re: Do introverts just lack confidence?

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Introverts will usually be the funniest people in the room

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I tell my wife all the time, “you’re the only one that knows how hilarious I am”.

If you saw me on the street you’d probably say “that is one large, angry redneck”. I’m generally quite happy I just look mad all of the time for some reason. That probably helps me be and introvert actually. My wife and I spend most of our time together laughing at stuff. She’s hilarious too.

So you took a couple of BJJ classes, lifted weights and that cured your introversion? You don't really sound like you were ever an introvert, maybe you just had poor fitness.

I've seen introverts that could snap most men in half, and extroverts that barely weigh 120 lbs. Physical fitness or whether or not you can beat up someone doesn't have anything to do with it.

Most people that know me would say I'm an extrovert, especially when I was younger. I guess I was and still am, but the bigger the crowd, the quieter I get. Huge gatherings fully exhaust me these days.

I can still strike up good conversation about anything with just about anyone in a one on one or small group setting.

Great TED talk on introverts

I'm 100% introverted and have plenty of confidence. I just genuinely have a strong dislike for the vast majority of people I encounter.

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Some do. Some just don't care for the general public and the pointless small talk and pleasantries.

You get them one on one or in a small group where they are comfortable and they can be a completely different person.

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Thanks for describing me.

I am in a career where what i do means life or death for people. I deal with total strangers on a daily basis. I'm not shy. I also loft and enjoy the gym, like the OP. I just hate being in crowds or with unfamiliar people.

Example... public events such as Mardi Gras or Black Friday are the worse forms of torture for me.

The terms introvert and extrovert was coined by Carl Jung. In his descriptions he didn’t describe them as social preferences at all. He describes them as ways people perceive the world. It was only later that people recognize these terms to mean what they do today. LINK

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Most people are ambiverts, it’s a spectrum. Confidence can affect this, if OP always felt guilty about not attaining the physical goals he felt he should, than this can carryover with his connections to people.

For the last year or so, I’ve been saying that introversion is not something you’re born with, that it’s an adaptive behaviors, but I’m not so sure, being an introvert myself, I will introspect on it. When I hear people saying that they need to re-charge, it makes me think that when we are around people, we are trying to put on a front, and that is tiring. The front is not fake necessarily, maybe it’s our best self. I know for sure that I can be around loved ones, ones I don’t feel like I have to entertain a lot longer than others.

Could you post the definition of "lack" for we less educated?

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They don't lack confidence, most lack social skills.

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That's a stupid assumption.

Plenty of introverts can function like a normal person in social situations. That would be like assumptions people are extroverts because they don't like themselves and don't like being alone as a result.

They are just betas. They should try taking alpha brain