re: Florida ends "Alimony for life". Divorced broads are freaking out. This is hilarious.

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Alimony if given, should be maxed out at 2-3 years.

No justification otherwise to keep the gravy train rolling.

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Playing devils' advocate here-

Say wife puts husband through medical school, sacrificing her own career goals and education when doing so. Wife works multiple jobs with long hours while husband devotes his time to his studies, both focused on the betterment of their future together.

Upon becoming a medical doctor, husband encourages wife to be a stay at home wife/mother. Wife reluctantly agrees, again sacrificing any career goals she may have had.

After many years of marriage when wife is in her golden years and past her prime (beauty/earning potential) husband leaves her for a younger woman.


Serious question, do you think alimony should be limited to just a couple of years in this scenario?

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Wondering how the state will determine that they are living with someone new? What criteria are they using? People will always find a way to game the system.

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I'm sure the ex husband would have no problem doing a little recon and submitting documents and evidence to the state.

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Say wife puts husband through medical school, sacrificing her own career goals and education when doing so. Wife works multiple jobs with long hours while husband devotes his time to his studies, both focused on the betterment of their future together.

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So she is waiting tables or something?

If she is paying for his medical school, she has a career.

I know you're playing devils advocate

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why is the man on the hook to support someone who doesnt want to work after they have been divorced 10 years or more? especially if she is the one who wanted the divorce.

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yep, I got divorced in FL, the ex presents a request for alimony to the judge maintaining that she might be able to get by on $13.5k/mo., no plan for learning a skill/vocation, he told her to get real and come up with some new figures, she was able to pare it down to a paltry $10.5k/mo.

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Playing devils' advocate here-

Say wife puts husband through medical school, sacrificing her own career goals and education when doing so. Wife works multiple jobs with long hours while husband devotes his time to his studies, both focused on the betterment of their future together.

Upon becoming a medial doctor, husband encourages wife to be a stay at home wife/mother. Wife reluctantly agrees, again sacrificing any career goals she may have had.

After many years of marriage when wife is in her golden years and past her prime (beauty/earning potential) husband leaves her for a younger woman.


Serious question, do you think alimony should be limited to just a couple of years in this scenario?

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They are still splitting assets, I assume that they'd have a considerable amount of assets if they were married for many years. So yes, she should still probably only get a few years of alimony.

Which works if you have proof of major wrongdoing in each case

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I didn't think Louisiana had alimony at all.

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We have it. Interim alimony is not allowed to be waived via prenup. It is 6 months, but almost always gets approved for an additional 6 months. So 1 year total.

According to my attorney (recently went through prenup stuff, and I used a BR divorce attorney for it), permanent alimony is pretty rare and mostly only used for old couples and/or disabled people. An able bodied 35 year old ain't getting permanent alimony.

Either way, alimony is calculated by filling out a massive Excel sheet that lists all of your expenses. They take your total expenses, less your income, and then the other spouse would pay the difference if there is one. It's not like the child support racket where the higher earning spouse is paying some absurd amount based on their income.

In Louisiana, it appears to be pretty rare. Doubt this lady who is one of the constantly recommended divorce attorneys in BR recommended here lied to me.

Like I said, vast majority of people conflate child support with alimony. Child support 100% fricks men all the time. But child support is not alimony. Divorce without kids is a completely different situation and only in certain situations is someone fricked by specifically alimony.

I urge anyone going get a prenup to focus a hell of a lot less on alimony and a hell of a lot more on community property. Half your home, half your property, half your investments.. that's all up for grabs without a prenup. You'll be wishing it was just alimony.

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We have it. Interim alimony is not allowed to be waived via prenup. It is 6 months, but almost always gets approved for an additional 6 months. So 1 year total.

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Ex wife tried to stick me with permanent alimony although she wanted to stay home with the kids. She had a college degree with as much or more earnings potential than mine. Her father set her up in the family business and made sure most of what she was paid was off the books.

And this mooch is still mad at me!!!

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No. Protecting your own investments that took place during the marriage (i.e. waiving community property) is one of the top reasons to require a prenup. Alimony is but a blip on the radar. It's nothing. Very few people here pay permanent alimony and it is calculated based on proven expenses; not income. If alimony was all you'd be on the hook for, many men would be very happy. It's having to give away half of all your assets that fricks people without prenups. Half the home, half other property you own, half your investments, etc.

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I said one of, meaning there are multiple reasons—I’m sure you recall the intricacies from law school