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re: I don't know what to do. I just want to end it
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:13 am to Big EZ Tiger
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:13 am to Big EZ Tiger
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for your true good friends, tell them how you're feeling and see if you can talk to their wives or maybe send them a text or something telling them you're sorry about how you acted in the past, but you're trying to change some things in your life and miss spending time with your friends. If they don't want to hear it, at least you can feel like you tried something to help the situation.
Oh I don't have to apologize to them they did all the same shite I do. It's just they settled down before I did, I can still talk to them. Their wives are a different story. I've had that conversation with my friends already but it's basically they can't hang out with me because their wives know if they did then my friends would frick up because they're just like me. I imagine if I find a good girl and start a family all of that would change.
I'm just not sure I can find one around here. Most good ones are taken. My best option is to try to fix things with my ex who I love and honestly no other girl compares to her. She is amazing and I arrogantly took it for granted. Smart, beautiful, loves to hunt, enjoyed going out drinking with me and got along with all my friends. I just need to suck up my pride and humble myself. We didn't break up over cheating or anything so it might be doable. I think that's what got me in this funk. I didn't realize until she was gone how much I cared and needed her.
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Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:27 am to Lawyered
quote:y'all boys are from itawamba?
Glad everything worked out for you man, from one Ratliff resident to another
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:27 am to deltaland
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Yea but I've visited cities. My style and attitude is straight delta to the core. I don't feel comfortable anywhere else I love it here ReplyOptionsTop 10
FWIW I moved to a much more rural area in January of 2015 and haven't looked back and have very much the same type of style and attitude as you
I also had very much the same drinking habits as you (not so much drugs), not anywhere close to every day but when I did drink I DRANK. I finally quit drinking for good back in July and I have never looked back, unquestionably one of the best decisions I've ever made but I don't go around saying "I'll never drink again"
1. It's setting yourself of to disappoint yourself which will lead you to being mad at yourself which will just lead to more issues
2. If you tell ppl that if they see you drinking, even if it's just one beer and that's all you had, all they'll talk about is how "ohh Wishn's off the wagon" like you are drinking all day everyday with no restraint
3. Ppl suck
Anyways kinda back on topic as far as the friend thing, it kinda sounds like your friends aren't very good friends. A few of my friends have gotten married and while we don't hangout as much as we use to (who does after college?) partly bc I'm two hours away from most of them I could still call any of my good friends and they'd be there for me as quick as 5 years ago. We all use to party and frick whores just as much as you did but I still think if their wives tried to chastise them for being there for me they'd explain to her that they can be there for me without doing any of that shite we used to do
I think you are just going through a normal stage of life in the transition from college years to the 30s, it happens to all of us and some deal with it Better than others. My dad passed away in April of 2016 so I think that actually may have helped force me to reality a little more than if that hadn't have happened terrible as it was.
I wish I had some definitive advice to give you with the exact words needed but all I can really tell you is that the issues we face never seem as large after the fact as they do during so a month, year, two years from now you'll prolly look back and think wow I was stupid for thinking that was such a big deal. Use that knowledge to help calm your stress in the present.
In the meantime, find stuff that fulfills you and you can enjoy. It sounds like you are like me in that the catfish farming (for me it's grain farming) is the thing you know of right now that you truly enjoy and that's a major plus for us cause we can make money doing it.
Anyways, I'm more familiar than you might know with the whole land and business tying you down thing and I'm always here if you need anything
This post was edited on 1/15/18 at 1:30 am
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:31 am to RebelVol
quote:
itawamba?
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:32 am to deltaland
quote:man this is your best option. If you want her back and you truly want the life you're saying you want, you have to show her that you really have changed. No more drugs. No more womanizing (not saying you cheated, just going by first post), no more fricking up. Think of it as your very last chance.
My best option is to try to fix things with my ex who I love and honestly no other girl compares to her. She is amazing and I arrogantly took it for granted. Smart, beautiful, loves to hunt, enjoyed going out drinking with me and got along with all my friends.
In my opinion you and her should pack up and move an hour or so away from where you are now. Just get out of the delta man, your quality of life will be a lot better.
You'll be close enough to see your friends if you want to, but like you said earlier you feel alone. If that's the case then you shouldn't want to be close to them, they aren't true friends.
Just my two cents on the matter.
