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re: I'm not crazy, you're crazy - Borderline Personality Disorder
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:16 pm to madamsquirrel
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:16 pm to madamsquirrel
quote:having to get a restraining order is trashy
Yes. Voicemails and text messages helped me obtain a restraining order in court.
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Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:17 pm to Ten Bears
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This post was edited on 5/26/24 at 2:50 am
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:19 pm to Sam Quint
I had Borderline Personality Disorder.
Signs and Symptoms:
Efforts to avoid real or perceived abandonment, such as plunging headfirst into relationships—or ending them just as quickly.
A pattern of intense and unstable relationships with family, friends, and loved ones.
A distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self.
Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating. Please note: If these behaviors happen mostly during times of elevated mood or energy, they may be symptoms of a mood disorder and not borderline personality disorder.
Self-harming behavior, such as cutting.
Recurring thoughts of suicidal behaviors or threats.
Intense and highly variable moods, with episodes lasting from a few hours to a few days.
Chronic feelings of emptiness.
Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger.
Feelings of dissociation, such as feeling cut off from oneself, observing oneself from outside one’s body, or feelings of unreality.
It has destroyed my relationship with my wife and daughter. However, I came to Christ. Jesus is the only way to overcome. Ephesians 6:12 talks about what we are actually warring against. There is clarity of mind and spirit when you submit to your creator. When you begin to have faith in a the God that breathes the breath of life. God loves us so much that his Son came and conquered. Let go and let God work. You will begin to see miracles worked in your life. Healing. Love. Joy. Praise to the Most High God.
Signs and Symptoms:
Efforts to avoid real or perceived abandonment, such as plunging headfirst into relationships—or ending them just as quickly.
A pattern of intense and unstable relationships with family, friends, and loved ones.
A distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self.
Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating. Please note: If these behaviors happen mostly during times of elevated mood or energy, they may be symptoms of a mood disorder and not borderline personality disorder.
Self-harming behavior, such as cutting.
Recurring thoughts of suicidal behaviors or threats.
Intense and highly variable moods, with episodes lasting from a few hours to a few days.
Chronic feelings of emptiness.
Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger.
Feelings of dissociation, such as feeling cut off from oneself, observing oneself from outside one’s body, or feelings of unreality.
It has destroyed my relationship with my wife and daughter. However, I came to Christ. Jesus is the only way to overcome. Ephesians 6:12 talks about what we are actually warring against. There is clarity of mind and spirit when you submit to your creator. When you begin to have faith in a the God that breathes the breath of life. God loves us so much that his Son came and conquered. Let go and let God work. You will begin to see miracles worked in your life. Healing. Love. Joy. Praise to the Most High God.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:19 pm to MC5601
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Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:19 pm to Sam Quint
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I have been married for twelve years, and it has been a very rocky twelve years.
quote:12 years ago, you and Rocky seemed very gay together.
Northshore Aggie
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:21 pm to SuperSaint
No kidding.
That is why people stay way too long in bad relationships. It is so embarrassing to say you made a mistake. And trashy to get a divorce. What if people think it is your fault? You didn't try hard enough? You gave up? All of that runs through your mind. And meanwhile the psycho is threatening you, showing up at your door, spreading rumors about you, etc. And the whole time you are just wondering why your life can't just be normal.
