re: Do people without children worry about dying old and alone?

Nope. I got no kids to worry about after I'm gone. I don't need life insurance or anything.

Nope, I wanted kids early in life but never found the "one" now I spend my time (and extra money) traveling and buying whatever I want.

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I just never want to have kids or ever have to be around them.

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Absolutely nothing wrong with having this mindset. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I can respect someone that has examined themselves and realized being a parent wasn't for them. Better than having kids just because that is "what you are supposed to do".

Taking care of an old sick dude once. He talks to his daughter on the cell. Hangs up and says, "don't ever have kids". I said the same what about someone to care for you? He says, "That's a ridiculous reason to have kids. I love her to death, but wouldn't trust her with my cat, much less me!"

I was a big "don't want to get married or have kids ever" guy until I met my wife. Was real into partying, "taking cool trips," playing golf, etc. That kind of got old to me after a while. Have two beautiful, loving kids now and watching them both being born was the best memories of my life. I'd bet a lot of the posters here are very young and haven't had the shift I did in my late twenties yet but it will come. Kids give your life purpose and make you become a man. The things some posters are mentioning about taking cool trips and buying whatever they want just seem trivial to me, and if you are a successful individual you can still raise kids properly and treat yourself to most of these things anyway.

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I don't worry about them. Their beta genes and upbringing leads them to not reproduce. Sucks for them at the end, but everyone else is better off.

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Those people that have 10 kids they can't or won't support are such alphas, right? The country is better off because of them?

Never worried about dying alone. Used to worry about not having anybody there when I got old to tell me I've got hair growing out of my ears. Barber takes care of that, so those worries were unwarranted.

Whether you are by yourself or have 10 people in the room, you are going to go out alone.

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haven't had the shift I did in my late twenties yet but it will come

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Everyone is different. Not everyone has that "must have kids" moment you are talking about.

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Kids give your life purpose

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So people that can't have kids(and couldn't adopt) basically are shite out of luck when it comes to having a purpose in life?


Someone who never marries or has a child has no purpose in your eyes?

If you have a child and they die, you no longer have any purpose in your life?





I mean, I want a child and all but it really annoys me when people say stuff like that. I get your sentiment and all...but it's highly insensitive to those that didn't have children...for whatever reason.

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I was a big "don't want to get married or have kids ever" guy until I met my wife. Was real into partying, "taking cool trips," playing golf, etc. That kind of got old to me after a while. Have two beautiful, loving kids now and watching them both being born was the best memories of my life. I'd bet a lot of the posters here are very young and haven't had the shift I did in my late twenties yet but it will come. Kids give your life purpose and make you become a man. The things some posters are mentioning about taking cool trips and buying whatever they want just seem trivial to me, and if you are a successful individual you can still raise kids properly and treat yourself to most of these things anyway.

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Wow. Just... Wow.

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but I can hear your ovaries rumbling through my iPhone...

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The point is...you don't know what anyone's personal experience is. You don't know why someone is without children. Maybe they chose to be, maybe it was chosen for them instead.


For example...I'm currently doing fertility treatments(I've been fairly open of this because it pisses me off the stigma attached to couples facing infertility). Turns out I have a medical condition that makes it difficult to get pregnant naturally(that has nothing to do with my age either). Just a shitty hand dealt to me, but doesn't have to be the end of the world either. I'm hopeful the fertility treatments work for me, but am trying to also be realistic and consider that becoming a mother may just not be in God's plan for me.