re: Cant stand this guy in my new GF's social circle

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when I meet a guy who I feel is my either "better" or is thought of as "better" or "more desirable" than me I instantly feel like I'm not sexy, smart, interesting, funny, etc.

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You see this is a problem. I have yet to meet a person I thought was better than me. They might have a set of skills I don't possess, but I surely have skills they don't possess as well. If course I'm an arrogant egotistical person, but you seem to have an issue with yourself. And some of the best advice you can get is that you can't love anyone of you don't love yourself. And you can't impress anyone if you don't impress yourself.

All of life is a stage, all of it. Learn to act.

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hard to imagine how some liberal environmentalist is an alpha

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Is it really that hard?

Brad Pitt and a slew of Hollywood elitists and Bill Clinton are considered liberal environmentalist. Those dudes are alpha.

Political, social, and religious views do not dictate whether or not you can be a dominate magnet personality. The best advice I received in life is to never underestimate the man across the room. Appearance and speech are easily disguised and the trained predator will pounce once he's lulled you into a sense of security or superiority.

The next time he flirts with your GF, tell his GF, in the middle of the group, that she has great boobs, a nice arse, great eyes, or whatever her strong suit is. Be as inappropriate as possible. If anything is said about it, just say that you thought you were supposed to, based on his flirting with your GF. Be prepared to knock him out if it escalates.

You make more money, making you a better provider. He stimulates her intellectually, showing that there is something she needs that she does not receive from you. This is not yours or her fault. People and their needs are all different. There is no perfect match.

You said you are pretty sure she has effed him in the past. I am curious what you base this on. We, as guys, know how we act around women if we totally wrecked the Vitamin P in the past. I wonder if that recognition is what makes you think they were intimate?

Until the situation arises again where you need to "compliment" his GF, enjoy the secks and do all the freaky stuff you always wanted to. Nail her in her compost heap.

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She is genetically programmed to seek his seed.

Id say good luck, but there is not much hope. '

Just be lucky your girl isnt that attractive or the genuine alpha would have chosen her and not placed her into the friendzone.

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So snarky. I'm alpha in many ways - it's just that this guy is more alpha than me and also has the situational factors in his favor to boot (he knows everybody in this circle, I only know my GF). I don't think it's as bleak as you guys say it is - my GF chose me. I frick her well. She confided in our one mutual friend that she was scared to death I was playing her, as she knew about my other girls.

So I just need to man up and battle this dude to a situational draw is what I think. In time as my GF and I get more history between us, take vacations, road trips, etc. I think the factors won't help but be malleable towards a more favorable approach.

Thanks for all the feedback, I think i've gleaned bits and pieces from all points of view.

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Until the situation arises again where you need to "compliment" his GF, enjoy the secks and do all the freaky stuff you always wanted to. Nail her in her compost heap.

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Just to put this in perspective, I banged her so well 2 hours after this encounter happened. She loved it. I'm not some pussy and I know the basics of game. It's just that this situation has me frustrated and I'm trying to figure out the best strategic way to handle it and recover from her (I think) noticing my unhappiness at the situation.

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The next time he flirts with your GF, tell his GF, in the middle of the group, that she has great boobs, a nice arse, great eyes, or whatever her strong suit is. Be as inappropriate as possible. If anything is said about it, just say that you thought you were supposed to, based on his flirting with your GF. Be prepared to knock him out if it escalates.

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I really like this idea - I think saying in her ear "I'm going to frick you so well tonight" while she's talking to him, and then I go back to casually chatting his annoying GF.

Why not just kick the shite out of him

Your best option isn't a quick or easy fix, but I do think it's your best route.

Decline to join up with this group on the weekends for a while. 3 out of 4 times in a month is way too lopsided regardless of your obvious insecurities. Just go do somethig interesting or hang out with your friends and tell her she smcan join you. And let her decide without a guilt trip if she wants to join them. You don't want to show her your actual cards, you want to fix the problem, so don't start with whining about this guy. And don't be offended if she takes up her friends occasionally. Chicks are like cats. Ignore them or pretend like you got more important things to do, and they become very curious and intrigued.

The benefit of this approach is 3 fold: a) you elevate yourself which is a rare outcome in the solutions offered here (though you have to stick to the plan and not be quick to confess he's why)... B) you might do something pretty interesting in the time you avoid them which would be cool. C) you'll get a real sense of if she's in it for the real thing, or if you're just a boyfriend accessory for her to keep enjoying life with her friends

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instead of allowing her to make plans to hang out with al gore, head it off by making other plans for the 2 of you..

women shouldn't be making the plans anyway...

This is an easy one.

For years, this guy has been nailing your girlfriend on the side. He has had total control over her. It started when she was a student. She's begged him to leave his girlfriend, but he just views her as a side piece, strictly as a friends with benefit situation that he could call over to suck his johnson anytime he wished.

When he wouldn't leave his girlfriend, she finally decided to go out and try to make him jealous. She would leave your a$$ in a second if Professor HugeCock would just say the word.

Of course, he acts like an a$$ around you because you took his side action away. Now, he doesn't feel like he can just call her at any time of the night to get his salad tossed.

You actually know all of this but you don't want to admit it to yourself. You know damn well she would leave your bed to go suck him off any time he called. THAT is why you're so pissed about the situation -- and while you know it, you can't admit it to yourself.