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Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:34 pm to lsunurse
Condolences, a hobby helps.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:39 pm to lsunurse
I don’t have any advice, as I’ve never been there, but just wanted to say I’m sorry you’re going through that and sending lots of love your way. And happy anniversary <3
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:44 pm to lsunurse
I know what it’s like from years ago, it makes YOU crazy. No one can tell you how to handle your Dad, but I know you usually cannot convince them their reality is not reality, most you can do is try to comfort and soothe them. Maybe he should be hospitalized to straighten out his meds. Good luck and take care of yourself.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:47 pm to LouisianaLady
Thanks LL
Hope you are having a wonderful birthday as well
It just sucks, between this and all the fertility stuff(we are still trying to pursue that and that brings its own mountain of stress)....I just feel like things will never get better for me. I just need to catch a break one day and soon because I hate the person all this has turned me into.
Hope you are having a wonderful birthday as well
It just sucks, between this and all the fertility stuff(we are still trying to pursue that and that brings its own mountain of stress)....I just feel like things will never get better for me. I just need to catch a break one day and soon because I hate the person all this has turned me into.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:50 pm to Pussykat
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it makes YOU crazy.
Yes! I’m glad I’m not the only one.
I’m realizing I have some anxiety as well(nothing that needs meds or anything) and all this terrifies me. Is this my future when I’m his age??
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:51 pm to lsunurse
As my Mom aged, this was my biggest concern. I knew how she felt about it and prayed it wouldn't come to that. Thank goodness it didn't, and I mean that in a very loving way. She was good with 97.
Wish you both all the best Nurse.
Wish you both all the best Nurse.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:51 pm to lsunurse
I was just thinking - you’ve been through the ringer lately. I hope life stabilizes for you soon and you/your husband find some peace.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:52 pm to lsunurse
I'm here, as you know, if you want to talk. I've felt that mountain of stress, I'm still there. I live every day as a why me, and that is something I am working on as well.
Things will get better, but for today, put down your phone and enjoy a nice anniversary with your husband.
Things will get better, but for today, put down your phone and enjoy a nice anniversary with your husband.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:56 pm to HoustonChick86
Thanks HC, you have been such an awesome person to me through all this
Posted on 10/12/19 at 6:58 pm to lsunurse
Our lives aren't all that different. I'm just a step or so ahead.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 7:00 pm to lsunurse
Keeping you in my thoughts, Nurse. It’s not easy on so many different levels.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 7:04 pm to lsunurse
First seek a professional counselor yourself to help you in coping- your mental health suffers from interaction.
Second, build healthy boundaries, (Boundaries by Henry Cloud)
Three, life life one day at a time
Fourth- Establish your priorities, Read the mini book TYRANNY of the Urgent
Finally, realize you did not cause this, take care of your mom-
Been dealing with this in our family over 20 years
Second, build healthy boundaries, (Boundaries by Henry Cloud)
Three, life life one day at a time
Fourth- Establish your priorities, Read the mini book TYRANNY of the Urgent
Finally, realize you did not cause this, take care of your mom-
Been dealing with this in our family over 20 years
Posted on 10/12/19 at 7:08 pm to lsunurse
I've dealt with that with a family member and I was amazingly calm when dealing with them in that state. Just remembered all the good times and love they gave me over the years. It is not easy to witness but pray for strength.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 7:13 pm to 756
I have been seeing a therapist for almost 2 years now to help me cope with my dad. I see him usually once a month.
And yes....he is working with me all the time to establish healthy boundaries. My two younger adult siblings live with them as well(they are mentally challenged). And my mother is kinda slow. So that means for medical stuff....I’m the one that has to take charge of everything at times. I need to go with him to all his appointments so I can frankly tell his doctors what is going on and keep track of all the meds he is on. My dad is a bad historian and my mom doesn’t always grasp basic stuff.
So that poses a whole other set of challenges. But I am working on recognizing situations that my mom and siblings can handle without me.
Thanks for the book suggestions
And yes....he is working with me all the time to establish healthy boundaries. My two younger adult siblings live with them as well(they are mentally challenged). And my mother is kinda slow. So that means for medical stuff....I’m the one that has to take charge of everything at times. I need to go with him to all his appointments so I can frankly tell his doctors what is going on and keep track of all the meds he is on. My dad is a bad historian and my mom doesn’t always grasp basic stuff.
So that poses a whole other set of challenges. But I am working on recognizing situations that my mom and siblings can handle without me.
Thanks for the book suggestions
This post was edited on 10/12/19 at 7:14 pm
Posted on 10/12/19 at 7:16 pm to lsunurse
Reach out to the salvation army as I said. They may have people that can help with all of this.
Posted on 10/12/19 at 8:43 pm to lsunurse
Where do your parents live? How old is your dad?
Posted on 10/12/19 at 9:00 pm to lsunurse
Psych meds can reduce this. I think you said he has them?
Posted on 10/12/19 at 9:14 pm to lsunurse
Professional help is what you need, not the OT
Posted on 10/12/19 at 9:16 pm to lsunurse
It's hard to also be the one with it, and have a normal family and interactions that you always want to be positive.
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