re: Divoced baws of the OT. How did it go down?

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I'm hanging in there. My dad is basically the same. I've come to accept that he may never change and that may just be his new "normal". I have to focus on that my dad and and my family are ultimately doing ok though and back off but still be there for the crucial stuff (appointments, etc). The issues in my marriage have forced me to put more boundaries in place. I don't stress as much about my dad cause I have to now worry if I'm gonna be married 6 months from now. My family knows what is going on and thankfully my mom understands that I need to be more selfish and focus on me right now and fully supports that. My dad doesn't even call me now cause he knows he isn't gonna get the reaction his mental illness wants from me (a pity party in his honor).


I'm just trying to focus on myself and improving who I am as a person. Lose the bitterness I held onto that I thought I rightfully earned with all the crap I was handed recently. Started a women's bible study recently to improve my relationship with Christ. Trying to focus on my diet and exercise to lose the weight I gained from all the stress and PCOS and multiple medications I was on for fertility stuff. I'll either become a much better woman in general and wife for my husband...or for someone else later on if all that still isn't enough to make him want to stay in the marriage.


My marital problems stems from a lot of stuff. How I handled my dad, infertility, my husband's feelings of unhappiness in general at life, etc., etc. Things didn't go to shite overnight so on that note things won't magically get better overnight. I have to remind myself that all the time.

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If it makes you feel better everyone goes through this in marriage. They just ignore it and day to day go miserable. Be very sure if you make a split. I know it sounds cliche' but it is true. I just had a convo with an ex that we both said why didn't you tell me that years ago? Try "Marriage Encounter" <---look it up online. It can't hurt they have weekends for marriages.

Bible study is good. And I have seen your picture on here a few years ago you don't need a diet but exercise is vital.

So who is the new Bella? Bella or a dude messing with everyone. The 32-24-26 person is weird. Def a troll alter guy. I can see this in the little I read this board. Does she squirt? Is it really pee? I say it is not pee but that is another thread.

I just made up the numbers 32-24-26. I couldn't remember.

Then why are you posting in this thread?

shite, if I got a divorce, I’d probably get a raise

Is this “friend” really named “Cosmo”?

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Women will do whatever it takes to have financial stability.
That's their only care in life.

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I know women that seek out men with money, and they are nearly always unhappy and trying to move on to a more rich man. Its never enough.

At a certain point your dissatisfaction becomes about something internal, not external.

Even if these women had all the money and objects in the world they'd still find ways to be unhappy.

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- happily married for almost 10 years. Kids 8 and 6. Wife all of a sudden decides she isnt happy anymore. No real reason given. They try therapy for a few months. She then decides to bang an old college boyfriend. Divorce time.

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Your sequence of events is wrong. She was banging the ex before telling her husband she wasn’t happy.

Therapy was to try and save face and look like less of a whore.

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still married. Albeit, not really happily. We have good moments from time to time, but I'd be gone if it weren't for my kids.

I'm not going to pay money to only be able to see my kids every other weekend.

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We’d all be shocked if people were truthful about their marriage exactly how many feel same as the above.

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After 15 years both of them arent happy and start banging other people. Divorce time.

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Late to the party, but i know a lot of people who divorced for this reason, and I always ask them, why does this mean you have to get divorced? This seems like easy stuff to work out.