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re: Dads that pay child support: how do you do it?
Posted on 8/13/24 at 4:38 pm to TexasTiger08
Posted on 8/13/24 at 4:38 pm to TexasTiger08
I lived in my office when I paid child support and alimony. Literally on the floor. On my second child ( first one is over) I struggled robbing Peter to pay Paul but I pay raises and it’s tight but I make it. I find money to pay for things she wants to do that I’m not obligated to pay for… tball, her dance recital ( not lessons) etc. And I take ever overtime opportunities I can.
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Posted on 8/13/24 at 5:18 pm to TexasTiger08
20% is a lot better than what I thought but regardless would be devastating.
Years ago, someone told me that you lose 60% and have to live off of 40. Was there any truth to that?
Years ago, someone told me that you lose 60% and have to live off of 40. Was there any truth to that?
Posted on 8/13/24 at 5:50 pm to TexasTiger08
Directly held out of my check. Never had it to miss it
Posted on 8/13/24 at 5:53 pm to BigD43
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Years ago, someone told me that you lose 60% and have to live off of 40. Was there any truth to that?
Seems like it. It went from 2 incomes and 0 children to 1 income and 1 child with quickness.
Posted on 8/13/24 at 5:53 pm to fareplay
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How much is child support? Also don’t the wife work?
Child support is about $1K/month. She makes about the same amount as me.
Posted on 8/13/24 at 5:56 pm to TexasTiger08
How on earth did that happen? Do yo have 50/50 custody? if not, did you want it?
This post was edited on 8/13/24 at 5:57 pm
Posted on 8/13/24 at 6:00 pm to LouisianaLady
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Do yo have 50/50 custody? if not, did you want it?
It’s not finalized yet, but it looks like I’m not getting 50/50. I’m trying.
Posted on 8/13/24 at 6:07 pm to TexasTiger08
You still didn't answer my question. In the divorce thread you said
Why the frick are you paying ANYTHING? Who was your lawyer in the divorce? Her lawyer?! You should have full custody and she should actually be paying YOU.
So she left you, right after telling you she was pregnant with YOUR kid, and now she lives with the guy she abandoned you for and you have to pay her?
Something isn't right here. And I'm not gonna stop asking.
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She told me she was pregnant with our child and also in love with another man. That was in a span of about 10 minutes...
Why the frick are you paying ANYTHING? Who was your lawyer in the divorce? Her lawyer?! You should have full custody and she should actually be paying YOU.
So she left you, right after telling you she was pregnant with YOUR kid, and now she lives with the guy she abandoned you for and you have to pay her?
Something isn't right here. And I'm not gonna stop asking.
Posted on 8/13/24 at 6:08 pm to TexasTiger08
Dang - sorry to hear that. I have never been there, but I was under the impression getting 50/50 was much easier these days especially when both parents work so daycare is happening either way.
Posted on 8/13/24 at 6:14 pm to TexasTiger08
I’ve always thought that divorced dads just Zelle the money directly to their ex’es new boyfriend.
Posted on 8/13/24 at 6:21 pm to Giantkiller
1300 for two and a random dude messaging me on fb saying he slept with her was final straw while i was offshore for weekend bringing home offshore groceries(im sure multiple times). Texts and cheating via messenger or text message proof don't mean squat to prove infidelity In louisiana the dudes get shafted. Think she is on her 5th bf now in 2 years and my 3 year old sleeps with her....Cant prove anything but means he has slept with her and 5 different dudes in same bed minimum..Zero fricks given disgusts me and nothing i can do. I still
gladly pay child support and teach my boys the outdoors hunting and fishing when i get them and no video games or any of that b.s..My oldest is pumped for teal season and loves to fish hoping he continues on that path! Planning on spending alot of time at camp with them this hunting season !
gladly pay child support and teach my boys the outdoors hunting and fishing when i get them and no video games or any of that b.s..My oldest is pumped for teal season and loves to fish hoping he continues on that path! Planning on spending alot of time at camp with them this hunting season !
