re: Drinking because you are bored

It's not trouble, it's natural.

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I drink heavily now(3 days a week) since my wife passed.

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Unless you're downing a fifth 3 days week that isn't that bad, but you will end up drinking every day the way you are going. That's what I did, went from a couple of times a week to every day in a little over a year. I was diagnosed with cirrhosis in April, I'm 53, have not had a drop since. I focused on getting healthy. I've lost a 120lbs and now feel great. I was getting 1800 calories just off beer, I was a Coors banquet and IPA drinker. The only time I've really missed it is when we went to the beach.

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(3 days a week)

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My dad, before he got really sick (he passed away in 1998), he used to come home with a 6 pack every day and drink while he did stuff he had to do.. or as long as it wasn't cold outside, sit outside and talk with the neighbors, eat supper, take a shower, and when he was finished his last sip he went to bed. On Fridays he would come home with a few tall boys and a case for the weekend so 3 times a day don't really seem that bad. If that's what you like and it doesn't have much of an impact on you... I don't see a problem. But if its just to fill a void, what about some exercise?

We used to live down the road from an older couple and he and his wife would walk every evening (as long as the weather was good). His wife was doing it to make sure he was doing what the doctor told him he needed to do and ole boy would start off with a beer in hand and one in his pocket. But when I was a kid, there used to be a bus driver who owned his own business. He would do his route in the morning, did his work between routes and would bring a small ice chest with him on his route and drink his miller lite ponies.

He retired and no longer had his business and was still driving when things changed with insurance and he was told he could no longer drink while driving in the afternoon. He told them he was done. Looking back to those days, it was know that he loved his ponies and no one ever mentioned "he shouldn't be drinking while driving kids". He had been doing it for so long, he was driving the kids and and I am sure some grandkids of people who used to ride his bus so it was something that was normal.

Find somewhere to go. A coffee shop or something? Somewhere you can interact with people, you never know what will come of it. Any parks around? Any type of low stress part time job you can get? Go to some Vandy home games. Go listen to some live music. Of course you will be more likely to drink, but at least you will not be alone.

Smoke weed.

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Enter sparkling water.

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I installed a continuous carbonated water tap in my outdoor kitchen…game changer. A couple big cups of cold club soda will keep me off the usual 2-3 beers, it hydrates instead of dehydrates, and I feel much better the next day.

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Those of you with serious replies, thank you. You others go frick yourselves. I wouldn’t wish what I am going through on my worst enemy.

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I mean you say you won’t stop fighting for your life with not long to live, you watched your wife slowly die but you drink a lot . Am I missing something here?

I actually thought about an aquarium and also a red bearded dragon. I ended up siding against it because not having long left to live, it would become someone else’s problem

I would golf and spend time with the grandkids. Especially if you're headed to Jacksonville.

Can you make the decision one day to not drink alcohol that day and stick with it?

If so, you aren't in trouble. Alcoholics can't stop themselves. They've lost all self control. It doesn't sound like you've done.

My advice: practice discipline by setting goals to not drink alcohol and then accomplish them. 24 hours here, 72 hours there. Skip a whole weekend. Maybe go 5 days.

Do enough to give yourself the confidence that you're still in control and the alcohol isn't.

Also, sorry for your loss.

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Some dicklickers and trolls

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My first response in this thread last night was this. I apologize to the OP. I now recall his thread after his wife passed.

I would just say that it's good he sees there might be an issue with his drinking. I guess being aware of it is a good start.

Seen so many friends' lives and families suffer due to alcohol abuse. It's a brutal disease.

Always good to see the support for fellow posters in such threads.