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Maybe people try too hard to find meaning in life.

Just find ways to be content in life and enjoy every possible moment.

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This!

Ive also come to the conclusion in the last year that when I use my talents to help others I feel much more fulfilled in life. Have been trying to do more of that lately. And im not talking preaching or helping 3rd worlders either. Simple things like bringing the trash in for my elderly neighbor, offering to cook crawfish for some yankee buddies of mine, and making some shelves for another neighbor who just wanted something she couldnt get at the store.

This is an insight I never would have had earlier in life.

I made a career change in my mid-30s. Went from working in the medical field to engineering. It’s a much better fit for me and I make a lot more money so that’s an added bonus. It’s definitely been a positive life changing experience. I wish I would have done it sooner. I spent way too many years at a job that I was miserable at.

Start an OlnyFans baw.

I came to grips with the reality that my dick will never get any bigger.

Folsom is a really nice area. I know everyone trashes on Bogalusa, but living away from all the traffic is really nice.

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Sounds like you need Jesus in your life

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Definitely not.

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I’m curious if anyone here who’s 40+ has ever found something that made life more fulfilling or interesting in middle age. Maybe a career change, a new side gig, a new hobby, an affair, a motorcycle, whatever.

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Here. Many changes, constantly still changing.

I recently started training Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, and it's awesome.

I'm continually trying to evolve and simplify. I get bored with being static, find myself changing jobs, condos, etc...pretty often.

Chasing things seems to be where I find myself bogged down. Whether it be a future, employment, material things... So I end up making drastic changes to wake myself up again. Its worked, I'll never be wealthy but will make it through life better than I should have done.

I think you have to devote some of your lifestyle to chance. Not all, but some. Randomness, change, a little danger mixed it. I think men are wired like this and we get bored as hell with a secure lifestyle and find alternative things (drugs, material things, etc) to grasp a little joy in a mundane life. Sometimes you just have to shake things up. Minimize, center yourself, get back in touch with the things that make you feel alive. As men, we have traded that in for security, but its still running through our genes.

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