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re: How much time is appropriate to wait to start dating again after a spouse dies?

Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:27 pm to
Posted by SalE
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:27 pm to
27 days.. according to my wife watching the next neighbor
Posted by DarthRebel
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:28 pm to
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It’s disrespectful to the deceased to immediately get back out there.


The deceased does not care.

You never know the previous history before death and it is not our place to judge.


Posted by BluegrassBelle
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:29 pm to
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I think it is whorish behavior to sleep with multiple dudes within a year of your husband’s death. That’s my opinion.


Again, you’ve yet to rationalize why that’s the case. Why is that the appropriate timeframe? What is she doing wrong as a single person?

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You seem to be mad that is my opinion. Is there a person experience behind your anger?


I just think it’s stupid. And that you’re not exactly a “good guy” if you’re going on a message board to call a widow a whore simply because she has the audacity to simply move on.

This post was edited on 3/26/26 at 7:30 pm
Posted by HeadSlash
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:29 pm to
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My wife’s relative starting dating again after her spouse died within 6 months of his death.


Bet they were seeing each other before her husband's death
Posted by Jake88
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:31 pm to
I've known 4 people in this situation before 50 years old and 3 were remarried within 2-3 years.
Posted by CaptainsWafer
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:33 pm to
According to this guy if she waited 366 days she could be double teamed on the regular and it would be no big deal.
Posted by RLDSC FAN
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:34 pm to
For me, that sounds too quick. But everyone's different. Maybe finding someone new helps with their grief
Posted by Uga Alum
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:34 pm to
Yeah, I think she should mourn the marriage for a year out of respect. Then she can do whatever she wants. And I realize that she doesn’t have to listen to me. But that’s my opinion.
Posted by BluegrassBelle
RIP Hefty Lefty - 1981-2019
Member since Nov 2010
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:36 pm to
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Yeah, I think she should mourn the marriage for a year out of respect. Then she can do whatever she wants. And I realize that she doesn’t have to listen to me. But that’s my opinion.


Again, you’ve yet to tell us why it has to be a year. Why is that your designated time frame?

Also, was her husband sick? Was it sudden? What was their marriage like? How old are their kids?
This post was edited on 3/26/26 at 7:38 pm
Posted by CaptainsWafer
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:36 pm to
You think she should. Maybe her spouse told her not to dwell on his death but celebrate that she’s still alive.




I bet you were a “take your ball and go home kid” growing up.
Posted by LemmyLives
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Member since Mar 2019
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:37 pm to
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She is acting like a whore. And I’m not mad just because I say that.


You have a mostly conservative, mostly religious board telling you that you're being a judgmental a-hole. Do you know what her pastor said? What her therapist said? Of course not. And yet you persist.

You didn't get laid a lot in high school or college, did you? This deserves to be a 37 page thread of everyone just shitting on you.
Posted by Red Stick Tigress
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:38 pm to
The day after the funeral.















Yeah, I'm trolling you.
Posted by Uga Alum
Member since Jul 2022
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:38 pm to
What does that matter? According to all of you she can start an only fans as soon as the body is cold without judgment.
Posted by The Torch
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:39 pm to
Tree Fiddy
Posted by CaptainsWafer
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:39 pm to
It matters because you’re arbitrarily choosing a year. Why does a year matter? Why not a month, a fortnite, or a decade?

ETA I think that she’s free to date when she’s ready. Her timeline may be different mine, it’s obviously different from yours, but you aren’t her so why does that matter?
This post was edited on 3/26/26 at 7:41 pm
Posted by SallysHuman
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Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:40 pm to
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Yeah, I think she should mourn the marriage for a year out of respect.


Someone married 30yrs doesn't have infinite years left on this planet... older people move quick. It's none of your business and you should be ashamed of calling her a whore.

Posted by BluegrassBelle
RIP Hefty Lefty - 1981-2019
Member since Nov 2010
108006 posts
Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:40 pm to
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What does that matter? According to all of you she can start an only fans as soon as the body is cold without judgment.


Holy hyperbole.

Like I said earlier, variables matter. He was sick wasn’t he? And let me guess, she probably took care of him.
Posted by Uga Alum
Member since Jul 2022
6529 posts
Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:41 pm to
Wow, there’s a lot of anger and judgment coming from you. Calm down. It’s not good for your blood pressure.
Posted by NoSaint
Member since Jun 2011
12688 posts
Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:41 pm to
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Whatever she feels is appropriate is appropriate. Some people wind up never dating again, some go after strange immediately. It's her decision and no one knows how she feels or what's going through her head. It's her business.


There’s appropriate, and there’s healthy and there’s a wide variety of judgements.


I don’t think it’s a race to get back in there if you are otherwise mentally healthy and experience the death of a loved spouse…. But who knows what their relationship was etc- they could’ve mourned the loss of their love long before death
Posted by Uga Alum
Member since Jul 2022
6529 posts
Posted on 3/26/26 at 7:42 pm to
Haven’t you all said that she can do whatever whenever? As long as he’s dead she’s not cheating, right?
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