re: Girlfriend wants shared locations.

Write off the 3 years as a loss and start over.

I share my location for my wife and its not to spy on each other. But also we don't have anything to hide from one another.

Its usually used for mundane things like seeing if I have left work to know when to have dinner ready.

It did help one time when we were first married and she went out with work friends and decided to leave them to go meet up with other friends at a different bar. I woke up around 2 am and she wasn't home and wasn't answering her phone. I could see she was at one of the bars we used to hangout at so I drove over to see if she was ok. Infidelity never crossed my mind but her being in danger definitely did because this was very out of character for her.

Turned out she was asleep in the Uber and the driver didn't know what to do so he just parked in front of the bar and called a female friend to wait with him as witness that nothing nefarious happened. They could hear Her phone ringing but it was in her back pocket and neither felt comfortable grabbing it for fear of being accused of something. I don't blame them at all for that.

I helped her to our car, tipped the driver $100, and went home. Without sharing our locations, I am not sure how I would have found her.

Edit: Should I be ashamed that sharing locations allowed me to find my missing wife? My story doesn't mean that everyone NEEDS to share locations with their SO, just pointing out that it did come in handy in a pinch.

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Can someone explain to me what the problem is with your SO knowing where you are?

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it’s unnatural and weird

You people bitch about technology ruining everything and then track the location of adults and can’t understand why others wouldn’t want to

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it’s unnatural and weird

You people bitch about technology ruining everything and then track the location of adults and can’t understand why others wouldn’t want to

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Yall have weird insecurities. I get not wanting to share locations with a GF but once you're married I don't see the issue.

I do fully agree its an issue if your SO IS actually gonna use it to spy on you and question you about everywhere you go. That would clearly be a problem.

But honestly in a healthy marriage (emphasis on the HEALTHY), sharing locations isn't some indicator of mistrust. Its actually a sign of full trust because the two of you are ride or die and aren't worried about being spied on by the other.

And again, I am not saying sharing a location is a necessity for everyone (make your own decisions) but being staunchly against ANYONE sharing their location is a sign that you probably shouldn't be trusted.

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think he said it in the OP. She wants to share locations for safety reasons which is understandable imo.

Now I don't know her and if she is just using that as an excuse to spy on OP then thats an issue but if it really just for her to feel safe and he has nothing to hide I don't see the issue.

Also its not like a tattoo or a child, If you share your location with her and she starts questioning you about where you are and what you're doing then you can unshare the location with her.

Honestly now that I think about it, this might be a good litmus test for if she is wife material. IF she is a nut about the location thing once its shared, you now know to cut bait and run. If she has the location and doesn't bother you have a keeper.

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If the OP has not given a reason for this women not to trust him she should not be asking him to allow her to track him. End of story.

If there is another underlying issue she has a problem with she needs to be an adult and consult her possible future husband rather than trying to watch him on an app and avoid discussion altogether.

Where do you see this relationship going?

If after 3 years, it's just a placeholder, then tell her no, it's probably just a test for her to decide where things are without asking. A no probably means she starts scouting around for another guy.

If you expect to get engaged/married then what is the harm?


Of course, I've been married 31 years so privacy is pretty much non-existent. We did Life360 with our kids and still use it.

Comes in handy for me to know when I need to pick crap up before she gets home

Vote here for hell no.

We (married) don't even share bank accounts (they are linked, but not joint). We both enjoy a modicum of privacy from each other.

Know that even if your GF gives in and says ok to the tracking shite, just know you're going to have an apple air tag bugged in your car soon, if not already.

Consider upgrading to a more laid back girlfriend.

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She claims she wants it for safety reasons, like if I were to get kidnapped or something.

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Why are yall so defensive? This quote is from OP. He even states that the reason she says she wants to share locations is for safety reasons.

Its just so weird and insecure that yall cant fathom a reason for sharing locations other than to spy. Its possible to be in a healthy relationship where you share locations in case of emergency and then NOT spy on each other.

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We don't even share bank accounts (they are linked, but not joint). We both enjoy a modicum of privacy from each other.

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People share bank accounts with their girlfriends?
That’s the stupidest shite I ever heard.