re: Do you let your kids have sleepovers?

My kids had sleepovers almost every weekend, 90% of the time it was at our house. I thought it was fun to make a big breakfast for a bunch of kids, the kid next door would sneak in for banana pancakes even if he hadn't spent the night.

We played games like Pictionary with them, if they asked us to, I didn't want to intrude unless us asked. I always enjoyed being the house the kids, and their parents, felt comfortable having them hanging out. One night I was making popcorn for a bunch of 8th and 9th grade girls, and I smelled cigarette smoke on one of them. She had been sneaking out in the backyard, since I knew her parents well, I ratted her out. They were grateful.

Parents have to stick together.

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so a 7 year old should be past all of their fears? What kind of mental, nonunderstanding of a kids psyche, do you have? If my kid was having trouble and you did that shite we would have a serious problem. its not your job to parent. Its your job to facilitate a safe place for them to enjoy and have fun hanging out. But, you overstep that line with your thinking.

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again go read the thread instead of runnig at the first response. i clarrified that

i specifically said it was good friends kids, we discussed before hand with kid and parents, it was 4th graders etc etc

i still think if you are 7 you should not be scared to stay at someones house.

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Its your job to facilitate a safe place for them to enjoy and have fun hanging out

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who the hell said i didnt/dont?

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We recently moved him into the basement. He has about 1500 sq feet to himself.

My best friend throughout elementary and high school had this situation the last few years of school. His place was THE place. Either to get into shite, sneak out to get into shite, or get into shite and sneak in very late to sleep it off.

Your post brought up so much nostalgia of trying not to and so eti.es getting busted by his mom and dad.

We were such little shits.

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The problem with all this shenanigans these days is if someone gets hurt, you will be sued. And we have a pool, 4 wheelers, pond, etc., lots of ways a drunk teenager could get hurt.

Just faced this w my 16 yo and his HS football buddies...when I was out of town a while back, my wife let 4-5 of them sleep out in the gameroom. Somebody brought White Claws and they drank a pint of my Fireball. Horsing around they bent the shite out of a folding table in my garage. I wasn't pissed about it, but did talk to my son. I made it clear I will not under any circumstances allow underage kids drink alcohol on our property and that if he had friends over, I will monitor them.

The other day he wanted to have kids over. I reminded him must warn them they can't bring alcohol and since our playroom where they hang out is right next to the garage where I hang out, I reserve the right to drop in on them any time I want. He cancelled the event.

It's actually kinda sad where we are now as a society, living in fear and always wanting to blame someone else for our mistakes.

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So many male posters in this thread have questioned your line of thinking (or lack of thought) yet I am the only one who gets the left field, sexist, condescending name thrown at me.

Sounds like someone might have some mommy issues of his own, sweetheart.

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na not sexist, would have said the same male/female poster and yea i explained to them in follow up post and almost every single one said....in that case...yea prolly right

if you discuss with the parents before hand and the kid before hand...the dad is 100% on board and you do it(granted talking 4th/5th/6th graders here) then yea my thinking isnt wrong

isnt some random thing were i told random kid who stayed the night....nope cant call parents..im not a dick head

this was something that was discusses, both times, with the parents, with the kids and they knew.



eta: btw i shouldnt have been an arse and said that. i do apologize

The issue with having kids spend the night at your house is that you are under 'strict liability' as long as they are on your property. Anything happens to them on your property, and you are basically guilty until proven innocent (not literally but pretty damn close to it). My dad never liked giving in and allowing kids to spend the entire night at our house growing up bec of it. Also one of the reasons he never would put in a pool. Bec he knew the neighborhood kids would all be over there. You pool owners should also have locks on your gates. Some kid sneaks in there in the night to swim and drink some White Claws with his g/f and drowns..you better hope you have good insurance to fight off the potentially massive incoming lawsuit.

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Son is 8 and I think that's old enough, but at the same time I don't want any kids at my house. Haha. I know that's selfish, but especially at that age, they are so damned loud and destructive. Looks like a tornado hit the game room if anyone comes over for just an hour. Other houses, we'd have to know the parents a bit.

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This is where I'm at. I can't stand his two neighborhood friends, they are like a tornado. Plus, they argue constantly. I don't think they'd survive 12 hours of being together. I definitely wouldn't.

We've done sleepovers with family/cousins, but other families that we know and trust really well have kids of totally different age ranges.

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No screaming unless you are stabbed, no shoes coming in wiht grass or mud, put your crap up, throw your trash away, no food or drinks in the bedrooms and stay outside as much as possible.

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Same, but I still can't stand them.

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pretty sure i read something that said a HUGE % of sexual assault of children is from a stepdad/mom's bf situation

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Too many creeps thinking porn is real life or is real life reflected in porn

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I also have a girl, so I'm a bit protective

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totally different situation

and random arse kid at my house....yea they can call over anything....parents not on board....yea call....live down the street where i can watch you walk home....yea call