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Dealing with family/loved one with a mental illness--Update Page 11
Posted on 10/12/19 at 5:56 pm
Posted on 10/12/19 at 5:56 pm
Who else has a loved one that has a serious mental illness?
How do you cope with it? Especially when you feel like you are at the end of your own rope in helping them.
My dad’s mental illness has just gotten worse and worse. He’s home and safe right now but is not jus having severe anxiety but also delusions. He keeps saying they are stranded (is he referring to the flood?). You can’t talk any sense into him right now. And he calls me every 5 minutes. And just screeches when I pick up the phone. My mom has already told me she is with him and he is safe and to just ignore his calls today/tonight because it’s my wedding anniversary this weekend and I have plans with my husband tonight to celebrate. She also said he isn’t screeching when he’s not on the phone with me. And she is giving him his emergency medication for panic attacks as often as allowed.
(He was recently in the hospital for pneumonia and his psych med dosing got messed up, he didn’t get enough of his meds and didn’t get them at all one day....I think this is the result of that and hope he will stabilize on his own)
I just hate this and don’t know what to do. And feel horrible not answering when he calls.
Anyone else deal with similar? How do you cope and keep your own sanity?
How do you cope with it? Especially when you feel like you are at the end of your own rope in helping them.
My dad’s mental illness has just gotten worse and worse. He’s home and safe right now but is not jus having severe anxiety but also delusions. He keeps saying they are stranded (is he referring to the flood?). You can’t talk any sense into him right now. And he calls me every 5 minutes. And just screeches when I pick up the phone. My mom has already told me she is with him and he is safe and to just ignore his calls today/tonight because it’s my wedding anniversary this weekend and I have plans with my husband tonight to celebrate. She also said he isn’t screeching when he’s not on the phone with me. And she is giving him his emergency medication for panic attacks as often as allowed.
(He was recently in the hospital for pneumonia and his psych med dosing got messed up, he didn’t get enough of his meds and didn’t get them at all one day....I think this is the result of that and hope he will stabilize on his own)
I just hate this and don’t know what to do. And feel horrible not answering when he calls.
Anyone else deal with similar? How do you cope and keep your own sanity?
This post was edited on 11/6/19 at 7:20 am
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Posted on 10/12/19 at 5:57 pm to lsunurse
About to have dinner with my red-headed hottie I'm going to hit you up on Facebook later.
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Posted on 10/12/19 at 5:58 pm to lsunurse
Get him a bong and some high grade cannabis.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 5:59 pm to lsunurse
He knows it’s your anniversary weekend. He also hates your husband.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:00 pm to lsunurse
He should probably be in a facility, with caregivers, most of us will end up in one.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:01 pm to OWLFAN86
Thanks Owlie but I’ll likely be out later
I’m considering paging his psychiatrist’s emergency pager tomorrow and ask him what to do. We were supposed to see him last weekend but my dad was in the hospital so we had to reschedule appointment to next weekend.
I’m gonna tell him straight up that he HAS to change his meds up somehow (dosage, different med, whatever).
I’m considering paging his psychiatrist’s emergency pager tomorrow and ask him what to do. We were supposed to see him last weekend but my dad was in the hospital so we had to reschedule appointment to next weekend.
I’m gonna tell him straight up that he HAS to change his meds up somehow (dosage, different med, whatever).
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:03 pm to upgrayedd
His psychiatrist suggested CBD oil but his pcp told us stay away cause of all the other medications he is on for his diabetes, high bp, etc.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:05 pm to lsunurse
No experience with it really, Nurse. Know it had been a long struggle for you. Stay strong and as positive as you can.
Lifting you up in prayer.
@Owlie... Don't even attempt being subtle, do you? Did you just use a red Sharpie on your right hand?
Lifting you up in prayer.
@Owlie... Don't even attempt being subtle, do you? Did you just use a red Sharpie on your right hand?
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:06 pm to LCA131
Thanks LCA
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:07 pm to lsunurse
My grandma has a history with manic depressive bipolar disorder. Last few years have been good but the past 2 months are showing she’s going downhill again.
She will say irrational things and ramble. She offered to buy me a house last week and she has hardly anything to her name. My grandfather doesn’t seem interested in putting her in the behavior hospital so I guess I’ll just be ignoring calls and texts as well.
She will say irrational things and ramble. She offered to buy me a house last week and she has hardly anything to her name. My grandfather doesn’t seem interested in putting her in the behavior hospital so I guess I’ll just be ignoring calls and texts as well.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:08 pm to lsunurse
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his pcp
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:09 pm to lsunurse
Nurse, don’t try to rationalize with him; you know it is not good for either of you. I truly empathize with you.
“Take care of yourself Dad. I’ll check on you soon.”
“Take care of yourself Dad. I’ll check on you soon.”
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:12 pm to lsunurse
Listen to your mother, she said she's got it, so out the phone away. Allow yourself a night off.
Have you looked into checking him into a mental health facility for a while?
Have you looked into checking him into a mental health facility for a while?
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:13 pm to OKellsBells
I would tell him “dad you are ok and safe. Everything will be ok I promise you. I will talk to you later but I need to go now. Love you.” And he will just start sobbing saying “noooooooo don’t leave me”.
He’s tried calling 5 times since I started this thread.
I messaged my brother in CA and told him to call our dad, that I just can’t deal with him today. Figured maybe talking to my brother would help.
My dad tells my brother he will call him back. Or won’t answer. But calls me nonstop.
He’s tried calling 5 times since I started this thread.
I messaged my brother in CA and told him to call our dad, that I just can’t deal with him today. Figured maybe talking to my brother would help.
My dad tells my brother he will call him back. Or won’t answer. But calls me nonstop.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:15 pm to HoustonChick86
quote:
Have you looked into checking him into a mental health facility for a while?
I might be talking to his psychiatrist about this tomorrow and seeing where exactly we need to take him. My psychiatrist will know more about the best place to take him to. But yes....I’m wondering if he needs inpatient care to stabilize.
Me....I have no mental health nursing background so I have no idea.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:19 pm to lsunurse
I think an inpatient facility would help him. He will go through counseling and stay until meds are stabilized.
If he doesn't have great insurance, check out the services of your local Salvation Army. They do A LOT more than I think many people realize.
If he doesn't have great insurance, check out the services of your local Salvation Army. They do A LOT more than I think many people realize.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:20 pm to lsunurse
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saying “noooooooo don’t leave me”.
yikes. what a nightmare.
Try and think of what a much younger more stable version of himself would say if he could see the current situation. He'd probably tell you to turn the phone off.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:20 pm to lsunurse
My mother .. was pretty rough
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:21 pm to lsunurse
You should ask a medical professional about this, lsunurse.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:22 pm to upgrayedd
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Get him a bong and some high grade cannabis.
I usually don't like the instinctual marijuana suggestions but there may be a special strain that works well for him.
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