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:34 am to deltaland
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My best option is to try to fix things with my ex who I love and honestly no other girl compares to her. She is amazing and I arrogantly took it for granted. Smart, beautiful, loves to hunt, enjoyed going out drinking with me and got along with all my friends. I just need to suck up my pride and humble myself. We didn't break up over cheating or anything so it might be doable. I think that's what got me in this funk. I didn't realize until she was gone how much I cared and needed her.
Dude go for it, number one thing most guys never can understand is the worst thing a girl can do is say no
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:35 am to Wishnitwas1998
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Wishnitwas1998
Maaannnn idk where the hell Ratliff is at
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:37 am to TurkeysAndBees
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I've seen even the biggest, most self-assured men get knocked off their high horses all the way down to the bottom over the years.
Sitting here thinking, I think I know why some of my friends have been distant recently. And not all of them are married some are still single and enjoy doing things like going out drinking. I came from a middle class family and all of my close friends did as well. All of them are working paycheck to paycheck to make ends meet, like most people my age. Good down to earth people. I think I let my successes go to my head too much, became too arrogant and a show off. Letting it change who I am.
I've been down lately but honestly I'm thinking I needed this to bring me back down to earth.
This is where I've been struggling..trying to figure out what I did wrong. I feel a little better now because I think I can actually fix it, I just didn't know what needed fixing. I might can get my girl back. I just have to go back to being the true me.
I appreciate the responses in this thread. You all have helped a ton, this actually has made me feel better and helped do some self reflection.
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:37 am to RebelVol
Hell I lived in MS or within 5 miles of it all my life and I don't know where that shite is either
According to my phone it's just northeast of Tupelo
According to my phone it's just northeast of Tupelo
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:41 am to Wishnitwas1998
Yeah it says it's about 40 minutes from where I live
Small town USA, I tell ya
Small town USA, I tell ya
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:44 am to deltaland
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I just wish I could go back and do things a little different
Forget that, it doesn't work that way.
Go volunteer at a kids hospital or homeless shelter. Stop thinking about yourself so much.
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:47 am to deltaland
Delta, if you ever need someone to talk to where it isn't all open like this just shoot me an email rebelvol1@gmail.com
Take care
Take care
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:51 am to RebelVol
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no more fricking up. Think of it as your very last chance.
In my opinion you and her should pack up and move an hour or so away from where you are now. Just get out of the delta man, your quality of life will be a lot better.
I'll never leave the delta. Like I said I just realized what my problem has been and it took some adversity to make me humble myself. She liked to party with me that's not what messed us up. I'm pretty sure it was my attitude and just taking it for granted not doing the little things to show I cared. And she left and I didn't make much effort to keep her because I was prideful and arrogant thinking I could have whoever I wanted anyways. Turns out not the case. It's all coming together now...my ego caused most of this. i just didn't see it till now.
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:57 am to olgoi khorkhoi
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Go volunteer at a kids hospital or homeless shelter. Stop thinking about yourself so much.
I'm a Rotarian we do a lot of volunteer work for the local community.
Posted on 1/15/18 at 1:58 am to OWLFAN86
C'mon a real Saints fan was waiting for that exact thing to happen.
And we'll still love em, because what else are we gonna do, be Cowboys fans? frick that.
And we'll still love em, because what else are we gonna do, be Cowboys fans? frick that.
Posted on 1/15/18 at 2:00 am to deltaland
Stay away from high-rise hotel, please.
Posted on 1/15/18 at 2:49 am to deltaland
Try praying. Jesus can bring anyone thru anything, including you
Posted on 1/15/18 at 3:02 am to deltaland
You came to the right place.
Posted on 1/15/18 at 3:16 am to deltaland
Do what i did. It worked.
Get a thirty day Greyhound pass and drift around the country for a couple of weeks. Don’t talk to anyone. Just disappear. When you decide to come back, get a different apartment and start over. Did wonders for me.
Get a thirty day Greyhound pass and drift around the country for a couple of weeks. Don’t talk to anyone. Just disappear. When you decide to come back, get a different apartment and start over. Did wonders for me.
This post was edited on 1/15/18 at 3:17 am
Posted on 1/15/18 at 3:26 am to deltaland
Bad luck does not equate to drastic measures, a month from now everything could be fixed. If you are as succesful as you say you are then there are countless options to receive help and counseling. Being depressed isn't the same as having depression. I'd advise avoiding the big pharm medication route and diong something like talk therapy, I know personally simply laying it all out to someone who is trained to not only listen but reply in a way that helps is huge. I've been there myself
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