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re: I think I ruined my marriage
Posted on 12/27/24 at 8:47 am to jizzle6609
Posted on 12/27/24 at 8:47 am to jizzle6609
quote:Well, yeah. But that other poster said no female friends. My friends are no secret to my wife.
We all dont go on facebook and message those female friends on the reg while hiding it from our spouse.
Even if its truly innocent it looks terrible
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Posted on 12/27/24 at 8:48 am to Kickadawgitfeelsgood
Rules man which everyone forgot about. Post pic of your ex and wife that way we can determine what’s your better option going forward
Posted on 12/27/24 at 8:56 am to Lsuespn
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Rules man which everyone forgot about. Post pic of your ex and wife that way we can determine what’s your better option going forward
Valid point here from mr. Lsespn.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 8:59 am to Kickadawgitfeelsgood
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. My current partner
Quit being a bitch is probably step 1
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:01 am to CocomoLSU
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CocomoLSU
As much as you use the word "literally" I imagine you do have multiple female friendships
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:02 am to Kickadawgitfeelsgood
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Anyone else have or had a wife get angry when seeing post on Facebook between an old fiancé and yourself? I’m talking really old fiancé from 34-35 years ago. My current partner of 15 years found some messages and saw me commenting and keeping up with my ex on Facebook and it upset her. I tried telling her we are just friends but she is not having it. She literally has withdrawn from me and we are separated. I called her some real harsh names and told her to grow up. Am I wrong for this? Is she just crazy? Every time my ex reaches out my wife is so upset and tells me to go if I feel the need to keep looking in the rear view mirror. I’ve moved out several times over this as she looks so pathetic when she brings this up and accuses me of not being faithful for sharing things about our kids and our marriage with my ex fiancé. We don’t even live close to each other my ex lives in Shreveport. I refuse to talk to my wife and won’t allow her to speak to me because I know the conversation will lead there. My wife says I get defensive when the topic is even brought up but I’m really just tired of hearing it and I don’t like how my wife has become jealous and definitely insecure over this friendship. What you all think am I scum or is my wife crazy
You are fricking retarded and that’s putting it lightly.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:02 am to Kickadawgitfeelsgood
All women are crazy. Get over it. They’re psycho. And if she’s not? She really passive
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:06 am to olgoi khorkhoi
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As much as you use the word "literally" I imagine you do have multiple female friendships
You mean the whole one single time I used it? 
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:13 am to CocomoLSU
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You mean the whole one single time I used it?
As I perused your squabble with 777, it was 3 straight posts. The emojis are also a dead giveaway. I've no doubt you and the girls have plenty to gossip about.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:20 am to Kickadawgitfeelsgood
It's time for you to grow up and move on.
Nothing good will come of this friendship, not if you value your marriage. She has every right to be angry and you are frankly acting like a child.
How would you feel if she was doing the same thing? Would you be so understanding? So secure?
Life is about choices but this should not even be a hard one.
Nothing good will come of this friendship, not if you value your marriage. She has every right to be angry and you are frankly acting like a child.
How would you feel if she was doing the same thing? Would you be so understanding? So secure?
Life is about choices but this should not even be a hard one.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:21 am to Kickadawgitfeelsgood
Without knowing anything about your wife or any more about this situation, I'd say your wife has some trust issues that were either brought on by you or a previous partner of hers, making her very sensitive about the topic of you interacting with an ex on facebook.
Are your interactions with her via the private messaging component of facebook or are they the public kind like comments or "likes" on her posts? If they're public, I don't see a problem with it unless your comments are inappropriate between a married man and his ex. I have an ex of mine who I was somewhat serious with, coincidentally in Shreveport as well, and her and I are still friends on facebook and we occasionally "like" each other's posts. I've private messaged her twice in the last 20 something years and that was to send a message of condolences after deaths in the family.
The rule I go by when it comes to that is I don't interact with her posts where it's simply a picture of only herself or anything like that because that looks bad. If it's a pic of her and her kids, then sure I think that's fair and there's nothing wrong with that. If it's a sarcastic post or a joke of some kind, sure I'll laugh at it or something dumb like that from time to time but for the most part, I leave her posts alone.
I suggest you do the same if this has been an ongoing issue between you and your wife.
