re: Friend Zone: Male Entitlement-Rape Culture

Everybody is gay and autistic? Seems about right.

I had that issue in high school twice. The first one was 8th and 9th grade. I never made a move, and she moved on. Definitely dodged a crazy bullet with that one. The second one was basically scenario 1 in 11th and 12th grade. She kept going back and forth on whether or not she thought she liked me before flat out telling me she just wasn't attracted to me after I poured my heart out. It was devastating, but necessary.

I'm glad I took the actions I did. They taught me lessons about who I was, and what I needed to do to become who I needed to be. Now, I'm married, and that relationship never would have happened without learning from those "friend zone" experiences. To me, being "friend zoned" is not an insult. It is an audit. It tells you what it is you are doing wrong and how to fix it. It tells you that you are chasing after the wrong person, and generally that you are viewing, treating, and signaling interest the wrong way. Without that feedback, I never would have learned better and grown as a person.

DO NOT EVER DATE A CHICK WHO PUTS WORDS OR MEMES AS HER PICS!

I'd imagine OKC in LC sucks arse. Hell, I didn't find too many interesting girls in New Orleans



Eta: I put myself in the friend zone once, and regret that now. Chick wanted to date me, but I was more concerned with partying. We ended up having almost identical career paths, both enjoy the same stuff, her family liked me, etc. Too bad she lives far away now, or I'd be on it.

from like 16-22 i legitimately hated myself so that's the biggest reason why i couldn't bring myself to think the girl liked me to make a move

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To me, being "friend zoned" is not an insult. It is an audit. It tells you what it is you are doing wrong and how to fix it. It tells you that you are chasing after the wrong person, and generally that you are viewing, treating, and signaling interest the wrong way. Without that feedback, I never would have learned better and grown as a person.

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i agree. that's why i said in many of the 2nd examples i fricked it up

i don't like that i did and i wish most people wouldn't put such stock into initial behavioral interactions, but people are irrational and i jut have to accept that

My guess was that this was written by a woman and....

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SAREEEMA HUSAIN

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I will assume I'm correct.

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It’s important to be aware that the term “friend zone” inherently relies on the concept of male entitlement.

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No it isn't and no it doesn't. It means that she sticks you off to the side in case other shite falls through and she needs someone to buy her shite or take care of her while she is looking for someone else.

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Because sexual entitlement is so normalized, men can easily fall into the trap of thinking that the “friend zone” is a legitimate way to criticize women’s choices. The only way to be rid of the “friend zone” is to stop using the term in favour of building mutual relationships.

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I have never heard anyone use the term friend zone as a criticism to a woman but more as a joke to a buddy.

Pay attention to every single thing every person does, and maybe read a couple of books about mannerisms. Being able to read someone's eyes is most important when talking to them

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Like, how do I even respond to this level of retardation?

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