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It's difficult watching dementia take over a family member.

Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:19 pm
Posted by BOSCEAUX
Where the Down Boys go.
Member since Mar 2008
53029 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:19 pm
We had Christmas with my Mother today. People in attendance are myself, wife, our two kids (14 & 19), my sister, nephew (14), my Grandmother (Dad's mom, Dad is deceased), and my son's girlfriend. I didn't realize how fast my grandmother was going down hill until today. She couldn't remember who's gift was who's. She bought the kids stuff she would have gotten them 7 years ago (I guess that's how she remembers them). After all the gifts are open she goes on this rant about events that never happened involving my Grandfather (deceased) getting hammered with a group of buddies and chasing women in the last years of his life. The man never drank in his life and could barely walk much less chase pussy in the last years of his life. It was depressing as frick and really eye opening how fast it can progress and come and go in the blink of an eye. Just last week I had a conversation with her and she seemed normal as hell. Oh well sorry to talk about downer shite on Christmas Eve. Just wondering if others have dealt with this.
Posted by FightinTigersDammit
Louisiana North
Member since Mar 2006
46425 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:22 pm to
My mother is suffering from dementia. It's difficult to deal with.
Posted by Mr Sausage
Cat Spring, Texas
Member since Oct 2011
15865 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:22 pm to
We had my grandfather pass away 2 days ago. My grandmother has dementia and she keeps asking where he is. It's incredibly sad and just absolutely sucks at Christmas. I feel your pain.
Posted by Napoleon
Kenna
Member since Dec 2007
74908 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:23 pm to
It gets really bad when they look for long dead parents or friends.

Or the hardest day of my life, they forget what poop is.
It's like dealing with a toddler in reverse.

Posted by East Coast Band
Member since Nov 2010
67020 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:24 pm to
Been down this road.
It's hard on everyone. Care takers of dementia sufferers deserve a special place in heaven.
Posted by Grooler
USA
Member since Dec 2009
488 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:25 pm to
Very sorry to hear, it’s a terrible disease. Just try to be there for her. You can do this by educating yourself as much as possible about the disease, so you know what to expect and how you can help her.
Posted by OldTigahFot
Drinkin' with the rocket scientists
Member since Jan 2012
10507 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:27 pm to
All of us who have experienced this situation in the past offer our prayers and support. I know this is a troubling time and I hope the Spirit of Christmas helps to lighten your burden and ease your heart. God Bless and have a blessed Christmas.
Posted by theenemy
Member since Oct 2006
13078 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:27 pm to
Frank Broyles book for taking care of family members with Alzheimers/dementia

Heard really good things about this book.
This post was edited on 12/24/17 at 8:30 pm
Posted by SamuelClemens
Earth
Member since Feb 2015
11727 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:32 pm to
My wife had a head injury 7 years ago in her early 30's. Two brain hemorrhages, 2 day coma, 8 days Neurotrauma ICU. She gets brain scans every two years and her neurologist told us two scans ago she has signs of what will become early onset dementia.

ETA: as a physician 15 years in practice, I can see the dementia doesn't bother the patient very much. It's the family members who suffer.
This post was edited on 12/24/17 at 8:34 pm
Posted by contraryman
Earth
Member since Dec 2007
2143 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:34 pm to
Prayers go out.

It is a mother f’er. It takes unbelievably thick skin as they become an infant again. They don’t mean anything and they cannot help their actions. The absolute worst.

Another good book is the long goodbye by Raymond Chandler.

Good luck.
Posted by FinebaumsHair
Monroe, La
Member since Aug 2017
3001 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:37 pm to
Watched my grandmother die from it a few years ago and the best thing to do is just be thankful they aren't laying in a hospital bed with tubes running everywhere and their mind being perfect.
Posted by BOSCEAUX
Where the Down Boys go.
Member since Mar 2008
53029 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:37 pm to
Thanks for the advice and kind words. Merry Christmas one and all.
Posted by bcoop199
Kansas City, MISSOURI
Member since Nov 2013
9291 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:39 pm to
Dealing with this now too. My dad's dementia has progressed insanely rapidly in the last month or so. He comes up with the craziest things. Thinks there are people making tunnels under the house, thinks he's living in a office building, thinks he's got a boxing match and asks where the boxing coach is. Also thinks my mom is cheating on him with all these guys..it's never ending paranoia.
Posted by R11
Member since Aug 2017
5675 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:41 pm to
Grandpa died few months ago of this and grandmother is currently in nursing home with it.

Sucks.
Getting old sucks.
Posted by hottub
Member since Dec 2012
3662 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:47 pm to
quote:

BOSCEAUX


Are you from Bosco?
Posted by offshoreangler
713, Texas
Member since Jun 2008
22587 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:47 pm to
Watching someone lose their mind/memory is the worst thing in the world.

I was care taker to my father many moons ago.

I made peace with the fact that the man I knew as my father was only there physically, not mentally. Helped make the progression, and eventual death easier to deal with as shitty as that sounds.

I do not wish that on my worst enemy.
This post was edited on 12/24/17 at 8:48 pm
Posted by biggsc
Member since Mar 2009
34777 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:48 pm to
Praying for them. They are healed in the name of Jesus
Posted by BOSCEAUX
Where the Down Boys go.
Member since Mar 2008
53029 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:49 pm to
quote:

Dealing with this now too. My dad's dementia has progressed insanely rapidly in the last month or so. He comes up with the craziest things. Thinks there are people making tunnels under the house, thinks he's living in a office building, thinks he's got a boxing match and asks where the boxing coach is. Also thinks my mom is cheating on him with all these guys..it's never ending paranoia.


Same here. Everybody is stealing from her. I’m going in her house and taking some of my Grandfather’s old clothes. Things that never existed are missing. I did read that when the paranoia hits they blame family members of taking shite from them. Her preacher talks shite about her behind her back about fricking around. Some of it makes me giggle, some makes me sad, and some makes me angry knowing my maw maw thinks I would steal from her.
Posted by R11
Member since Aug 2017
5675 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:50 pm to
Nah.
Cancer is much worse than mental delapidation.

I've seen both.
Posted by airfernando
Member since Oct 2015
15248 posts
Posted on 12/24/17 at 8:51 pm to
On a more positive note, I urge all of you to look into drinking Fuji water, which might have the ability to prevent dementia and other similar diseases by reducing aluminum from the brain and body. It's not conclusive but it's well worth the effort.
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