re: Divoced baws of the OT. How did it go down?

Im a victim of Jody

Got married when I was 30. We were together for 6 months, got engaged, and married a year later. Divorced 4.5 years after that, no kids.

I made a major mistake marrying her. She had never really lived away from home and she had issues. Spent $$ faster than we could make it and we fought all the time about it (80+% of divorces are about money, not cheating or other stuff). She would also get off work at 6 and not come home until 10-11 at night. I was so mad at her the whole time it affected my desire to have an intimate relationship with her, so I filed for divorce. Later found out she had an affair with a guest speaker at her school (she was a pre-K teacher).

Met another woman as my divorce was finalized. We were together 2.5 years before we got engaged and then married 9 months later. We've been married 12 years and have an 8 year old son. She's a much better match and I've never been happier.

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How would you feel if you found out your wife was chatting up her college bf and he was sending her dick pics?

But they only just chatted online and she told you she just did it for entertainment?

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I suppose it all depends on if it were bigger than mine.

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No doubt. I just thought it was cray that she readily admitted she was the one who strayed but then proceeded to act as if he was the problem and who deserved to be banished. No hint of contrition whatsoever.

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Oh women do this all the time. Will convince themselves it was ok to cheat because their partner “drove” them to it.

It’s easy to get selfish and selfishness is like a snowball. If you keep evaluating your life it’s easy to get back on course if you lose sight of what’s important for too long it can be almost impossible to stop that avalanche.

Some women are just crazy and some men are just assholes, but for most a marriage is workable if you put forth a little effort. The problem is a lot of people don’t think marriage will take tremendous effort. The fights and long nights and bad times aren’t seen on social media or movies.

Going through premarrige counseling is a great advantage many Christian couples have. Everyone should go through that. That’s what I do. A little effort here and there and not forgetting to eat my wife’s pussy until my tongue is numb.

Women like to feel secure and taken care of. It’s not hard to do little things for your wife here and there and make sure she’s happy. It’s not hard but it does take effort. And in today’s society a little effort for whatever reason seems like hard work.

In your job or in your relationship a little effort and daily introspection puts you ahead of 90% of your competitors.

I'm sure all kinds of real talk happened in this thread.

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Turns out he was, in fact, "giving her the business" and they've been married a little over a year now.

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If they will cheat with you, they will cheat on you. People should be careful marrying someone who was having an affair with them.

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Studies say marriages typically don’t work when spouses have very different financial backgrounds

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Depends. If the woman comes from money and the man doesn't have it, it's probably not going to work. If the man has the money and the woman is hot, it can work.

A lot of folks get married because they don’t want to be lonely. They end up marrying someone who they never really liked. After a while they want out.

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Do you see how happy everyone is on Facebook and Instagram???? I want that too damnit!!!!!

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If you cannot handle my worst you don't deserve my best!