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Posted on 2/16/23 at 11:23 am to wheelz007
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#1 You can AND WILL win custody of the kids. Here is what you need
This is truth.
Posted on 2/16/23 at 12:02 pm to DerkaDerka
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Posted on 2/16/23 at 12:02 pm to sidewalkside
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For some reason it seems to be the smoking hot ones are the crazy ones
That's why dudes stay with them. I tried for 2 years with a gorgeous blonde hair, blue-eyed CA girl. She made me question my own sanity. RUN.
Posted on 2/16/23 at 12:09 pm to RogerTheShrubber
It's a serious disorder but the severity of it varies greatly and more importantly it's entirely treatable with therapy and or meds. The serious problem is if the person is in denial and refusing to get care which is often the case. Ignore the anecdotal hyperbole of some of these morons.
Posted on 2/16/23 at 12:32 pm to Ten Bears
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One thing you will notice with someone who is BPD is that the goalposts are always moving. You can never really nail down what needs to be discussed, and if you do there will ALWAYS be something else. And in the end, you end up believing that you are the cause of everything. That's why it's a form of abuse.
Absolutely amazing how accurate this is
Well said
Posted on 2/16/23 at 12:45 pm to Sam Quint
We're all a little messed up in the head. Some more than others.
Posted on 2/16/23 at 12:47 pm to Sam Quint
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I agree with this, although I hate to call her my enemy. I am not at all confident that I would get custody at any rate. She doesnt have violent, loud, aggressive outbursts that I can document. She goes internal and quiet. It's all very subtle which is why I'm not, even still, convinced of whether or not she actually has it. Plus her family has deeper pockets than I could ever even dream going toe to toe with in court, and they would absolutely have her back.
Information is your friend. I went balls out with child development counsel and legal counsel. It costs monies but it is well worth it to regain some control and to know what your options are. You end up able to anticipate and prepare for their next nutty move. Take the time to start moving the situation into a better position should an end be required. Its a slow miserable process but you regain yourself as you go. While you are still on the inside you can adjust things, do as much as possible before a trigger is pulled and papers get signed. Once signed it's nearly impossible to make changes afterwards. Develop an extensive coparenting plan that removes ambiguity. Ambiguity is their tool and your enemy long term as a coparent. Mom's House, Dad's House is an excellent book to use as a benchmark in planning. Plan for the worst and make the worst less bad before it happens. Hope for the best. Good news is that you are absolutely not alone in this situation. There are tons and tons of dudes online going through it and sharing notes and plans.
Posted on 2/16/23 at 12:54 pm to Sam Quint
First thing I would do is do some therapy. If it is you, hopefully it would come out.
Posted on 2/16/23 at 1:02 pm to Sam Quint
Can you post the Reddit?
I’d like to read that
I’d like to read that
Posted on 2/16/23 at 1:44 pm to Sam Quint
If she has BPD, she's not an OT 10. That being said, BPD is a really difficult mental illness for those around them.
Posted on 2/16/23 at 2:36 pm to Sam Quint
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holy shite my wife does that all the time, are also things that my wife ACCUSES me of all the time.
I'm coming in wayyy late but this is a hallmark of BPD. Reference the Johnny Depp/Amber Heard recordings where she does this to him over and over and over.
People with BPD want the fight to keep going, that's the whole point. So they will say things like "I didn't hit you, you hit me." Things that are clearly not true, but it's all to get you to fight because that's all they want.
I grew up in a household where my mom and sibling had undiagnosed BPD and I have to say, as hard as it's been to move on from family, my life is so much better not having that shite around. Most importantly, my kid's life is better because I'm not constantly stressed, banging my head against the wall questioning my own sanity because of what my family was doing.
Apologies if all of this has been covered, I just had to get that out.
Posted on 2/16/23 at 2:38 pm to Sam Quint
OP: two books on this that were recommended to me when I was dating my ex with BPD
1. I hate you don’t leave me
2. Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
Your wife needs to be in heavy duty therapy but the problem is getting people with BPD to admit that they have a problem that requires therapy.
All I can say is good luck
Would have to be to put up with that shite.
1. I hate you don’t leave me
2. Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
Your wife needs to be in heavy duty therapy but the problem is getting people with BPD to admit that they have a problem that requires therapy.
All I can say is good luck
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She's an OT 10, trust me.
Would have to be to put up with that shite.
Posted on 2/16/23 at 2:39 pm to Paige
Thank you for posting that. I had never seen it before and it has good information.
Posted on 2/16/23 at 2:41 pm to thermal9221
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I still don’t fully understand bpd.
It’s an excuse for why a woman is an antisocial bitch and a pain in the arse
Posted on 2/16/23 at 2:58 pm to USMCguy121
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called gaslighting and manipulation.
This. I had a situation where she had me questioning if I was crazy.
I wasn’t.
Posted on 2/16/23 at 3:28 pm to terriblegreen
Whoever pointed out earlier the fact that it is easy to see once you are out of the relationship is spot on. The one that moves on and has a normal life is obviously not the crazy one. The one who continues to have issues with everyone (and can't maintain a relationship, job, has drug addictions, anger outbursts, etc) is.
Posted on 2/16/23 at 3:36 pm to Sam Quint
If you were Borderline or had any Cluster B Personality Disorder , you would not be here asking if you had BPD. Sounds like you are being subjected to the merry go round of Cluster B tactics… gas lighting, splitting, always the victim…. Run would be my suggestion. Be aware that most BPDs become incredibly vindictive during because of their abandonment issues. You leaving them is the ultimate betrayal and they will normally punish you for it.
Posted on 2/16/23 at 4:12 pm to cwil177
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