re: Chapters of Life

I’m in the same spot but rethinking my marriage and whether or not it’s in my best long term interest ( it’s not ). There is no growth ahead if I stay on this course. Which is quite the revelation for a man who has spent 25 years being super-Dad/husband.

Wow, I didn’t expect to hear that coming from you. I think that crosses all of our minds at this stage. We are all on a different path, but the old adage remains: something something about not changing horses mid-stream.

Plus, I recently refinanced my house
so there’s that.

Same here. Would like to know more about why he might not be in it pho the long haul...

Too private. In a general sense though-despite the love that exists in a long term marriage -your spouse might become like a poison to you. They harm you. They stop you from being what you could be. They become an angry leash. And you internalize their anger and negativity and it becomes unhealthy and effects your quality of life and spiritual growth . And that can happen over time. And it can get worse with the years.

Many men and women find themselves at this same point. It’s very common.

Lol. I am literally taking the three ladies for Pho in 15 minutes.

Speaking metaphorically, my future may still involve sushi or dim sum or pad Thai. Who knows...

Never was materialistic either. I have seen many people that "appear" to have everything you could ever want. But they were miserable, and many of them were so miserable because they owned none of it. What they owned was a pile of debt that squeezed the life out of them.

I am contented and it is peaceful to not want. Being in nature is healing. Being alone in nature is divine.

I was kinda thinking that lying here looking at the ceiling of a hospital room. Then I opened TD for distraction and see this. Thanks.

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I've always wondered why we live the rat race the way we do when bartenders and white water raft instructors in Costa Rica are infinitely more happy than we are. It's just so hard to let go of it all and take the plunge to become an expat

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In a massive world most people walk in the same footprints. The need to belong, feel normal, compare to your peersis powerful. Most people do what they do simply because everyone else is doing it too.

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Don’t cede your own identity over to being his wife or being a Mom.

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this is the shittiest part of having a baby. You surrender your individuality to being the mom of an infant for a solid six months. It’s so hard. I have a two year old and six month old so you can imagine what my downtime is like.

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Continue to pursue your own dreams and passions.

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I love this. I had this epiphany recently. I love my husband. We are best friends. But we definitely have a big differences. Instead of trying to force him to want the same everything I want, I need to just do my own thing. I’m creative and like to create things. I always want him to crate with me, but that’s not his thing. And that’s ok. But it took me until this week to understand that