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re: Has marriage counseling ever worked?
Posted on 2/17/23 at 8:47 pm to tigerinthebueche
Posted on 2/17/23 at 8:47 pm to tigerinthebueche
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works for the counselor.
What a great answer, and how true!
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Posted on 2/17/23 at 8:51 pm to Will Cover
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Even if you have a great marriage, going to a marriage counselor or an individual counselor is still a great idea.
No it’s not. Sorry, but that’s a stupid idea. My wife and I have a great marriage and we are damn sure not going to go to a friggin marriage counselor.
That’s like calling an electrician to come frick with your home wiring because all of it is working great.
Posted on 2/17/23 at 8:56 pm to geauxtigers87
It will never work if one spouse doesn’t want it to. Both spouses have to want to be there and want to work on it.
Posted on 2/17/23 at 9:00 pm to geauxtigers87
Didn't work for me. Wife went in there and refused to acknowledge actions. She made it about feelings which made sessions DOA...
Posted on 2/17/23 at 9:07 pm to Will Cover
Just get a divorce if it's that effed up
Posted on 2/17/23 at 10:31 pm to Penrod
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No it’s not. Sorry, but that’s a stupid idea. My wife and I have a great marriage and we are damn sure not going to go to a friggin marriage counselor.
That is an archaic way of thinking, but who am I to judge if it is working for you and her?
We all have things to work on, even if we think everything is great. Having self-awareness is a strength, along with vulnerability. Marriage counseling also promotes better communication, collaboration, and listening skills. It's sad that many people view these as weaknesses.
This post was edited on 2/17/23 at 10:32 pm
Posted on 2/17/23 at 10:36 pm to tigerbutt
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Coworker went. Convinced couple to have sex 3 set days of the week. Tuesday, Thursday and Saturdays. Seems to have worked for them for about 3 or 4 years now. I asked them for their counselors name lol.
Some people will be against this, because it may feel "forced" or "not natural." Others will like it because it is scheduled, it's something to potentially look forward to, it promotes closeness (this is what intimacy is all about), and it sets expectations to know when a person is on or off-limits so to speak.
Obviously, it appears to be working for your co-worker, so finding this solution with the help of their counselor worked.
Posted on 2/17/23 at 10:38 pm to OKBoomerSooner
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this dude out here telling you marriage counseling works when it didn't for him, truly incredible.
Even though I failed at my marriage, I still found value in the counseling I received. I am a better person today because of my counselor's ability to call me out on things that I needed help with, and I put (and continue) the work in to ensure I don't go back to who I was. Marriage counseling, or any counseling, isn't some saving grace, but it is beneficial to the person (or people) who are wanting to change and helping them identify areas of opportunity and put together a plan to achieve it.
It's still a win-win situation. I will never fault anyone who is able to better themselves.
This post was edited on 2/17/23 at 10:40 pm
Posted on 2/17/23 at 11:06 pm to Will Cover
A counselor able to call out the woman on her bs is worth their weight in gold. Otherwise, the man is the villain by default.
Posted on 2/17/23 at 11:54 pm to hellsu
quote:No. We’re all wrong. We’re human.
In your opinion do most women struggle with apologizing when they are wrong?
Why do most men want to sleep with women they don’t know?
Posted on 2/18/23 at 12:53 am to Alyosha
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A counselor able to call out the woman on her bs is worth their weight in gold. Otherwise, the man is the villain by default.
This was my experience ten years, three counselors, one divorce, and three quarters of a million in alimony later.
I made it too easy each time, and admitted where I was at fault. “Fixing me” was such low hanging fruit that it was all we ever worked on.
What I learned since is that I’m actually a very good man.
What I’ve gained is the respect of my now adult children - something their mom lost quite a bit of.
I had a moment of vindication a few years ago. I was about to move out of state, and my ex-wife and I met for a happy hour just before I moved. I asked her - after acknowledging my part - why we divorced. (We are friendly now)
She admitted that she had issues back then that she didn’t deal with.
I hate to say it, but think that’s common in women.
And the statistics about close to 70% of divorces being initiated by the woman are true. The economic incentive is real.
Posted on 2/18/23 at 5:18 am to geauxtigers87
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Is it slanted to make the man look like an a-hole? Or
Absolutely
Posted on 2/18/23 at 5:44 am to geauxtigers87
You change the oil in your car. Sweep your floors. Trim low hanging tree limbs. Etc.
Counseling can sometimes be a maintenance thing when things are going well.
People change. Hormones change. Environment changes. Best to understand and figure that shite out earlier as you age with someone.
Point is to be receptive. If one isn’t, that’s usually the problem.
Counseling can sometimes be a maintenance thing when things are going well.
People change. Hormones change. Environment changes. Best to understand and figure that shite out earlier as you age with someone.
Point is to be receptive. If one isn’t, that’s usually the problem.
Posted on 2/18/23 at 6:25 am to Will Cover
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Yes, but only if both people are committed to truly hearing and listening to what the other person has to say
This couple probably doesn’t need counseling
Posted on 2/18/23 at 6:36 am to m2pro
Depends on what happen
If cheating than I would say no
Kids play a big factor as well
If cheating than I would say no
Kids play a big factor as well
Posted on 2/18/23 at 6:41 am to geauxtigers87
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Is it a waste of time?
No, not if the couple truly wants to find a way to fix things.
Posted on 2/18/23 at 6:45 am to geauxtigers87
Counseling is a bigger scam than chiropractors.
Posted on 2/18/23 at 7:14 am to tigergirl10
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Why do most men want to sleep with women they don’t know?
I don't want to sleep with them.
Posted on 2/18/23 at 7:49 am to tigergirl10
quote:Because we don't know them.
Why do most men want to sleep with women they don’t know?
Posted on 2/18/23 at 7:53 am to geauxtigers87
quote:
Has marriage counseling ever worked?
Yes.
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