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re: father has cancer and it's spreading all over.
Posted on 4/22/16 at 6:05 am to Neotropical
Posted on 4/22/16 at 6:05 am to Neotropical
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Posted on 4/22/16 at 6:29 am to oldcharlie8
I'm in the same boat as you, OP. We were just told Wednesday that my dad only has months left and that any chemo they do is just to extend his life. There is no cure for his cancer (small cell lung cancer) and that we need to start preparing for the worst. He was cleared of it in October but it came nack more aggressive and is now in his liver too.
It's been a rough two days realizing I am about to lose my father. I am making an effort to spend every free minute I can with him and do whatever he wants while we still can. Not sure what else to do besides that.
I am dead tired already from not sleeping and my nerves are shot. I don't even remember the drive home after I left the Dr's office after we got the news because I was, and still am, pretty numb. I am not sure how I will make it through months of this but I will not let him know that. It's a lot to take in and I feel like no matter what, I will still have some regrets about things when he does pass. I guess that's just the nature of the situation.
It's been a rough two days realizing I am about to lose my father. I am making an effort to spend every free minute I can with him and do whatever he wants while we still can. Not sure what else to do besides that.
I am dead tired already from not sleeping and my nerves are shot. I don't even remember the drive home after I left the Dr's office after we got the news because I was, and still am, pretty numb. I am not sure how I will make it through months of this but I will not let him know that. It's a lot to take in and I feel like no matter what, I will still have some regrets about things when he does pass. I guess that's just the nature of the situation.
Posted on 4/22/16 at 6:59 am to oldcharlie8
It sucks had it in my blood Lymphoma and had inpatient Chemo.
I heard bone cancers were worse than blood related cancers ad a 29yr old guy die while I was inpatient in a room next to mine.
His spread into the bone.
We use to get up and sneak into kids side of the hospital at MD Anderson and play wheel chair basketball at night to pass the time.
I heard bone cancers were worse than blood related cancers ad a 29yr old guy die while I was inpatient in a room next to mine.
His spread into the bone.
We use to get up and sneak into kids side of the hospital at MD Anderson and play wheel chair basketball at night to pass the time.
Posted on 4/22/16 at 7:06 am to cwil177
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Get a good Cancer doctor.
I had Dr Pat Stagg, great man, great Doc, if your in BR. He's treated patients that MD Anderson wouldn't fwiw.....
Posted on 4/22/16 at 8:22 am to oldcharlie8
Read "on death and dying" by Elizabeth kubler Ross....only about 80 pages. Helps you to understand the stages both he and loved ones will go through.
Posted on 4/22/16 at 8:25 am to Broke
quote:did not have good experience with them at all!
hospice Carpenter house
Hospice of Baton Rouge. Ask for Lisa Comeaux. She was wonderful to my Dad and Mom.
Posted on 4/22/16 at 8:28 am to stout
quote:very sorry for you bud. Prayers for peace thru these hard times.
I'm in the same boat as you, OP.
Posted on 4/22/16 at 8:32 am to CorkSoaker
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If you have the means to go to MD Anderson--do it ASAP!
MD Anderson almost killed my Dad 3 years before the cancer did.
They performed a Neo-Bladder procedure and infection spread throughout his body and they released him. Kept him there for a month and said he was good to go.2 months later he laid in his deathbed at Gulf Shores hospital and they didn't know what in the hell was going on with him.Finally found the infection and direct placement of the right antibiotics pulled him from death. He lived 3 more years with the care of Dr. Hanson at MBP
Posted on 4/22/16 at 8:35 am to oldcharlie8
My father passed away from cancer within the past year and it was extremely difficult. The final couple of months were almost hopeless when it set in that improvement would not happen. Cancer sucks so bad that his passing felt like a blessing.
I read an article recently about a cancer study indicating that regularly getting your heart rate up may help to decrease cancer risk. This makes sense and seems obvious but there are many Americans over 40 (even those not overweight) that get their only exercise by walking the dog, playing golf, or other forms that don't have the same effect.
I read an article recently about a cancer study indicating that regularly getting your heart rate up may help to decrease cancer risk. This makes sense and seems obvious but there are many Americans over 40 (even those not overweight) that get their only exercise by walking the dog, playing golf, or other forms that don't have the same effect.
Posted on 4/22/16 at 8:39 am to oldcharlie8
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anyone can give me advice to make this NOT SUCK so fricking much?
nope,
you have to go thru the pain bro
you cannot avoid it...
it does suck, been there done that, sorry about that
Posted on 4/22/16 at 9:16 am to oldcharlie8
My father had transition cell Cancer.
My advice is to spend time recalling the great times you had together and pray for as painless a release for him as can be.
At the end, let him go knowing you have done everything you can to bring joy to the time he has left.
Prayers for you, you dad and your entire family.
My advice is to spend time recalling the great times you had together and pray for as painless a release for him as can be.
At the end, let him go knowing you have done everything you can to bring joy to the time he has left.
Prayers for you, you dad and your entire family.
Posted on 4/22/16 at 9:21 am to oldcharlie8
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nyone can give me advice to make this NOT SUCK so fricking much?
Not advice to make it not suck...but I know people who have interviewed their parents on video. If there is any way to get him to tell you about his childhood, his life experience. There will be a time when it will be more valuable than you can imagine. The bonus...you can't do it without spending dedicated time with him. Use it as an opportunity to get to better know your father as the person he is outside of him being your dad.
I know it sounds cliche' but I am really sorry for your pain. I hope your father has the best remaining time possible with all that is going on.
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