re: Got Caught Cheating

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Where do I go to make new friends in New Orleans?

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say guh

I'm glad this thread is still here. I didn't have a chance to read it before, and feared it would be whacked before I got back to it.

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tl;dr: I was stupid and had an affair with a married man, got caught, and am now getting what I deserve for being an a-hole. I am hurting. I need new people to hang out with and I want to start over. Where do I go to make new friends in New Orleans?


I have been involved with a married man for the past 2.5 years. (Yes, I'm a whore…save it, I already know.) We have known each other since graduating from high school 24 years ago when we dated for a few years. He spent the last few years telling me every lie a man can tell a woman who loves him. And I believed him. (Yes, I'm a stupid whore…save it, I already know.)

Over the course of the affair, we spoke every day and saw each other at least once a week. Apparently between the myself and his wife he would have sex up to 7 times a day. His wife found out on more than one occasion what was going on, confronted us, and for whatever reason allowed him to stay every time. He would say he'd never see me again, but would contact me within hours to continue our relationship. (Apparently, we are both stupid.) On Thursday last week she again found messages we had sent to each other on his phone and confronted him about it. He again told her it was over between us and then proceeded to email me within a day, like always.

Last night she called me and we spoke for an hour. At first, I refused to answer her questions trying to protect him. After we talked and she told me the things he's been telling her, I agreed to give her all the information she needed about our affair. I just wanted him to call me and talk to me in front of her so I could address the things she said to me. He called. I questioned him. He said he wanted her and admitted to lying to me over and over, so I told her everything she needed to know. I asked him to never speak to me again.

He was pretty much my best friend, my only friend, over the past few years. Even though I know I deserve it, I am feeling pretty miserable and alone right now. Save the speeches on how I am a terrible person. Nothing you can say will make me feel any worse than I already do. I let an idiot use me and make a fool of me. Which makes me a bigger idiot than him.

I am divorced and have nothing but married friends. As part of my divorce arrangements, I stay home and deal with kids activities because my ex isn't available due to a ridiculous work schedule. I can't meet new people at work, like normal people do. I need people to talk to and to get out and do things with. I need to start over. I need to move on. I need a life that doesn't involve lies and hiding and sneaking around. I need friends. I don't want to Tinder because I'm not looking for just sex. Where do middle aged women with questionable judgement go to meet new friends?

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I went all 20, and feel all stupid and used. Where can I go OP to get my self respect back?

As pointed out, the 7 times daily is a red flag for a lie. Women, even in self deprecation mode, never call themselves whores. This poster did so multiple times.

All of the posts have been deleted except the OP. The OP was left up because he still wants the attention and wants a bit more life from the thread. One of the subsequent posts, now deleted, uses phrases that GingerKittie uses. This is odd because she would not do a post like this. It goes against the grain of her character.

I am putting my money on it being a poster who is banned, creating an account from work or a different IP address.

Also, while well done, the original troll offered very little additional detail when the questions poured in. I don't think 20 pages was expected. Maybe he will come back when he gets to work today.

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Dude in his 40s having sex up to 7 times a day? Sure.

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I wonder if he posted in the cialis thread.

How did this alter's troll thread not only make it two days but 20 pages??? The OT never ceases to amaze at what they will bite on.

And the bear said, "You're not here for the hunting, are you?"

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Save the speeches on how I am a terrible person. Nothing you can say will make me feel any worse than I already do.

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I don't think you're a terrible person.

I think we call people who do this terrible as a way to protect ourselves against it happening to us.

The truth is that people are weak and flawed and need forgiveness. That includes all of us.

Learn from it, be contrite, but don't live your life believing you aren't worthy of love or happiness. We were made for those things, so continue to hope in your creator that you will find them.