re: How many of us are products of a divorced family?

As a child of divorced parents, one of the silent promises to my children is that I wouldn’t do the same to them.

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As a child of divorced parents, one of the silent promises to my children is that I wouldn’t do the same to them.

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Same. I always had that same mindset. Unfortunately, if the other person (spouse) wants out, there's nothing anyone can do about it, as they have just as much say as anyone else.

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but if you look at some predominantly black communities that are majority fatherless households that causes lots of issues.

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Years ago listened to a group discuss this on the radio. They were mostly talking about how white kids who grew up in a fatherless home were just as likely to have problems as black kids, just much more prevalent in the black community. There's also a big difference between a kid having their dad die young (heart attack, wreck, etc) and a dad walking out on the family or going to prison, big difference in the psyche to a child. Kid's who's dad abandoned the family or chose a fake life on the streets can't comprehend that, like they can their dad dying from a medical issue or wreck. They end up many times with the same fate as their dad, in prison, drugs, etc.

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UltimaParadox

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Can you provide a link to where this data comes from, or was this a random image you found on the webz?

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Opposite is actually happening, divorce rates continue to trend downward since their peak near 1980

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This is because people aren't getting married as young and just not getting married at all.

Yes and yes

In most cases, divorce is devestating to children. I'm reminded of a sad incident on a early Saturday morning about 30 years ago (It was so disturbing the incident is etched in my mind) I'd gone to this local place of business to pick up some items. There were two ladies behind the counter and one of them was on the phone. Right there in front of everyone the mother was trashing her ex for forgetting to pick up their son that morning. It was his weekend to have their son and he simply didn't pick him up. . So she was forced to bring him to work. I could only imagine the foul language in that car as the woman (she was no lady - for sure) drove to work. The mother was clearly distraught.

But what was most disturbing about that incident - as I rummaged through the aisles looking for my item, I spotted the young man (maybe 13) hiding behind some shelving in the corner of the store. I could read the pain and embarassment in his face. I smiled at him as he glanced away from me. How do you console a hurt like that?

Divorced families with children is a great tragedy. I'll describe it that way.

Me and my 2 siblings are products of a divorced family. We've all 3 been married 18+ years.

Both my parents and my wife’s parents have been great examples of what NOT to do in a great number of things. We both committed to not be like them. Married for 28 years now.

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Both my parents and my wife’s parents have been great examples of what NOT to do in a great number of things. We both committed to not be like them. Married for 28 years now.

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I think my parents' marriage was a good lesson in what not to do for us. It was rough on the family. My dad was only 39 when they got divorced and said at the time he'd never get married again, and never has. He's 75 now and has been a bachelor for 36 years.