Feeling guilt someone has gone, even if you couldn’t have done anything...how do you cope?

Live every day at a time. You can’t change the past. I’m sure you did everything you should have at the time but at times we can’t control everything.

Just live everyday the best as people past and present who have cared for you would wish and you’ll do them proud

I started This thread that day...so many years back now. And I remember everything.
It’s like i sealed fate

My father even told me that it should have been me, and it should have.

It’s like the universe played a cruel cosmic joke.

Honor him by living each day to it’s best.

You do nothing positive or meritous by looking back in regret or “what ifs”.

Keep him high in your chest. Keep your chin up. Live!

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With the feeling that somewhere, somewhen, you could have done something to save them?

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The past is gone - written - kaput. That person, based on your post is gone. All you can do today and going forward is do things for others who are still here.

Period. All we have is now. I'm as guilty as anybody of wasting it. But waste it at your peril. You have to live with the consequences of it.

Nothing you can do when someone is determined. Somehow you have to find a way to move on.


CSB?

My brother has been going through some medical issues for the past 2 years. He told me one day that he had been seriously contemplating suicide. My only advice to him was not to do that to his wife and kids. Please tell me if you reach that point that you can't go on and I will kill you so they don't have to blame themselves. I can handle the blame and the time.

Yes, I really had this discussion with my brother.

Eh, it’s true. I’d have taken his place if I could.


Life for life, if there was some bargain to be struck in the cosmos. Without hesitation.

But there isn’t. It’s just the living that linger on and the dead are consigned to somewhere beyond these realms.

Stone markers in forgotten fields to mark our brief passing through this life

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.so many years back now. And I remember everything.
It’s like i sealed fate

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I remember that happening to you. I still think about that incident almost every time I see one of your post. It's kinda strange to see how long ago something like that was from a distance. I don't know you as anyone other than fr22manator and I never knew your brother either but I feel like this tragedy happened to a close friend of mine and like it was only about 2 or so years ago.

Strange feeling. I'm sorry for you and your family's loss. I'm sure he was a heck of a guy. I've often wondered if you all ever learned the 'what's and 'hows' of that horrific event. Not asking you to share such details, but just curious if you ever got answers to all the questions.

I can’t fight it. 6 years and the wound still lays raw and open this night.

I remember the last words I told him. “I love you bubba.”



At least they were good words. But god it still hurts. And he’s still Gone tonight just like every other night but somehow it just lays in harder, colder.

I could have been there. Could have saved him.
I just miss him so damn much.

Tell the ones you love how much they mean to you because the dawn isn’t promised

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