re: Are all women born to bitch???

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It wasn't about her being sore. She wanted you to complement her on her appearance and to say how proud you are about her getting on the treadmill. The key was to make sure that you phrase it in a way where it can't be construed to mean that you think she needed to lose weight. One way to do so would be to remark about your own needs to get in better shape and how much you'd enjoy taking some time to do some kind of exercise activity together.

She kept complaining because you weren't taking the hint. You failed her test. She finally shut up after you gave her the pain medicine because she realized you were never going to get the hint, you're too blind and self-centered to notice her any more, that you're clearly no longer attracted to her, you don't care, and therefore that you no longer love her. You need to make sure that you reverse that thought train ASAP by proving all of those negative thoughts wrong by your actions in the next couple days.

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damn. Pecker has taught you well.

It might not be so much about the relative ratio of bitching resources between men and women, although I see the point.

Something to consider: I think that there is a difference between complaining/bitching content between men and women, and that each side views the other side's complaints as unwarranted a lot of the time (hence, the term "bitching"). There are a lot of things that women complain about that men find unwarranted, and vice versa. What men might view as a valid complaint or comment, women might view as bitching. What women might view as a valid complaint or comment, men might view as bitching. This results in men saying that women bitch all the time and women pushing back on that by saying that everyone bitches.

This could also apply to differences in opinions between any two people, not just between the genders. I think if you look at two people with different careers for example, complaints will be different, and a perception of inequality of bitching will arise as well.

I guess my main point is: bitching is in the eye of the beholder.

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My ex has the problem of starting more projects than she has time to finish, and leaving everything as a mess until she finishes. When she does finish a project, the work is absolutely extraordinary, but she never does anything quickly and often leaves dozens of projects half-finished for months or more at a time without touching them.

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i could take pics of this house (it's my mom's old house and we basically pay rent into a fund to pay for improvements as we go alone) to prove that i'm in the same boat. i actually did snap at one point a while back b/c the bathroom reno was taking so long and took away so much of my time when i said i could have kept playing poker and paid somebody to do this and have it done months ago

but just in general like weekend projects or day to day chores. my philosophy is to make a lit of what needs to be done, bust arse, get it done, and then that segment of my life/time is over and now it's another one (free time). it's a very effective and efficient system

she doesn't see it that way. if i get my stuff done early, then it's expected that i help finish her list. she sees things in terms of time and not accomplishments. this is literally the mindset that i fight against publicly and it drives me legit crazy sometimes (this also isn't a sex-specific issue but from what i've seen/read, it is a very common relationship dynamic)

it's like my work (i own my own business and structure it in a way that suits my wants and desires). i typically close official business at lunch on Fridays. this was originally started so i could get my ducks in a row b/c i'd be devoting a ton of time to poker friday afternoon/night and saturday day/night. i had to get my eating structure just right and finish any ancillary persona/work stuff to clear my mind. last friday she asked me when i was done and then was like "oh since you're not working, you can do x, y, and z around the house"

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so what did i do? i went back in after lunch and stayed in my office until past 5 and got ahead on some office organization stuff

just like the chores scenario. i'm not going to bust arse to be efficient and get my stuff done if i know that just means i have to do more work. that's irrational. what humans will do is just purposefully be less efficient as they go to even out the time. that's why hourly wages for professional work are stone age thinking

Yep. especially those on the OT.

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Behind every successful woman is that awkward, insecure tween she used to be. Most still sorta see themselves that way.

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Only if her parents fricked her up somehow. Same with guys, except we’re supposed to be the ones that keep it together.