What comes first -- you interacting with your ex so she knows you're still there or your wife's happiness? If the answer to that question is literally anything other than your wife's happiness, this is your fault.
Are your interactions with her via the private messaging component of facebook or are they the public kind like comments or "likes" on her posts? If they're public, I don't see a problem with it unless your comments are inappropriate between a married man and his ex. I have an ex of mine who I was somewhat serious with, coincidentally in Shreveport as well, and her and I are still friends on facebook and we occasionally "like" each other's posts. I've private messaged her twice in the last 20 something years and that was to send a message of condolences after deaths in the family.
The rule I go by when it comes to that is I don't interact with her posts where it's simply a picture of only herself or anything like that because that looks bad. If it's a pic of her and her kids, then sure I think that's fair and there's nothing wrong with that. If it's a sarcastic post or a joke of some kind, sure I'll laugh at it or something dumb like that from time to time but for the most part, I leave her posts alone.
I suggest you do the same if this has been an ongoing issue between you and your wife.
What comes first -- you interacting with your ex so she knows you're still there or your wife's happiness? If the answer to that question is literally anything other than your wife's happiness, this is your fault.
This post was edited on 12/27/24 at 9:23 am
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:22 am to Kickadawgitfeelsgood
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My current partner
So you’re gay too?
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:31 am to Naked Bootleg
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Pretty much any woman would be upset if her husband stayed close to an ex-fiancé, dumbass
The only way this doesn't create turmoil is of you have kids together with the ex and theres a reason/rationale for contact.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:31 am to JohnnyKilroy
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You are fricking retarded and that’s putting it lightly.
Yea, I get the sense that he's 100% in the wrong here but who knows... a fiance from 35 years ago means he's old, which also means he may not fully comprehend social media and what communication on it means. I'm giving him a looooong rope here, I know. Just trying to see how I could give him the benefit of the doubt with this but yes, 99% of everyone in this thread is right - he's likely in the wrong here.
To the OP - I hope it's not too late for your marriage. I suggest permanently deleting all of your social media and letting your wife watch you do it. I suggest having a heart to heart talk with her in a respectful way without raising your voice while carefully thinking of your words before you speak them. If you truly are sorry and genuinely didn't have bad intentions, let her know. If you did have bad intentions with this communication, it's probably best that you stay separated and call it quits. That feeling won't go away because of your sorrowfulness that you got caught. It may subside but it will come back eventually and no good can come from that.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:32 am to Kickadawgitfeelsgood
You are in the wrong. In what world would you be ok with her keeping up with an ex-fiancée? You wouldn’t. Why do you need to be friends with an ex? If you don’t have kids there is none.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:34 am to lsu777
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sorry but men cant really be friends with women, especially an ex
This board will never learn.
Men are biologically driven to seek out sex with good looking women. We're programmed that way. These threads are so stupid because people like the OP is choosing to put himself in that position.
His wife isn't stupid, this idiot is waiting to see if the window opens and he can shag his ex, anyone can see that.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:38 am to Kickadawgitfeelsgood
You're an arse for placing a pointless friendship with an ex you almost married over your wife when you know it upsets her so much.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:39 am to Kickadawgitfeelsgood
If the shoe was on the other foot, 100% chance OP would be running here with a thread asking for good divorce lawyers in the area.
She rightfully expressed that she doesn’t like you speaking with your ex-fiancé. You acted like a toddler over her setting reasonable relationship boundaries.
My guess is those messages were more than just friendly banter for her to react that way and you to move out instead of stopping talking to her. Congrats on being that fricking guy.
She rightfully expressed that she doesn’t like you speaking with your ex-fiancé. You acted like a toddler over her setting reasonable relationship boundaries.
My guess is those messages were more than just friendly banter for her to react that way and you to move out instead of stopping talking to her. Congrats on being that fricking guy.
This post was edited on 12/27/24 at 9:41 am
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:40 am to Naked Bootleg
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1) Get the hell off of Facebook
And all social media. You are wasting your fricking life away with this narcissistic pseudoverse.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 9:42 am to Kickadawgitfeelsgood
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found some messages and saw me commenting and keeping up with my ex on Facebook
quote:
am I scum
Be better.
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