring. I would much rather pay more than my share than feel the way you feel right now.
This x1000
well just got off the phone apparently we are splitting it 4 ways now...
but I still have to find the crawfish and bring them over. That means I have to order them, pick them up on Saturday, keep them on ice and alive and deliver them Sunday 
Posted on 3/29/21 at 2:38 pm to tgrbaitn08
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Whoever stands around the person boiling the crawfish voicing their opinion on how it should be done..
This can be it's own spin-off thread...but we can we say frick THESE PEOPLE. Not just boils but guys who deem themselves a Michelin chef. I have one buddy who has made some comment on every dish I have made at every party I hosted....I can see him ramping up, "Hey this is good...but ya know what you need to do next time???"
Last party I threw I made some Cuban slow roasted pork....I am Cuban, he is caucasian as frick.... I was waiting and sure enough...2 bites in" Hey man....next time you should....." I stopped him and was like...wait hold up, bruh....you gonna tell me how to make Cuban food???
Posted on 3/29/21 at 2:39 pm to mikelbr
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I'm responsible for going pick up(and bring home) our disabled cousin from whatever Baton Rouge housing project he's in at the moment. He use to live in Alamo Plaza. Now he's in the legit HOOD in NBR 70805.
maybe Skillet can pick him for you
Posted on 3/29/21 at 2:58 pm to tgrbaitn08
I do things differently. I send out invites for a crawfish boil at MY house. I'll furnish the house. Crawfish provided by others. I'll spring for the propane, pot, etc.
Posted on 3/29/21 at 2:59 pm to tgrbaitn08
Rather host and do not expect anyone to bring anything.
If they offer fine, if they don’t it’s OK.
If they offer fine, if they don’t it’s OK.
Posted on 3/29/21 at 3:01 pm to tgrbaitn08
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That means I have to order them, pick them up on Saturday, keep them on ice and alive and deliver them Sunday
Not to mention, you may have to ask others for their share if they don't offer up.
Posted on 3/29/21 at 3:07 pm to 0x15E
My house would be the perfect house for a family gathering. But I never volunteer it, because it’s just too much trouble. I like things how I like them. Luckily other family members of mine, and I am from a big Catholic family, have beautiful homes, so we always do it in those houses.
Posted on 3/29/21 at 3:08 pm to chillygentilly
quote:I 100% agree with all of this. My point was that it's polite to ask the host if there is anything you need to bring to help with the party/gathering. At that point if the host asked you to help chip in for crawfish, then I don't see what the big deal it. Especially considering how expensive crawfish is right now.
If it’s clearly communicated up front when I’m invited, 100% no problem I will chip in.
If you invite me to a crawfish boil then hit me up for $50 when I get there (which has happened to me with my wife’s extended family), yeah I’m gonna be a little miffed.
Now if you offer, and they say no, only to ask you later, then that's rude on their part. But at the same time, I think it's rude of you not to offer in the first place.
I may have misinterpreted the tone of the thread in the beginning, but it seemed like people were upset with being invited to a gathering and being asked to contribute up front. And in my mind, I don't see how you could be upset if offering to contribute is what you should be doing in the first place.
Posted on 3/29/21 at 3:18 pm to tgrbaitn08
We cook at our house one friday every four weeks. A set group of friends come. I buy and cook the main dish. They normally bring something, but that's what they do. Personally I hate it. I'd rather pay for everything at my house and cook it all myself. This would eliminate me having to make a single small dish when I go to their house.
As for family, we only do things with my wife's. I have pitched in for Thanksgiving and Christmas because it gets expensive. My MIL cooks. We have immediate family who will come by on a Friday night and watch me hand over cash to the inlaws for enough fish boxes for my four people of the 15 plus some extra and they won't pay shite. Same goes when we cook steaks.
My moms has been hinting at a crawfish boil for her family for quite a while now, several years. I know she wants me to do it, I just can't bring myself to do it. I genuinely enjoy entertaining for people I like, and vice versa.
As for family, we only do things with my wife's. I have pitched in for Thanksgiving and Christmas because it gets expensive. My MIL cooks. We have immediate family who will come by on a Friday night and watch me hand over cash to the inlaws for enough fish boxes for my four people of the 15 plus some extra and they won't pay shite. Same goes when we cook steaks.
My moms has been hinting at a crawfish boil for her family for quite a while now, several years. I know she wants me to do it, I just can't bring myself to do it. I genuinely enjoy entertaining for people I like, and vice versa.
Posted on 3/29/21 at 3:29 pm to tgrbaitn08
I'm the patriarch of my family, holidays are here. End of story.
Posted on 3/29/21 at 3:32 pm to tgrbaitn08
I thought offering to chip-in for crawfish was pretty standard. I don't mind being asked either, as I'm happy to do it because crawfish can cost a pretty penny.
You sound like an arse.
You sound like an arse.
Posted on 3/29/21 at 3:36 pm to TDsngumbo
quote:Pretty close to an average Arkansas text amongst siblings....
I got a text from my sister a few weeks ago saying, "My husband is doing crawfish for Good Friday. Can y'all come?".
You SURE you're a Tiger?
Posted on 3/29/21 at 3:38 pm to scott8811
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See now this is a tough one. I think I generally prefer to have people over. If I'm enjoying the company it's awesome...I generally like my house better than anyone elses. If people start to annoy me I have places I can go in my house to get away from it.
on the flip side, what usually ends up happening is we go to the in-laws house. I am usually ready to go about 4 hours before my wife is. I can drop hints I'm ready to go, but she always wants to linger and even when it is time leaving is a fricking ordeal. Her mother will drag it out by packing up food we never asked for as slow as possible, starting new side conversations, asking if we have anything, asking if we can pack something else up etc. BY the time we finally leave I'm beyond pissed. So I guess...give me host.
I've never identified with anyone more in my life...
Posted on 3/29/21 at 3:40 pm to bulltiger91
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I've never identified with anyone more in my life...
Judging by the responses this has gotten, I should start a support group
Posted on 3/29/21 at 4:03 pm to tgrbaitn08
Good Friday is a family party. Dollars are divided up.
If I invite people to my house for some random boil, i do not ask for money.
regarding where to have this.....i now prefer being home. I used to like being elsewhere so i could leave when i am ready to leave. at my house, since i no longer give a sh!t what others think about me, i can go pass out whenever i like.
If I invite people to my house for some random boil, i do not ask for money.
regarding where to have this.....i now prefer being home. I used to like being elsewhere so i could leave when i am ready to leave. at my house, since i no longer give a sh!t what others think about me, i can go pass out whenever i like.
Posted on 3/29/21 at 5:40 pm to tgrbaitn08
Don’t forget to charge them for the ice
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