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re: Is it logical to get married and not have kids?
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:10 pm to KG6
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:10 pm to KG6
You have a small child. You're at the beginning phase of parenthood. If your son turns into an alcohol-abusing heroine addict who gets caught f-ing a goat, you'll still have those memories, but you may also have some regrets.
I don't wish that on anyone. But no one ever thinks their kid will turn into a degenerate. But those people exist.
I don't wish that on anyone. But no one ever thinks their kid will turn into a degenerate. But those people exist.
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Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:10 pm to Pecker
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Every parent is a proud parent who in no way ever regrets having had their child.
You knew a lot of people before who regretted having a child????
I mean every once in a while I feel bad that I regret that we got a dog, but that's about as close as it gets to regretting something like a child.
I think that's why it's hard for people with children to understand. Very rarely are there people with regrets. Yes, you may miss some aspect of your "old" life. But not enough that you regret anything (again for the most part. Super crappy parents obviously exist, but are hopefully considered rare)
This post was edited on 3/28/16 at 12:15 pm
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:12 pm to KG6
I can look at a lot of shitty people on this world who had terrible parents and probably regret being born. I can look at a lot of shitty people in this world and imagine that their parents regret having them. Or at least they should. I'm sure Ted Bundy's parents had a lot of regrets.
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:12 pm to KG6
I have no desire to be a parent. One of the most frustrating things I get told is, "well you never know until you are a parent." frick that I know I do not want to be a parent. Would I accept the responsibility if it happened, of course I am not a degenerate, but I prefer to spend my money on me and my time traveling. Kids are gross for the most part.
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:15 pm to KG6
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-The first time I saw my son walk
-When he runs to me when I pick him up from daycare
-Saturday mornings just laying on the couch watching cartoons with him
-Knowing one day I'll get to play baseball with him like my dad did with me
-Knowing that we are building a family that we can get together on Christmas 50 years from now
-etc.
Those are all great for you, in retrospect, that make you feel good about your decision. Not a single one of those is a good reason for someone else to have a kid.
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:15 pm to KG6
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Plenty of reasons to not want them, but that is a stupid reason.
For most people, the reason is simply "do not want them". The travel, loss of freedoms, etc. are just branched off from that. For a lot of parents, "do not want them" isn't a good enough answer. That is where the other reasons stem from.
Our of curiosity, which reasons do you consider valid?
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:19 pm to nugget
I always thought it would be cool to have a ton of kids. Be like Genghis Khan and have kids from tons of different women, and have your lineage be broad over time. I wouldnt want to have to take care of them though. Basically be an NBA or NFL player.
This post was edited on 3/28/16 at 12:20 pm
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:19 pm to KG6
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Something that came out of my dick will be able to read and do math one day.
Along with 7 billion other people in this world. Real impressive.
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:21 pm to DisplacedBuckeye
I'm merely saying that those things (to any person) are going to trump taking a trip (the main thing I'm saying is a stupid reason). I also said it was my opinion.
Are you close with family? Do you visit your parents and enjoy that time with them? That's something most people enjoy. Even if half of your family is degenerates as someone else stated. You still want to see them (for the most part).
And to the "quit telling me I'll understand when I have them" comments from others. It is true. Not a reason to have kids, but it is weird.
I'm not trying to say I'm right and you're wrong. I'm just trying to say my points are better than yours
. If that makes any sense at all. No one is right in this. I said that in my very first post on the subject. But not wanting kids is just a personal preference. Don't try and list some reasons why kids would mess up your life (in the sense of disturbing what you like to do). Because that would be inconsequential in the long run. It's purely because you don't have the desire. And that's perfectly fine.
Are you close with family? Do you visit your parents and enjoy that time with them? That's something most people enjoy. Even if half of your family is degenerates as someone else stated. You still want to see them (for the most part).
And to the "quit telling me I'll understand when I have them" comments from others. It is true. Not a reason to have kids, but it is weird.
I'm not trying to say I'm right and you're wrong. I'm just trying to say my points are better than yours
. If that makes any sense at all. No one is right in this. I said that in my very first post on the subject. But not wanting kids is just a personal preference. Don't try and list some reasons why kids would mess up your life (in the sense of disturbing what you like to do). Because that would be inconsequential in the long run. It's purely because you don't have the desire. And that's perfectly fine. Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:24 pm to KG6
You are having a very difficult time grasping the fact that not all people want to be like you.
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:25 pm to LouisianaLady
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which reasons do you consider valid?
