re: How bad has 2020 been for you personally?

My job has been unaffected but I’ve worked a ton of OT this year. Hubby left a job where he was under paid and under appreciated for a WFH opportunity and he’s loving it. Oldest started at LSU and is struggling with the online format. AC went out but other than that we’ve been more blessed than most.

Had my third child, first son.
Wife got a new job making 15k more.
I got promoted.
None of us have caught the covid.

Not all that bad really

Hasn’t been the best.

The only thing constant is change.

It hasn’t been bad enough to not survive.Better days are coming,you have to believe that.

You also have to believe that there is going to be some terrible ones.


But we are going to make it.

Fishfighter has to be one of the toughest men on this board. He needs our prayers.

I've been fortunate. No substantial loss of income, moved to a new bigger, better house, haven't gotten covid (that I know of) or any other major illness, nobody in my immediate circle has had covid or died from covid. I did lose my step-grandmother and my paternal pawpaw over the last couple of months, but neither were covid-related and both were in their mid-late 80s.

For me personally, the worst of 2020 has been the 2 deaths I mentioned, having to replace a roof, some minor income loss, small 401k hit, and mostly little annoyances and dealing with quarantine, lockdowns, navigating politics within my own family, etc. like everyone else has had to deal with.

2020 has been really horrible to me.

Ongoing stuff with my mentally ill father (although I am getting better at having more healthy boundaries that allow me to help him out without sacrificing my whole self in the process). Dealing with knowing that caring for my mentally ill father, mom that isn't always the best at knowing how the real world works, and 2 younger mentally challenged siblings basically falls all on my shoulders alone and that I have absolutely no one else to lean on while I try to manage that.

Dog of 12 years died this summer.


Moved out in January for a trial separation in the hopes to save my marriage. Did everything I possibly could to fight for it, but in the end I'm now in the middle of a divorce I don't want.


Starting getting healthy and losing weight then just slid into disaster once divorce was filed. So now I'm back at square one while I'm the most depressed I've been in my life and trying not to cave into my usual habits of emotionally eating when I'm upset.


Breast cancer scare (thankfully all ok) just a few days after my soon to be ex husband filed for divorce.

Broke my big toe a couple of weeks ago and it's healing fine but I'm now unable to enjoy outdoor activities when the weather here is finally cool enough to enjoy it. Activities that would do wonders for my mental health right now.

Cause of all the COVID stuff I'm unable to be as social as I would like right now. When I really need it in my life. Trying to find a way to have a healthy balance of that while being safe. I have to take my father to lots of medical appointments since I'm the only family to be able to help so I have to be careful so I don't get it and possibly pass it on to him (he would NOT do good with COVID).


I realize many have it worse than me though. I still have my health and I still have a secure, good-paying job(even though it's starting to get pretty stressful now at work). I still have my faith. I have Butters. I have some amazing friends that have put up with me calling/messaging multiple times a day when it feels like my world is crashing as I go through the divorce. I do really try to focus on what I do have vs what I don't or won't no longer have. But it's a daily(sometimes hourly) struggle to keep my chin up right now

Been about the same. Luckily I kept my job and we have been busier than ever.

My grandma, who has COPD and is already on oxygen, and my great grandma both got Covid and it was like nothing to them thankfully. They were the ones I was most afraid of getting it.

2020 has certainly been tough, and being home so much with a toddler has been exhausting. I do think that years from now when I look back at it all it will be the positive things. We are fortunate to have really been able to see our daughter grow up so much in the last 9 months. We will likely never get that much consecutive time with our daughter ever again.

We are lucky to have maintained jobs throughout even though it is certainly more difficult now.

Refinanced the house like everyone else, so that helps.

Our daughter got tubes in her ears two days before the shutdown but no more ear infections!

My wife did spend Labor Day in the ICU and was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes, so that has certainly turned our lives upside down. We are working through that and trending in the right direction though.

Biggest positive is having a lot of time at home has meant a lot of time to work on our house and getting it the way we want. Lots of painting, doing flooring, new lights, cleaning up the yard, getting rid of stuff we don’t need.

I know 2021 will not change Covid, but hoping for kind of a mental reset I suppose.

Thanks fish. I know you have had many struggles yourself lately and you always seem to stay positive through it.

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I'm now in the middle of a divorce

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Aw no nurse, I'm sorry to hear of this. If there is no fixing what is broke, then let it motivate you to get on with life. Concentrate on your health, family and friends. Sometimes a closing door is next to another door opening to great opportunities.
Stay strong!

I'm just so sad about you and your ex.