re: Graph: How most couples meet through the decades

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Crazy that people aren't meeting people through mutual friends anymore - that's hard to comprehend - How can you rather meet a stranger off the internet based off some pictures and a couple of text messages versus being set-up through trusted friends. Glad I'm not in the dating scene - last thing I'd want to do is deal with dating via an app.

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People don’t have friends anymore.

And when they do, they don’t really get together.

Some day, you guys will accept how fricked the future generations are with tech and social media, but by then it will be far too late.

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That seems like it would remove the possibility of many of the small things that might make someone attractive to you other than looks.

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this probably doesn't happen much these days but this is how I met my SO at LSU, I was at jam-jam and had finished up my duties at our frat booth and was going around checking everything out and listening to bands, I got up on a cinder block wall to watch a band and felt a big pinch on my side right above my waistline, I looked over and this cute little cajun Pi Phi had a live crawfish sticking out of her pocket and had sort of danced/sidled right next to me, it was love at first bite!

My wife is 4.5 years older than me. Maybe I wouldn't have had that in my filter or whatever?

We hit it off almost immediately when we met in person though.

Met my wife at work.

Dated several women that I met online in various ways. None were bad experiences.

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I'm assuming you put in age, race etc your interested in on those apps.

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you may have repsponded to me in error, I've been married way longer than those apps existed, or the internet, or even water, for that matter

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I'm assuming "online" includes phone dating services. Those were a thing in the 80s. There were ads for them in the newspaper and commercials on tv.

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My buddy and me growing up would play around on the phone with those. It was fun until a husband showed up at my grandmothers house looking for “Horse Hung Dave” …. Still don’t know how that happened.

Most of us of a certain age laugh at the idea of online dating/meeting because in the early years of the internet (when we were out chasing women) that was the domain of nerds and weirdos. If you had a buddy who said he met a girl online he would have been laughed at...generally for good reason when/if he let you meet the girl. Attractive, in-demand, women didn't troll the internet for dates.

But society has changed. Computers, smart phones, apps, social medial, etc are ubiquitous. Thus, the stigma of "on line dating/meeting" isn't prevalent.

Hell, in some ways I'm jealous! Meeting women the "old way" (bars, through friends, work, class, etc) helped us developed the social skills many young people lack today, and toughened us up to face the possibility of crushing rejection, but the pool of potential dates was MUCH smaller.

If you would have told 20 year old me I could pull up a virtual database of dozens of available women (maybe more), pre-screen them, AND avoid running the risk of being rejected by knowing the girl was likewise interested in me before even reaching out to her I would have been all over it!

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This is actually a cultural tragedy on par with like the loss of a language.

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Was Ashely trying to be ironic here or am I giving her too much credit? At least she didn't say "literally".

How did people meet online in 1980?