re: Is having a party "BYOB" somewhat rude?

I think if you're throwing an actual party and not just an informal get together, you don't ask people to BYOB (if you're over the age of 25). However, I also think it's rude to show up to a party without at least bringing a glass of wine or a 6-pack for the host. Unless it's a very formal party, in which case you don't BYOB.

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I mean I'm spending hundreds on food and stuff


So why not drop another $30 or $40 on a little beer?

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The problem is that its a slippery slope. what type of beer do you provide? Do you offer gluten free beer? What about wine? Red? White? Rose? Champagne? Do you make punch? Do you have liquor? What about mixers?

Being a host is not an obligation to provide something for every contingency. They should provide something though, and communicate it.

Also, I have been to a party where someone didn't show up with beer. I typically don't provide beer at my party b.c I know my friends will show up with it.

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BMOB is the only way to ensure I will drink what I prefer...

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this all day.

I will bring enough to share as well. but in two different ice chests. one for all and one for me

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The problem is that its a slippery slope. what type of beer do you provide? Do you offer gluten free beer? What about wine? Red? White? Rose? Champagne? Do you make punch? Do you have liquor? What about mixers?

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Well, this can be said in respect of anything that you happen to be providing. Take a gander at the F&D board and witness the bourbon/vodka/gin discussions. I just feel that is you're going all out, one or two choices of beer isn't really too much to ask.

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No. I supply champagne and vodka and whiskey for my New Years party, if you want beer or something else I just ask you bring it.

I mean I'm spending hundreds on food and stuff so the least you could do is bring a six pack.

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This. Hell, I prefer a BYOB party because I typically enjoy beer outside of the traditional domestics you'll see at a party.

Showing up with your own beer to a non-BYOB party is a bit awkward.

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Showing up with your own beer to a non-BYOB party is a bit awkward.

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Otherwise known as being a douche.

I don't drink beer so I don't know what people like.

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Otherwise known as being a douche.

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shhheeeiit, I never complain to more beer at the party.

plus its less the "douche" will drink of the provided beer.

some of you are so short sighted

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I just feel that is you're going all out, one or two choices of beer isn't really too much to ask.

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Well I would always make sure there is going to be beer there, but I don't think you are a shitty host if you don't provide it assuming you are providing around 4-6 drinks per person, and you tell them what will be there/not be there.

We host a few parties every year, and I always have a metric frickton of leftover beer (3 cases from our halloween party). But I will almost always go through the punch, and whiskey. Each friend group is probably different in that regard.

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Showing up with your own beer to a non-BYOB party is a bit awkward.

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I would feel awkward showing up to someone's house without something. Whether that is an appetizer, a bottle of wine/whiskey, or always a friend favorite - drugs.