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re: Do I Have To Tell My Fiancé If A Former GF Wants To Meet Up With Me?
Posted on 3/27/19 at 8:41 am to shutterspeed
Posted on 3/27/19 at 8:41 am to shutterspeed
quote:This poor OP has so much to learn.
A secret, solo dinner date with an ex.
What could go wrong?
Posted on 3/27/19 at 8:51 am to LuckyTiger
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frick it. I’ll tell her it’s not a good idea.
Then I’ll have to listen to her questions asking me why and accusations that fiancé is insecure, why wouldn’t she trust me, blah blah blah.
I’ll just tell her it’s my decision and that’s the end of it. Then she will accuse me of still wanting her, Of not being able to trust myself around her, etc.
Which is nothing to do with reality. That’s why a part of me wants to meet her. To show her that there is nothing to it.
I know im late to this thread but what the actual f**k dude? you are so dumb
Posted on 3/27/19 at 8:56 am to tigahland
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tigahland
Yep. I agree. If he wants to meet to prove that he's no longer into her, then he most likely still is.
Posted on 3/27/19 at 8:58 am to LuckyTiger
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I have no interest in doing anything sexual with her. Just old friends. Fiancé will be out of town for a week visiting family.
Bone the shite outta the ex all night long for 'closure'. Never tell your Fiance' about it. EVER
Posted on 3/27/19 at 8:58 am to mikelbr
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Bone the shite outta the ex all night long for 'closure'. Never tell your Fiance' about it. EVER
this is the only correct answer
Posted on 3/27/19 at 9:00 am to GOON
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GOON
If he wants to meet to prove that he's no longer into her, then he most likely still is.
this guy gets it
Posted on 3/27/19 at 9:01 am to LuckyTiger
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Do I Have To Tell My Fiancé If A Former GF Wants To Meet Up With Me?
I wouldn't meet up. I've never been on speaking terms with any ex so this isn't a problem I've experienced.
Posted on 3/27/19 at 9:01 am to LuckyTiger
If you honestly don’t know the answer to this question, then you have no business being engaged.
Posted on 3/27/19 at 9:28 am to LuckyTiger
Assuming any of this is real:
Imagine your Fiance has sparse communications with an Ex BF and he wants to take her out for dinner, do you think she should tell you? Would you be okay if she went out to dinner with an ex while you were out of town? If you say yes than you should probably re-evaluate the love you have for this girl
It is an ex so there is obviously attraction ,and that is pretty disrespectful to your future wife. Women will want what they can't have and the ex will try to get you into bed.
The best thing you could do is tell the ex I am sorry ,but I have to cancel and it is best we don't communicate anymore. You leave that window open with your ex than your marriage will be doomed from the start.
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Ex GF that I maintain sparse communication with is coming to town for a conference and has asked to meet up with me for dinner.
Imagine your Fiance has sparse communications with an Ex BF and he wants to take her out for dinner, do you think she should tell you? Would you be okay if she went out to dinner with an ex while you were out of town? If you say yes than you should probably re-evaluate the love you have for this girl
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I have no interest in doing anything sexual with her. Just old friends. Fiancé will be out of town for a week visiting family.
It is an ex so there is obviously attraction ,and that is pretty disrespectful to your future wife. Women will want what they can't have and the ex will try to get you into bed.
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Telling her about it could just create drama. No drama needs to be created because there is no cause for such. So should I just not say anything and keep it simple and easy? Or do I tell her and deal with the possible crap that will follow? Or do I tell the ex that I don’t think it’s a good idea then deal with the crap from her asking me to explain why it’s a problem/not a good idea?
The best thing you could do is tell the ex I am sorry ,but I have to cancel and it is best we don't communicate anymore. You leave that window open with your ex than your marriage will be doomed from the start.
Posted on 3/27/19 at 9:32 am to LuckyTiger
This reeks of a willfully bad decision.
Posted on 3/27/19 at 9:42 am to RogerTheShrubber
Honestly, it will be cheaper for you in the long run if you go ahead and meet the ex. It is obvious that y'all will frick and this should eliminate the guaranteed divorce that is in your future.
Posted on 3/27/19 at 9:44 am to 777Tiger
quote:
I had a fiancé once
Some guys are in to other guys... nothing wrong with that.
It's funny though how many posters misuse fiancee/fiance and the number of down voters that don't get the joke.

Posted on 3/27/19 at 9:56 am to LuckyTiger
Rookie mistake leaving a paper trail.
Karma dictates your fiancee is meeting an old highschool friend for "reminiscing".
Karma dictates your fiancee is meeting an old highschool friend for "reminiscing".
Posted on 3/27/19 at 10:04 am to LuckyTiger
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quote:
Can you comprehend how even asking the question reveals some underlying issues you still have with the ex and your current fiancé?
Serious reply...
Yes.
I already knew what I was going to do. I had other thoughts and I shared them all so we could have a good thread. But I was always thinking that I should and probably would tell her.
That being said regarding this little event, I do have commitment issues. I wonder if I’m meant to be married. If I do it, I want to be sure and I want it to be forever. So I question my ability to do it. I’m aware and working on it. I fortunately have a woman that is willing to work on it with me, at least for a little while.
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I hope you and your fiancé are going to pre-marital counseling. You'll need to hammer out these issues before you get married.
Posted on 3/27/19 at 10:08 am to shel311
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This poor OP has so much to learn.
If this thread is true, he just doesn't value the relationship he has.
Posted on 3/27/19 at 10:21 am to LuckyTiger
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Or do I tell the ex that I don’t think it’s a good idea then deal with the crap from her asking me to explain why it’s a problem/not a good idea?
Why do you think you owe an ex anything? Much less any type of explanation?

Posted on 3/27/19 at 10:28 am to LuckyTiger
This just happened to my BIL. He has been married to SIL (hot, milf, rich, no pics) for about 5-6 years. Within the last year or so, she somehow discovered that he fricked an ex while they were dating. Like 7-8 years ago. His life has been utter hell ever since. But she isn't trying to divorce him. She is just torturing him constantly as if he cheated on her last week or something. I predict it will backfire and he will be the one to pull the trigger and divorce her at some point. She will play the victim of course.
Now you are saying its just dinner and you aren't even going to frick. So that means its def not worth the potential fallout.
Now you are saying its just dinner and you aren't even going to frick. So that means its def not worth the potential fallout.
Posted on 3/27/19 at 10:31 am to DevilDagNS
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She is just torturing him constantly as if he cheated on her last week
they never let shite go, she'll be dredging that up as long as they are together

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