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Dealing with parents/in laws that try to supersede you with your kids
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:16 pm
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:16 pm
Do any of you deal with either parents or in laws that try to override what you tell your kids to do? You say son go do this and then the grandparent jumps in and tells them no you don’t have to do that. I tell them no I’m your dad go do it but damn this is a constant battle.
I’ve told them to back off I’m the parent but it goes in one ear and out the other. If this was just a one off whatever, but this is a constant thing with them. I’m about to escalate the conversation and tell them they’re undermining my parental authority and it has to stop.
Godzilla, just be a grandparent and enjoy the grandkids how hard is that.
I’ve told them to back off I’m the parent but it goes in one ear and out the other. If this was just a one off whatever, but this is a constant thing with them. I’m about to escalate the conversation and tell them they’re undermining my parental authority and it has to stop.
Godzilla, just be a grandparent and enjoy the grandkids how hard is that.
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Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:16 pm to DavidTheGnome
You should beat the father-in-law's arse then frick the mother-in-law in the arse
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:17 pm to DavidTheGnome
A horse walks into a bar. The bartender says "why the long face?"
The horse says "my wife left me."
The horse says "my wife left me."
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:20 pm to DavidTheGnome
Every time your FIL tells your MIL to do something or vice versa, tell them they don't have to do that
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:20 pm to DavidTheGnome
Tell them that shite has to stop immediately.
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:21 pm to DavidTheGnome
They don’t with me, not being a bad arse, they just don’t and my FIL doesn’t even with my wife. My MIL will fuss at my wife quite a bit about what we do with kids. I stayed out of it for years b/c it really didn’t matter, we were gonna do what we wanted anyways as far as discipline and things.
One day my MIL made the comment to my wife that she should clean our teenager daughter’s bathroom since our daughter is too tired from school and cheer, etc. She got mad my wife bitched at daughter about it. That’s when I stepped in and went to her house, told her no more. My FIL was just agreeing with me the whole time
One day my MIL made the comment to my wife that she should clean our teenager daughter’s bathroom since our daughter is too tired from school and cheer, etc. She got mad my wife bitched at daughter about it. That’s when I stepped in and went to her house, told her no more. My FIL was just agreeing with me the whole time
This post was edited on 4/1/18 at 12:22 pm
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:23 pm to DavidTheGnome
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Godzilla, just be a grandparent and enjoy the grandkids
Being related to Godzilla must be interesting.
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:24 pm to DavidTheGnome
Respect your elders, David. Cut the ham so we can eat please. I'll have no more of this talk at the table.
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:25 pm to UncleRuckus
This is why when you become an adult you must stop taking gifts and money from your parents and in laws.
I'm not talking about birthday or Christmas presents within reason, but I know plenty of adults who take money for houses, cars, medical bills, kid's college, etc, and then complain when parents or in laws cross the line.
I'm not talking about birthday or Christmas presents within reason, but I know plenty of adults who take money for houses, cars, medical bills, kid's college, etc, and then complain when parents or in laws cross the line.
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:27 pm to DavidTheGnome
Don’t have that problem. Both sets of grandparents are a lot easier on the kids than my wife or I am, and the few times there have been disagreements, we win.
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:27 pm to DavidTheGnome
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I’m about to escalate the conversation and tell them they’re undermining my parental authority and it has to stop.
Confront them one one one and tell them its becoming an issue and it has to stop.
If it continues, limit how much time they see their grandchildren.
They'll get the message real quick.
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:30 pm to DavidTheGnome
Next time at dinner just flip the table to show your dominance
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:32 pm to bird35
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This is why when you become an adult you must stop taking gifts and money from your parents and in laws.
I see way too many people who are basically funded by their parents, and the parents own them. It's creepy.
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:34 pm to DavidTheGnome
Tell the kid in front of grandparent that if they listen to grandparent and not you they will be punished.
Or, you can leave the family gathering when this happens. Let them know this will happen everytime until they can stop trying to influence to disregard your parental authority.
Was it me,I would do both of the above.
Or, you can leave the family gathering when this happens. Let them know this will happen everytime until they can stop trying to influence to disregard your parental authority.
Was it me,I would do both of the above.
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:38 pm to DavidTheGnome
Step 1: become completely financially independent from your parents.
Step 2: become completely independent from your parents for daycare/after school care/date nights, etc. (when your parents want to see their grandkids- it’s for their benefit not yours).
Step 3: form an unbreakable bond with your spouse. Never disagree in front of the kids.
Step 4: come to an agreement that each partner in the marriage will be the “bad guy” to their own parents. Meaning: be the one to hurry away during the holidays, be the one to say “no” rather than “my wife/husband” won’t let us stay longer. My parents will forgive me much easier than they will forgive my wife. Likewise for her parents.
Step 5: tell the grandparents they can follow your rules or they can have limited time with their grandkids. I would never cut them off entirely (unless it was a safety issue) but I won’t let anyone be around my kids and disrespect me or my wife.
If you can’t do all of the above - shut up and take what you have coming your way. It’s your fault.
Step 2: become completely independent from your parents for daycare/after school care/date nights, etc. (when your parents want to see their grandkids- it’s for their benefit not yours).
Step 3: form an unbreakable bond with your spouse. Never disagree in front of the kids.
Step 4: come to an agreement that each partner in the marriage will be the “bad guy” to their own parents. Meaning: be the one to hurry away during the holidays, be the one to say “no” rather than “my wife/husband” won’t let us stay longer. My parents will forgive me much easier than they will forgive my wife. Likewise for her parents.
Step 5: tell the grandparents they can follow your rules or they can have limited time with their grandkids. I would never cut them off entirely (unless it was a safety issue) but I won’t let anyone be around my kids and disrespect me or my wife.
If you can’t do all of the above - shut up and take what you have coming your way. It’s your fault.
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:42 pm to SECdragonmaster
That’s good advice thanks 
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:46 pm to DavidTheGnome
We had trouble with it for a while.
Then they were told in no uncertain terms my kids, my rules and if you don't like it you don't have to see them.
As long as you and your spouse are united, it will stick.
Then they were told in no uncertain terms my kids, my rules and if you don't like it you don't have to see them.
As long as you and your spouse are united, it will stick.
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:49 pm to CajunSoldier225
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Being related to Godzilla must be interesting.
Just imagine when little Shomi brought Godzilla home to mama and papa-san.
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:49 pm to DavidTheGnome
sounds like
1. your wife needs to tell her parents something
2. you could always just not let them see the kid if they keep it up
1. your wife needs to tell her parents something
2. you could always just not let them see the kid if they keep it up
Posted on 4/1/18 at 12:52 pm to DavidTheGnome
You could pull a Jack Twist and tell that sumbitch to sit down
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