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re: I just found out I have 3 year old son

Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:21 pm to
Posted by Paige
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Member since Oct 2010
84748 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:21 pm to
Then you should know it only gets harder

God gives you a baby to ease you into it and make you love it. If you started with a teen you'd probably give it up immediately
Posted by tooshea8
MS
Member since May 2007
2651 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:22 pm to
quote:

Have you seen a copy of the test?


I paid for the test, and the courts require it, so yes
Posted by atxfan
Member since Jul 2004
3521 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:22 pm to
So she let the other guy believe it was his kid and now she wants money from you?
Posted by Vastmind
B Ara
Member since Sep 2013
4992 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:23 pm to
If he has ball skillz, feed him raw meat and train him Marinovich style while offering strong warnings about HERON.
Posted by lsu777
Lake Charles
Member since Jan 2004
30961 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:23 pm to
Just love him and spend as much time as you can with him. Tell him every chance you get that you love him. I can't help with the getting to know him part. But I have 3 boys 5/4/1 and the main thing they need is love and support and discipline but ease into that, has to be hard on the kid finding out who he thought was his dad isn't.

If you do it right your relationship will have no lasting consequences and he prolly won't even remember he thought somebody else was his dad.

Like I said love him and let him know that verbally and through your actions. Show him attention but don't let him be a brat. You can explain things when he is older, just be there for him.

And congrats and dude thanks for stepping up and doing the right thing. You are in for a bumpy but very rewarding ride.
Posted by SabiDojo
Open to any suggestions.
Member since Nov 2010
83927 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:23 pm to
quote:

Then you should know it only gets harder 


Not all that much. More expensive more than anything.
Posted by JumpingTheShark
America
Member since Nov 2012
22890 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:24 pm to
quote:

Any positive advice would be greatly appreciated.


Yeah, never come to the OT for a question such as this.
Posted by Bantling Boy
Member since Dec 2016
60 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:24 pm to
Wow. Were you hoping it was yours? Are you in love with her?
Posted by mikelbr
Baton Rouge
Member since Apr 2008
47463 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:24 pm to
Just here to show my appreciation for making me appreciate my life a little bit more than before reading this thread.
Posted by Sao
East Texas Piney Woods
Member since Jun 2009
65617 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:24 pm to

Hate to ask but is the ex husband on the birth certificate?
Posted by lsu777
Lake Charles
Member since Jan 2004
30961 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:24 pm to
Oh also, if there is a chance that his mother could be somebody you could marry, give it a chance.
Posted by Rouge
Floston Paradise
Member since Oct 2004
136793 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:25 pm to
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You believe that story?
please craft a more plausible tale

You are quite good at such theorizing
Posted by LSUwag
Florida man
Member since Jan 2007
17319 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:25 pm to
Congratulations!

Just be a good father to him. Unfortunately, the mother will probably take most of your money and still limit access. Don't trust her and be guarded about what you say.

Get an arranged visitation schedule and hold her to it. She will try to use you for her convenience. Don't allow that to happen. You are his father, not her babysitter.
Posted by Sugarbuggies
North Louisiana
Member since Dec 2011
240 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:26 pm to
Think of what a good Dad should be and be that person. I ask my Dad how to raise my kids the night before he died, his answer was, " Don't buy them everything they want, and dont deprive them of nothing they need." Spend time with your Son and tell him that you love him.
Posted by tooshea8
MS
Member since May 2007
2651 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:26 pm to
quote:

You believe that story?


Well, I'm living it, so yes
Posted by jcaz
Laffy
Member since Aug 2014
15547 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:26 pm to
My son is 6 and this is my favorite time so far. I love picking him up from school and hearing about his adventures. Then we go get Sonic and maybe watch a movie.

Just be there as often as possible, make fun memories, and keep the peace with his mother. If all that happens then it's a great thing.
Posted by fr33manator
Baton Rouge
Member since Oct 2010
123930 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:27 pm to
No, I didn't mean his side of the story. I meant the bullshite that the chick fed him.

Look, if I've learned anything, and I've seen it from every side of the coin, it's that you can't believe anything from the mouth of a cheater.
Posted by vuvuzela
Oregon
Member since Jun 2010
14663 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:27 pm to
Congrats man!!

Just be there, the little things mean the most. Be a man and carry your weight financially, don't put the kid in the middle of you and your ex. The love for your child will change and deepen you in ways you never imagined. This is great news for you!
Posted by FloridaMike
Member since Dec 2012
1524 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:27 pm to
This actually happened to a friend of mine, he knocked up some random chick in his dad's RV at the Daytona 500 and she spent almost 4 years trying to track him down. His family even has a reality TV show although I don't think the little kid is mentioned. True story.
Posted by GeorgeTheGreek
Sparta, Greece
Member since Mar 2008
66405 posts
Posted on 1/2/17 at 10:28 pm to
Trashy
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