re: How long could you go without talking to your spouse?

Hours? Damn you are blessed.

I'm not much of a talker. My wife talks to her mom and sister plenty on the phone. Takes me out of the equation.

Reality is I could do whatever I had to and it would depend on what I was doing as to how easy it would be

But it’d be weird if I didn’t talk to her for multiple days. Not to be lame but she’s been my best friend for 15+ years so I’m pretty used to discussing anything significant in work/politics/fun/kids/sports with her.

Well let's put it this way, we are retired, so:
When she calls that breakfast is ready I say "Ok".
When she asks if I want more coffee I say "Yup".
When she asks if I fed the cats I say "Your turn."
When she calls that lunch is ready I say "In a minute".
(I'm Probably reading a thread on TD.)

When she asks what I want for a snack mid-afternoon I say "whatever".
Supper conversation same as lunch.
Late night snack same as mid afternoon conversation.
When she says she is going to bed I say "Ok".
Hey fellows, after 56 1/2 years together we understand each other.

I know of one poster's wife who puts him on phone restriction when she gets pissed at him, including no texting. He does not complain.

As long as it takes

I travel for work so probably around a week, as long as everything is fine on the home front

Currently at 18 years

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My go to phrase is "I'm listening" as I go about my business on other parts of the house.

The downside there is that you sometimes "agree" to things without realizing it or you occasionally give yourself away when she brings something up and you're like, "What!?!," and she says she told you about it yesterday. Then you have to pretend you were listening then and just forgot. "Oh yeah, but on further thought, I changed my mind."

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Damn, this hits close to home right here

I have the luxury of an exceptionally shitty short term memory from 3 concussions in my life on top of that, my wife was dating me during the last one and was there when the docs told me it would potentially be deadly if I had another.

So I have a nice built in excuse when I'm not listening and forget about something she said just a day or a few hours ago. It works every time, "sorry babe you know my short term memory is shite."

That being said, I legitimately enjoy talking to my wife and don't like to go more than a few hours without at least some small talk since I have a very dangerous job and like her to know that I'm okay.

She's also very interested in my work and likes to keep up with all the crazy stuff that happens, and there have been times when she's actually pointed something out to me that helps with a case since she has a different perspective.

TLDR - I may not be OT cool by admitting that I like talking to my wife a lot, but it's mostly through texts throughout the day. I also travel a lot and have a lot of time to kill staking out in a car or on location, so it doesn't really get old.

Before Covid, less than a day. Now that he has been working from home the last two years, I dream of an entire weekend with no talking.