re: I'm Going To Break A Girl's Heart Tonight

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The guy was happy for 9+ years and content enough to ask this girl to marry him before all of a sudden getting mushy about his changing feelings.

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I doubt he was happy for all 9 years.
I bet at sometime between the engagement and and year 4 or 5, he lost his passion, and didn't regain it until a few months before he popped the question.

I am not sure if the OP is thinking that he will find better women out there, cause at this stage in his life he most likely won't. This isn't How I Met Your Mother, to where there will still be all these great catches at mid 30s. Best you will find is some nice women, attractive, with 2 kids and an ex-husband. But since OP doesn't like kids, that makes his selection even smaller, to the size of trashy woman who won't tell you that she has an std till you start scratching.

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Gifts given in anticipation of marriage belong to the recipient, the ring is hers.

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I don't care enough for the legal ins and outs to look it up. But I've always assumed that something given as a gift became the legal property of the recipient barring some kind of verifiable prior understanding, so I'll take your word for it. I'm just surprised that so many of the life-virgins in this thread would actually encourage him to demand the ring back.

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There is a good possibility that OP finds this chick to be his intellectual inferior to such an extent that living together would be painful

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Well if this is the case I can definitely relate. A dumb woman, even an extremely attractive one, quickly becomes unbearable to me if I'm not inebriated.

But still, 10 years? It's tough for me to deal with a dumb girl for 2 months.

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I am not sure if the OP is thinking that he will find better women out there, cause at this stage in his life he most likely won't. This isn't How I Met Your Mother, to where there will still be all these great catches at mid 30s. Best you will find is some nice women, attractive, with 2 kids and an ex-husband. But since OP doesn't like kids, that makes his selection even smaller, to the size of trashy woman who won't tell you that she has an std till you start scratching.

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I'm not quite sure about that. I'd say it's feasible he could find someone in her mid to late 20s. It's his fiance that's fricked.

You're an idiot for stringing her along for 10 years. Now she's 33, her clock is ticking loudly, and you've wasted her 20s. It sounds to me like you were in a relationship just for the sake of being in one/were waiting to see if you could find someone better.

What is the deal with couples like yourself not talking about these issues within the first 6 months of dating?!?!? I've discussed religion, politics, kids, etc. with all of my SO's that I've had. It's good to know if they have the same views and goals as yourself early on.

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It's his fiance that's fricked.

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Not necessarily. She is 32. She could find someone else and be married by say 34. She would still have 4-5 years to have a healthy pregnancy.

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cause at this stage in his life he most likely won't. This isn't How I Met Your Mother, to where there will still be all these great catches at mid 30s

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if he's in his early-mid 30s, he should be looking at 23-25 year olds and there are plenty of them

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Trying to "check up" on her or "remain friends" right now is just gonna seriously frick with her head right now and give her false hopes you two will work things out. She needs time to heal...and that cannot be done with you around at all. Radio silence after you break up with her. Delete her from fb and social media. DON'T call or text her.

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Church.

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I'm not quite sure about that. I'd say it's feasible he could find someone in her mid to late 20s. It's his fiance that's fricked.

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I think she will be in better luck.
A lot more single guys at their age than single women.
He might be able to go younger, but I'm not sure once they find out about his past they will stick around in fear of the same thing happening to them. His only luck will be find divorced women who are either sick of marriage, or very desperate.

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I am not sure if the OP is thinking that he will find better women out there, cause at this stage in his life he most likely won't. This isn't How I Met Your Mother, to where there will still be all these great catches at mid 30s. Best you will find is some nice women, attractive, with 2 kids and an ex-husband. But since OP doesn't like kids, that makes his selection even smaller, to the size of trashy woman who won't tell you that she has an std till you start scratching.

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Uh, OP is a dude, and in his prime. He could scoop up a 24-year old no problem.