That is why people stay way too long in bad relationships. It is so embarrassing to say you made a mistake. And trashy to get a divorce. What if people think it is your fault? You didn't try hard enough? You gave up? All of that runs through your mind. And meanwhile the psycho is threatening you, showing up at your door, spreading rumors about you, etc. And the whole time you are just wondering why your life can't just be normal.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:26 pm to soccerfüt
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This post was edited on 5/26/24 at 2:51 am
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:27 pm to IAmNERD
My Mom definitely had BPD and she made my life a living hell when I was a pre-teen (when my Dad left her) and until she died. She had primary custody and we only saw my Dad every other weekend. She died a few years ago, I'm now in my 50s. Her style of BPD was extreme and everyone had to serve her and worship her, she was perfect. If you crossed her she never let it go. The gaslighting and attacks were brutal to my mental health. On the flip side she could be charming and loving (love bombing) but, all the drama left me exhausted. I took the brunt of all of it. My brother not so much for some reason but, he moved across the country as soon as he graduated college. It was way worse in her later years. Nothing was ever her fault and everyone around her needed help and was crazy. I was her primary caregiver in her later years and it was miserable. If you can put distance between you and the BPD person in your life. If you can't avoid them, protect yourself as much as you can and get a good therapist. boundaries help but, only sort of if you see them all the time as they don't respect them. I miss her of course she was my Mom but, my life is quiet and normal now. I enjoy the silence. If that is what she has GTFO and try to get as much custody of your children as you can.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:28 pm to Sam Quint
*mikelbr has entered the chat
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:29 pm to Sam Quint
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it was college, we all experimented
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:32 pm to Shexter
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That's 19 years of my life wasted (other than my wonderful kids)
What is the takeaway as far as benefit to the kids? Did they end up with a lifetime benefit that outweighs those 19 years of hell?
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:35 pm to Sam Quint
Just a check in question, did you not do anything for Valentines Day either?
I think the actual condition is called two X Chromosomes.
I think the actual condition is called two X Chromosomes.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:36 pm to sidewalkside
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I don't think there are any terrible people here who would do that but maybe im wrong.
Never underestimate the shitty actions of miserable people. They will literally do anything to make themselves feel better than they perceive you to be.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:39 pm to GoldenGuy
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This post was edited on 5/26/24 at 2:52 am
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:40 pm to Sam Quint
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my default belief is taht both parents in the home is always best.
I believe it is, too. But there comes a point where one parent is much more destructive to the child than the results of divorce. I believe you’re at that point, or maybe a little past it.
Do your kids have any anxieties or tics or abnormal behaviors for a kid?
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:41 pm to Sam Quint
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This post was edited on 5/26/24 at 2:52 am
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:48 pm to Sam Quint
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thinks that they are helping my victim wife
"He was abusive" as old as time right there. Godspeed and good luck.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:49 pm to Sam Quint
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ok thanks for the help and advice everyone.
I really hope that you and your wife are able to work through this situation.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:55 pm to DerkaDerka
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What is the takeaway as far as benefit to the kids? Did they end up with a lifetime benefit that outweighs those 19 years of hell?
I was married for 11 years before kids started popping out. My youngest was only 4 when she ran off and disappeared for almost 3 years.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:56 pm to Sam Quint
My ex-wife and mother of my 2 boys, has Borderline Personality Trait Disorder.
And it's ROUGH. THankfully I have custody of the boys (16 and 12) and she lives 3.5 hours away.
But here are the basics of her issues/ tactics -
+Extreme highs and lows emotionally
+Cannot maintain longterm relationships
+Mean, nasty behavior when peopel call them out
+Emotionally, she's about as developed as a 14 yr old girl, so you get pettiness, low-level conversations, immaturity
+Impulsive behavior
+Terrible with money
+Can't stay at a job long term. THere are always problems with co-wokers and bosses. Petty problems.
Mine also had endless aches and pains that she complained about, and over the course of the 11 years I was with her, we had every inch of her examined.... no injuries.
Screaming and yelling. Name-calling. Just toxic and crazy behavior.
Almost like she lived in a different universe than the rest of us.
And it's ROUGH. THankfully I have custody of the boys (16 and 12) and she lives 3.5 hours away.
But here are the basics of her issues/ tactics -
+Extreme highs and lows emotionally
+Cannot maintain longterm relationships
+Mean, nasty behavior when peopel call them out
+Emotionally, she's about as developed as a 14 yr old girl, so you get pettiness, low-level conversations, immaturity
+Impulsive behavior
+Terrible with money
+Can't stay at a job long term. THere are always problems with co-wokers and bosses. Petty problems.
Mine also had endless aches and pains that she complained about, and over the course of the 11 years I was with her, we had every inch of her examined.... no injuries.
Screaming and yelling. Name-calling. Just toxic and crazy behavior.
Almost like she lived in a different universe than the rest of us.
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