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re: Do most women keep their married last name after they divorce if they have kids?
Posted on 5/26/17 at 10:58 am to tke857
Posted on 5/26/17 at 10:58 am to tke857
My exwife still has my last name. Why go thru the hassle of changing it? I assume it's a psychological connection to the kid to still have the same last name.
Not to mention it would be a fn hassle to change names on everything.
Not to mention it would be a fn hassle to change names on everything.
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Posted on 5/26/17 at 11:08 am to tke857
My sister changed hers back to her maiden name because her ex was an abusive a-hole. My niece was already 18 so it was left up to her what she wanted and she kept her dad's name.
Posted on 5/26/17 at 11:22 am to tke857
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Do most women keep their married last name after they divorce if they have kids?
Yes, until:
The alimony checks stop coming in
The kids are over 18
Posted on 5/26/17 at 11:25 am to tke857
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Yall know of anyone who has done this? If so, does the ex-husband mind? What about the new woman does she mind?
Yes, but here is why. I am dating a woman that has a kid now that is divorced and I asked her.
Apparently, it is a gigantic pain in the arse to change your name. You have to deal with banks, SS, DMV, etc so they don't bother until they have to.
Posted on 5/26/17 at 11:32 am to tke857
I know lots of people who have including my own mother. I've never heard of the ex giving a damn, but not sure about the new spouse if remarried.
Posted on 5/26/17 at 11:32 am to Warfarer
I looked into as my father took on his stepfathes name. Its not that difficult. People just lazy.
Posted on 5/26/17 at 11:41 am to Nado Jenkins83
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I looked into as my father took on his stepfathes name. Its not that difficult. People just lazy.
Lazy?
Several hours at Social Security Office
Several hours at DMV
Write up a bunch of letters to send to banks/credit cards/insurance companies/utilities
Update passport
Change email address at work. Have to get missed emails due to no one knowing your new email address
New logins
Repeat if remarried
No thanks. You can just use your married name without having to formally change all this stuff.
Posted on 5/26/17 at 11:42 am to Nado Jenkins83
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I looked into as my father took on his stepfathes name. Its not that difficult. People just lazy.
how old was he when he did it? if he was a minor then you wouldn't have a ton of shite to do and his step-father most likely had to do the majority of the work.
Posted on 5/26/17 at 11:47 am to Nado Jenkins83
It isn't difficult, but it is a pain in the arse. Going to the DMV & SSA was easy. Changing it on evvvvery other account--banks, utilities, work, car insurance, heath insurance, every doctor's office, etc.--is annoying. 2 years later, I'm still finding random doctors and accounts that need to be changed. With half of them, I've reached a "frick it" level.
It does seem like a weird reason to keep an ex's name, if that is their only excuse. I'm guessing they feel attached to the name for whatever reason & are making excuses. My maiden name felt foreign to me after a decade with another name. It was a mental adjustment, since names are a big part of identity and I had no animosity toward my ex or his family.
It does seem like a weird reason to keep an ex's name, if that is their only excuse. I'm guessing they feel attached to the name for whatever reason & are making excuses. My maiden name felt foreign to me after a decade with another name. It was a mental adjustment, since names are a big part of identity and I had no animosity toward my ex or his family.
Posted on 5/26/17 at 11:48 am to Warfarer
I believe he was only 3 or 4
Posted on 5/26/17 at 11:51 am to Paul Allen
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Probably because it's just a name. You more than likely want to start a new life, hence why you got divorced. Why keep the name? Just move on with a clean slate.
its just a name, so you can start a new life after the divorce with a clean slate without changing it.
Also divorces can come after a fairly cordial separation, no cheating, etc. Its probably rare but it does happen. That is still a part of their life so maybe they want to keep it. Upon re-marriage some even keep it as a middle name, connection to children and memory of a part of life from before.
This post was edited on 5/26/17 at 11:55 am
Posted on 5/26/17 at 11:52 am to tke857
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This post was edited on 6/23/17 at 11:55 pm
Posted on 5/26/17 at 11:55 am to tke857
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I see this happen a lot. They want to keep the same last name as their children. I assume they get change their last name if they remarry though? Yall know of anyone who has done this? If so, does the ex-husband mind? What about the new woman does she mind?
Changing the last name is erasing history and is akin to taking down the statues IMO
Posted on 5/26/17 at 12:06 pm to tke857
My mother did this. She and my father divorced, she kept his last name. She also remarried, then after they divorced she changed her name back to my father's last name.
I think for my mother's sake it was because she wasn't from louisiana, most if not everybody only knew her from that last name and never her maiden name.
I think for my mother's sake it was because she wasn't from louisiana, most if not everybody only knew her from that last name and never her maiden name.
Posted on 5/26/17 at 12:08 pm to tke857
My ex-wife (I was #4) always kept the name of her first husband with whom she had children, and then hyphenated the name of the then current husband. Since she hasn't found #5 yet she still uses my name.
Posted on 5/26/17 at 12:50 pm to blueridgeTiger
Just dumb or was her pussy that amazing that it made you dumb?
Posted on 5/26/17 at 12:59 pm to FelicianaTigerfan
When I married my 2nd wife, she had been married for 29 years. She asked me if I minded if she kept her last name of her ex husband. Says she has been that name for the last 29 years. I told her I didn't mind if she wanted to go by her maiden name but if her ex was such an a-hole as she claimed he is, then why would you want ANYTHING to do with him. She ended up taking my last name.
Posted on 5/26/17 at 1:04 pm to tke857
I'm pretty sure my ex wife has my last name still, now that I think about it. She wrote me a check recently and I did notice the name at the top being the same, and we have been divorced for 3 years now.
I would imagine she hasn't changed it because that would take effort and she's lazy as frick
I would imagine she hasn't changed it because that would take effort and she's lazy as frick
Posted on 5/26/17 at 1:14 pm to tke857
Not sure about kids, but it seems women who have been married 20+ years and get divorced keep the last name pretty commonly.
Posted on 5/26/17 at 3:55 pm to Mossive
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my ex wife kept my last name even after she re-married
Mine too. I Lol'd that any man would allow his bride to keep her ex-husband's name.
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