re: Divorced people with kids, how did you rationalize “your happiness” over your child’s?

My parents argued and got in yelling matches at least a couple times a week as a kid, it somewhat scarred me. While it was difficult to deal with the divorce at the time, i looked back in high school and got to college, and was glad they did. I got experiences i wouldve never gotten with step dads and vacations etc i wouldnt have had otherwise. Now i realize how different my mom and dad are and became over the years. People change. Im glad they got divorced. It also has made me appreciate marriage in a different way.

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How Does Divorce Affect Children?

Children are more likely to experience behavior issues when parents divorce when the child is between the age of 7 and 14-years-old.

Children with divorced parents are twice as likely to drop out of high school.

Children with divorced parents are more likely to get cancer.

Children with divorced parents are twice as likely to attempt suicide.

Children with divorced parents are four times as likely to have social problems.

70% of prison inmates incarcerated on long-term sentences grew up in a broken home, family separation statistics reveal.

There are links between divorce and a child’s academic performance.

Teenagers whose parents divorce are 300% more likely to experience mental health issues.

Children are at a greater risk of living in poverty if their parents get a divorce.

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But don’t worry about this, josh336 liked fishing with a couple of his step-dads, so feel free to abandon your family.

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Kujo

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We get it, you’re in a cuckold marriage. This strange flex is unnecessary

I come from divorced parents and honestly I’ve had a better life than anyone deserves. Most of that is from my hard work but a significant portion is a result of the sacrifices my mother made for my brothers and I as we grew up.

I’m sorry if that isn’t the case for you but anyone using divorced parents as a crutch is pathetic.

100% this:

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A miserable marriage with parents fighting daily can have more devastating effects on children than divorced parents. It’s not always child abuse or infidelity.

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If the original post isn't just a lame troll job, go check the research.

You seriously using tv as your defense there? Well i guess i cant argue with that.

Also, ive seen those tv fights, they arent anywhere in the realm on level of seriousness my parents fought with.

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but only 17% of divorces are attributed to infidelity,

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i believe by the time this happens, the marriage was "more or less" over anyway. this usually happens as a result of something else that is broken.

i'm not excusing it at all. i don't believe in it. but i'm not surprised by this "low" number, even if we talk about jody all the time on here.

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Using your kids as a reason to stay married is the ultimate COP OUT!

If your stuck in a loveless & miserable marriage NO ONE feels the negative consequences of that more than the CHILDREN!!

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i respectfully disagree. children are a reason to fight and stay in your marriage. while i certainly understand your perspective, i believe a positive out of this is that your children will see the resilency --- and staying in it when times are tough, whereas most people duck their head down between their legs or run. this is assuming there is no physical, emotional or drug abuse taking place. if that is happening, get out. absolutely.

it is a process to fall in love with someone. people usually don't know their doing it. and there is a process of falling out of love with someone too. and yes, people don't usally know they are doing that either. my point is, love is a choice. there are things that brought two people together that can be rekindled, resparked, etc. if two people are willing to set aside their differences and selfish behaviors to make it happen.

if this happens, everybody wins.

I don’t think I like you. Can’t quite put my finger on it, but you seem like a judgmental arse.