Just not wanting them. If you don't ever want a kid, don't have one. But don't act as if it is your lifestyle that gets in the way. As if when you are 50 you will sit back and say, you know I could have had a kid, but we kept having these trips. That's stupid.
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You are having a very difficult time grasping the fact that not all people want to be like you
Not in the least. The original start of me even "defending" having children was in response to Rocket talking like he was more evolved somehow from his not having the desire to reproduce and the ability to take vacations was somehow a superpower he gained from this ability. Just as anyone can reproduce, so it's not impressive, it's not that impressive to travel. In fact, you can still do it with kids.
This post was edited on 3/28/16 at 12:29 pm
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:29 pm to KG6
I do love these threads
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:30 pm to rocket31
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Reproduction is not impressive.
In fact, it's the opposite and very primitive. All animals reproduce.
We are the only beings capable of thinking beyond our primal urges; it's only rational to utilize that biological advantage.
Funny you should say that because there are people in this thread who pick and choose when it is acceptable to follow nature.
Want to sleep around with as many people as possible? Perfectly fine, it's only natural.
Have no desire to actually reproduce whatsoever? Totally acceptable, we're civilized so we don't have to act like animals.
Want to sleep with people of the same sex? It's not the way God made us so it shouldn't be done.
A little consistency from some of you would be nice.
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:31 pm to KG6
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-The first time I saw my son walk
I prefer the first bottle of a fresh dank IPA I open from a 6er.
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-When he runs to me when I pick him up from daycare
My dog runs to me every single day and I get just as much joy out of it as you do with your son I bet.
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-Saturday mornings just laying on the couch watching cartoons with him
Saturday mornings waking up wondering what exactly happened the prior night and who is this brunette is equivalent to me.
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-Knowing one day I'll get to play baseball with him like my dad did with me
Knowing every single day I get to throw the baseball for my dog and he brings it back is equal to me.
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-Knowing that we are building a family that we can get together on Christmas 50 years from now
Great, giving gifts to celebrate Jesus' birth and listen to children bitch because they got the PS7 instead of the new PS8.
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:32 pm to thegreatboudini
Henry will never drop out of college and become a stripper either
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:34 pm to KG6
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But don't act as if it is your lifestyle that gets in the way.
You know those kids who were always at your house growing up? They'd call your parents "mom" and "dad". Ya know, that kid who always needs a ride home from practice because Mom is at work or off doing something else and can't get them. Then as you get a bit older, that friend is spending the night with you often because your parents don't really like you staying at their house. Why? Because when you spend the night at their house, their parents aren't home and there are no rules. This friend is allowed to do pretty much whatever he/she wants because creating rules and enforcing them would keep Mom/Dad from getting to go hang with their friends on the weekends.
That describes more than 50% of the friends my brother and I had growing up. Those were the kids whose parents' lifestyles got in the way of having kids, but they had them anyway. Sure, they "loved" their kids. The kids had clothes, toys, etc. But the parents simply had no desire give up their lifestyle to be an active participant in parenthood.
This post was edited on 3/28/16 at 12:37 pm
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:34 pm to thegreatboudini
I'm not telling you to have a kid at all.
But I've done every single thing you responded with both before and after having a kid. It isn't close to anything I stated having a kid
But I've done every single thing you responded with both before and after having a kid. It isn't close to anything I stated having a kid
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:38 pm to Salmon
Exactly. Henry will be climb 2000 ft of elevation on a mountain bike with me and love it.
My kid couldn't do that, then when he can get his own bike, it's probably not going to be a good enough bike because his friend Tommy from down the road got a more expensive one.
frick Tommy and frick my illegitimate made up kid.
Maybe one day I'll want children, but it is literally my biggest nightmare right now in my life.
My kid couldn't do that, then when he can get his own bike, it's probably not going to be a good enough bike because his friend Tommy from down the road got a more expensive one.
frick Tommy and frick my illegitimate made up kid.
Maybe one day I'll want children, but it is literally my biggest nightmare right now in my life.
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:39 pm to NaturalBeam
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I know many people who sure seem to regret having them.
You must hang out with some crappy people. I've never met anyone that regretted their children.
I would even consider myself somewhat selfish and my children are the absolute best thing that will come from my time on this earth.
Posted on 3/28/16 at 12:42 pm to KG6
You sound like the single moms who love telling FB how being a single mom is so hard but their little mistake is the best thing that ever happened to them. While living with her parents.
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