Posted on 8/14/24 at 6:03 am to TexasTiger08
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I’m going to have to think outside the box. Paying a mortgage by myself and forking over 20% of my net leaves me with little wiggle room. My lifestyle is already changing from a financial standpoint. The days of traveling and eating out are gone. I’m an OT poor for sure. I’m a teacher, but also do extracurriculars so my summer is about 6 weeks, not 12 as many on this board think.
Reading this gave me PTSD.
You will make it through this, but it won’t be easy. If you can find additional ways to make money, do it. Or start a go fund me, asking for extra cash.
Lastly, confirm that your state ends child support when the kids turn 18, and not 21. Some states require child support until age 21. Ask me how I know.
Posted on 8/14/24 at 6:59 am to TexasTiger08
My first 8 months post divorce were spent in a barely furnished apartment. No TV, no internet.
I’d skip meals on the weeks I didn’t have the kids so I could afford to do things with them.
I’d bring a laptop to work and download movies for us to watch on a projector that work had surplus’d.
I was embarrassed but my kids say it was some of the best memories of their childhood. They never knew how difficult it was on me until I shared it with them when they were adults.
That experience caused me to change careers pursuing better salary opportunities
I’d skip meals on the weeks I didn’t have the kids so I could afford to do things with them.
I’d bring a laptop to work and download movies for us to watch on a projector that work had surplus’d.
I was embarrassed but my kids say it was some of the best memories of their childhood. They never knew how difficult it was on me until I shared it with them when they were adults.
That experience caused me to change careers pursuing better salary opportunities
This post was edited on 8/14/24 at 7:00 am
Posted on 8/14/24 at 7:07 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
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They don’t even look at what she is making or what the time split is.
You had to be your own lawyer. Who told you this bs?
Posted on 8/14/24 at 7:20 am to Giantkiller
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So she left you, right after telling you she was pregnant with YOUR kid, and now she lives with the guy she abandoned you for and you have to pay her? Something isn't right here.
This is exactly how it works for men.
Posted on 8/14/24 at 7:22 am to Giantkiller
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So she left you, right after telling you she was pregnant with YOUR kid, and now she lives with the guy she abandoned you for and you have to pay her?
Wait, you missed the detail that it was his best friend.
I'm not saying this is a troll, but its got so much juicy detail that it is hard to believe.
Posted on 8/14/24 at 7:35 am to Giantkiller
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Why the frick are you paying ANYTHING? Who was your lawyer in the divorce? Her lawyer?! You should have full custody and she should actually be paying YOU.
So she left you, right after telling you she was pregnant with YOUR kid, and now she lives with the guy she abandoned you for and you have to pay her?
He is leaving out the part about him being an alcoholic.
Posted on 8/14/24 at 7:39 am to thegreatboudini
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Wait, you missed the detail that it was his best friend.
And coworker, if I’m not mistaken. Multiple kicks to the nuts at once.
Posted on 8/14/24 at 9:19 am to thegreatboudini
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Wait, you missed the detail that it was his best friend.
I'm not saying this is a troll, but its got so much juicy detail that it is hard to believe.
Ok, so none of this is true - that's basically what you're saying.
Oh OP. You had me, dawg.
Posted on 8/14/24 at 9:42 am to Giantkiller
It’s 100 percent true.
As for how I am the one paying. Texas is a no fault state. The circumstances don’t matter. Law says I pay child support.
Regarding the alcohol: yes, I drank a lot on weekends. I had episodes where I would black out. I wasn’t abusive (physical or verbal), didn’t drive or commit crimes. I sought a therapist who specialized in alcohol recovery and he didn’t think I was an “alcoholic”. I did, however, have binge drinking issues.
As for how I am the one paying. Texas is a no fault state. The circumstances don’t matter. Law says I pay child support.
Regarding the alcohol: yes, I drank a lot on weekends. I had episodes where I would black out. I wasn’t abusive (physical or verbal), didn’t drive or commit crimes. I sought a therapist who specialized in alcohol recovery and he didn’t think I was an “alcoholic”. I did, however, have binge drinking issues.
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