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re: Has marriage counseling ever worked?
Posted on 4/15/23 at 11:04 pm to Will Cover
Posted on 4/15/23 at 11:04 pm to Will Cover
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I was guilty of only seeing things from my perspective. I thought I saw it from my former wife's perspective, but I didn't. I'm not getting a re-do as I exhausted all my re-dos even when I didn't know if was I using them all up.
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Posted on 4/16/23 at 11:30 am to geauxtigers87
I can’t add to what others have said but agree it’s a good idea before and after getting married. Doesn’t need to be a regular thing but certainly if things are getting stale or going downhill.
People want their spouse to be like them. The faster you accept that’s not going to happen the happier you’ll be,
People want their spouse to be like them. The faster you accept that’s not going to happen the happier you’ll be,
Posted on 4/16/23 at 11:33 am to geauxtigers87
Therapy is for soys
Real men find their mental health in a bottle
Real men find their mental health in a bottle
Posted on 4/16/23 at 11:40 am to geauxtigers87
Has marriage counseling ever worked?
Help me, I got over it and divorced within a few months.
Help me, I got over it and divorced within a few months.
Posted on 4/16/23 at 11:44 am to geauxtigers87
As our marriage was failing my bat-shite crazy ex-wife insisted we try marriage counseling. We went to one session - my ex spent almost the entire 50 minute session berating me for all my faults. The counselor hardly spoke, but at the end of the session suggested we needed long-term counseling. I never agree to go back and shortly after that, I moved out and eventually filed for divorce. It took me two years to get my ex out of the house.
Posted on 4/16/23 at 11:45 am to Jake88
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Didn't work for me. My wife and I went because I was having a crisis and reverted to partying with friends around a nearby college. Was pretty immature. At the sessions I was told I could say anything but that wasn't true. When I lamented that being married freaked me out a bit because it meant I was going to have sex with only one woman the remainder of my life things got uncomfortable. I kept going as encouraged by the therapist and mentioned how the day before I had been wondering what type of underwear our Olive Garden waitress was wearing and well, that was it for my wife. We separated.
But that reads like it DID work for you.
You learned that you are not marriage material.
If you have a need for companionship, just be a pet owner. You got the dirty whore part down pat though. Somebody has to please skanks, so keep doing the lord’s work.
You should have just come to the OT and saved yourself time and money.
Posted on 4/16/23 at 11:47 am to geauxtigers87
I strongly believe all married couples should go to counseling together.
Posted on 4/16/23 at 11:47 am to geauxtigers87
She’s fricking other people.
Posted on 4/16/23 at 11:48 am to el Gaucho
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The only counselor a real man uses is named Jack Daniels
That’s Dr. Jack Daniels. Dosage prescribed may vary.
Posted on 4/16/23 at 11:59 am to geauxtigers87
It depends on the reason why you are going to counseling. If it is communication, division of labor stuff, and other “minor issues”, yes it can work.
This post was edited on 10/23/23 at 1:13 pm
Posted on 4/16/23 at 12:04 pm to el Gaucho
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Therapy is for soys
Real men find their mental health in a bottle
Sadly, this is true, which eventually catches up to them.
Posted on 4/16/23 at 12:08 pm to Patio
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Waste of time and money. If you can’t communicate freely (and for free) with your chosen spouse, why would you waste money and time to find out you’re not compatible.
If that is your attitude going into counseling sessions, you are right - it won’t work.
I do believe that counseling sessions are set up incorrectly as others have already described. It can appear to be “one-sided” initially and maybe even a second or third session as well. I can see why some people get very defensive and feel attacked.
However, if you can put aside your feelings for a moment and withstand the verbal insults, eventually you will get your opportunity to speak. The best thing that any of us can do is learn how to listen. Most of us hear, but we don’t listen. And if we do listen, we listen to reply instead of listening to understand.
And that’s a big difference. I thought I used to listen, but I now recognize I didn’t. I was terrible at it. And my former wife was very in tune with me not truly listening. I can’t go back and undo any of the wrongs I have done. Those are in my past and that’s where everything will stay. It’s a part of who I am, but it’s not who I am today.
I’m looking forward to my future, because there are many great days left for me to be different and better.
This post was edited on 4/16/23 at 12:12 pm
Posted on 4/16/23 at 12:16 pm to geauxtigers87
Choosing not to get married until family law courtrooms are less brutal toward men will do all men some good.
If you live in Louisiana there is no such thing as common law marriage. You can shack up and play house your whole life and as long as you don’t have any kids together your finances are totally safe.
Men should just stop getting married. Or at least stop licensing it through the state. You’re just inviting the state to screw you without lube when she hits you with the “I’m just not…” and if you have a kid together, then you get to be double stuffed by both the ex wife and the state at the same time.
Counselors are a rip off. They hardly ever do anything to help realistically long term. I’ve only known maybe two couples my entire life that went to counseling and are still together. When the female wants to go look for a better deal, or if she can become enabled by the state to have you pay alimony and child support while going look for a Chad elsewhere, she gone. Lol
If you live in Louisiana there is no such thing as common law marriage. You can shack up and play house your whole life and as long as you don’t have any kids together your finances are totally safe.
Men should just stop getting married. Or at least stop licensing it through the state. You’re just inviting the state to screw you without lube when she hits you with the “I’m just not…” and if you have a kid together, then you get to be double stuffed by both the ex wife and the state at the same time.
Counselors are a rip off. They hardly ever do anything to help realistically long term. I’ve only known maybe two couples my entire life that went to counseling and are still together. When the female wants to go look for a better deal, or if she can become enabled by the state to have you pay alimony and child support while going look for a Chad elsewhere, she gone. Lol
This post was edited on 4/16/23 at 12:19 pm
Posted on 4/16/23 at 12:20 pm to CrystalPreserves
It can work when you let it. Airing out everything and hearing you're wrong and she's also wrong hurts.
It's one of those it gets worse before it gets better deals. You will hate each other after therapy, then you have time to reflect and think on it. Then use the things you learned in therapy and it starts to get better.
It's one of those it gets worse before it gets better deals. You will hate each other after therapy, then you have time to reflect and think on it. Then use the things you learned in therapy and it starts to get better.
Posted on 4/16/23 at 12:23 pm to geauxtigers87
Sister tired it, failed
Posted on 4/16/23 at 12:24 pm to geauxtigers87
Women want attention and to be in control. Marriage counseling reaffirms all that. If two people can’t work out their own problems then why the frick are you married to start with. This just didn’t START happening.
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