re: Ever cut ties with a parent?

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No. You’ll live with regret

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In no way do I regret my choice.

I give no fricks.

Not me per se, but my grandfather’s leaving my grandma and mother (when she was 1 or 2) in the early 40’s is the reason I ended going to LSU. He moved to Metairie from Missouri (where my mom and grandma were) and did well for himself. He came back into her life around ‘76 and out of guilt offered to move me down to Metairie and send me to LSU. Took him up on it.

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regret

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While this may be true for some, I didn’t/don’t. My father was an evil sob. I didn’t attend his funeral this past summer and prior to that I hadn’t seen him in decades. I believe I’m a better person/husband/father for not having him in our lives.

Yes. My mother was a tyrant. After the last time she dog-cussed me for not driving from Florida to Louisiana the day after Katrina I had finally had enough. 50 years of that bullshite and that was the final straw.

I had not spoken to her in over 10 years when she died. I did go to the funeral just to make sure she was really dead. Did not cry a single tear and haven't yet. It was like being let out of prison.

Not a parent but my Grandmother. My Dad had complications from open heart surgery and after 4-5 months moved in with her where someone could be with him 24/7. By the time he was able to return to work he had lost his home. When he died several years later she began giving many of his belongings away to his Brothers. He had no will but was very specific in his journal how all of his belongings would be divided by my sister and I. She and I had some words but I was hesitant to push it too far at that moment because she was recovering from a heart attack herself. I cut all ties for about two years. She made no bones about the fact I was her favorite grandchild but was way too prideful to admit that she was wrong so the stalemate continued. The last time she was hospitalized (I saw on my cousin’s Facebook) something told me to go see her. I walked in, she perked up and acted if those two years never happened. As we were leaving I turned to tell her I would see her Tomorrow and tears were streaming down her face.

I got the call the next morning that she was gone. Several of my cousins and two of her sisters hugged me and whispered in my ear “She was just waiting on you “. It broke my heart but I’m not sure whether or not I would change a thing.

My daughter has cut ties with her mother. My ex was a an alcoholic and a moron so my daughter has nothing to do with her

Went over 20 years without seeing or talking to my Dad. He was an a-hole. My grandparents were Saints however.

Sad thread to read. I was comparatively blest.

I hope the best outcome possible for any of those who still have live parents and/or at least an eventual peace to all with regard to their parents.

<—— Dad dead since ‘89 (good dude)
<—— Mom (no pics) dead since ‘96 (wonderful lady)

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Have any of you ever had a falling out with a parent where you cut ties with them completely and don't plan to ever see or talk to them again or attend their funeral?

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I've helped a friend through that before. It takes a toll is all I will say, but sometimes a toll now is more than the continued terribleness of having them in your life.