re: Do I Have To Tell My Fianc&#233; If A Former GF Wants To Meet Up With Me?

Posted by LuckyTiger

Someone's Alter

Member since Dec 2008

49497 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:00 pm to Martini

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You aren’t mature enough to get married.

You’re absolutely right. Which is why I keep dragging out this engagement.

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Posted by VermilionTiger

Member since Dec 2012

38239 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:01 pm to LuckyTiger

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You’re absolutely right. Which is why I keep dragging out this engagement.

Man, don’t take this the wrong way.. but you need to grow up before you marry.

Posted by JawjaTigah

On the Bandwagon

Member since Sep 2003

22733 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:01 pm to LuckyTiger

You are not being honest with us or yourself. You have nothing to prove to old GF. Leave the past in the past.

Posted by Evil Little Thing

Member since Jul 2013

11525 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:01 pm to LuckyTiger

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Then I’ll have to listen to her questions asking me why and accusations that fiancé is insecure, why wouldn’t she trust me, blah blah blah.

What? Just tell her you’re busy. You don’t owe her any explanation.

If she pushes for answers, block her.

This post was edited on 3/26/19 at 7:02 pm

Posted by lsunurse

Member since Dec 2005

129146 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:01 pm to LuckyTiger

Well....no one made you ask her to marry you

Poor woman

Posted by Mr. Hangover

New Orleans

Member since Sep 2003

34766 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:01 pm to LuckyTiger

Dude you care WAY too much about your ex and what she thinks

You are clearly not ready for marriage

Posted by TH03

Mogadishu

Member since Dec 2008

171891 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:02 pm to LuckyTiger

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You’re absolutely right. Which is why I keep dragging out this engagement.

Just dump the girl. You're not even married and talking behind her back to your ex and planning dinners.

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Posted by 50_Tiger

Arlington TX

Member since Jan 2016

41973 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:03 pm to TH03

What TH said.

Posted by LuckyTiger

Someone's Alter

Member since Dec 2008

49497 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:03 pm to Paige

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Why would mentioning the ex’s request create drama? She’ll either be fine with it or say it’s a boundary for her. If it’s a boundary for her

Fair point.

Maybe I’m underestimating her. I doubt it, but maybe complete open candor is the best way here.

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Posted by Tester1216

South Louisiana

Member since Jul 2018

22149 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:03 pm to Evil Little Thing

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What? Just tell her you’re busy. You don’t owe her any explanation.

Hence me calling him a pussy.

He’s more worried about what an ex think than his fiancé.

Posted by cas4t

Member since Jan 2010

71468 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:03 pm to TH03

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You're not even married and talking behind her back to your ex and planning dinners.

Posted by Armchair_QB

Member since Aug 2013

1512 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:03 pm to LuckyTiger

I’m going to need pics of the ex and the fiancée before I can make an informed decision.

Posted by tommy2tone1999

St. George, LA

Member since Sep 2008

7366 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:03 pm to LuckyTiger

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Again, nothing will happen if I meet her. I’m sure of it.

Ask yourself how you'd feel if your fiance' did the same thing without telling you, how would you react?

This post was edited on 3/26/19 at 7:04 pm

Posted by Hawgnsincebirth55

Gods country

Member since Sep 2016

17165 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:04 pm to LuckyTiger

Either tell your ex to frick off or smash her while your fiance is out of town. But dont lie to anonymous people on a message board saying nothing will come of it. Either way dont tell the fiance.

Posted by cas4t

Member since Jan 2010

71468 posts

Posted on 3/26/19 at 7:04 pm to LuckyTiger

Listen, call off the engagement. Go to dinner with your ex. It’s what you actually want to do. Don’t drag it out any longer. I feel sorry for your fiancé.